Brief intro and question

[Must Not Sleep]

Hi everyone. Long time lurker, first time poster. I guess I'm here for the same reasons everyone else is(to become better with women and improve there life in general). The one thing I've seen mentioned on this site is the concept of inner game. I don't know what it is but I'm pretty sure I don't have it. I would like to know more and how to acquire it.

Well, where do I start? Virgin? Check. Overweight? Check. Poor Job? Yep.
I'm working hard on the overweight thing right now(diet & exercise). I understand that there is more to life than getting laid but when you hear all of your friends talk about it all the time, you start to obsess and wonder what the fuss is about. I don't want to be the real life version of the 40yo virgin, so its something I'd like to take care of now. I also have pics so you guys will know what you're working with so just ask.

 

[Must Not Sleep]

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[TheDoctor]

Looks like no one is giving you any advice so I'll give it a shot. I'll need to break out my game skills again as I have just recently gotten out of a LTR, so, most of the advice I'll give you will be advice that I will take as well.

Inner Game is basically just a change in mindset that allows you to fully utilize all your assets and tools to achieve the goal you wish to attain, be it a new job, a new girl, a hot one night stand, etc, etc. Inner Game deals with self worth, self acceptance and self confidence. Others can advise you on this better than I.

In the mean time do this:

1. Read the DJ Bible
2. Keep working out, keep eating right. Lose the weight, get a better, healthier body and inprove your self image and confidence. This will take you further than anything you can read. That feeling of confidence that only comes from loving yourself will take your game to new levels. Show us a pic, or PM me one if your shy or want to remain anonymous.
3. Seek a new job. A satisfying job that you enjoy.
4. Read the DJ Bible again.

Now, MNS, I'm sure you are fully aware that you get out of life what you put into it so........take that knowledge and let it motivate you to get in the gym every day. Let it motivate you to fuel your body with high grade fuel, not low grade fast food and junk food. It's not a diet or a short term schedule, it's a new way of life. Exercise, eat right, look good, and feel good about yourself.

Once you have the basic priciples taught in the DJ Bible and the new found confidence from within, your game will impove 10 fold.

Practice Practice Practice is the only thing left. Pretty soon you'll go from talking to a hottie to "practice" your approaches and your conversation skills to talking to a hottie to get her back to your place to satisfy your needs.

Stick around. Use the search tool to find threads about particular things your interested or curious about and read up but never mistake sitting on SS doing research as a substitute for getting out there in the real world and talking to chicks.

Good Luck

 

[nabster]

Hows it goin? Just thought I'd throw in my 2 cents: Stop wacking off!
Probably one of the easiest ways to get better with women. Just stop lookin at porn and try not to be alone too much. Hope that helps

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Hi everyone. Long time lurker, first time poster. I guess I'm here for the same reasons everyone else is(to become better with women and improve there life in general). The one thing I've seen mentioned on this site is the concept of inner game. I don't know what it is but I'm pretty sure I don't have it. I would like to know more and how to acquire it.

Well, where do I start? Virgin? Check. Overweight? Check. Poor Job? Yep.
I'm working hard on the overweight thing right now(diet & exercise). I understand that there is more to life than getting laid but when you hear all of your friends talk about it all the time, you start to obsess and wonder what the fuss is about. I don't want to be the real life version of the 40yo virgin, so its something I'd like to take care of now. I also have pics so you guys will know what you're working with so just ask.

Well, right now you are the 27 year old version of the 40 year old virgin.

Get a gym membership, and if possible, hire a trainer, temporarily to get you going in the right direction.

Make a list of everything you want to change/improve and work from there.

Send me a private message, I can point you in the right direction with the fitness and inner game issues.

 

[Must Not Sleep]

Found the dj bible(don't know how I was missing it all this time). I'm having trouble sending pm's though. Is there a restriction for new members?

 

[Must Not Sleep]

The list of things I need to improve are:
1. Inner Game
2. Lose weight(I'm at 295 now, would like to lose 60 lbs by the end of October)
3. Become more outgoing
4. Improve my bass playing(more critical on this than I should be)
6. Be able to approach without fear
7. Get a new job.

Never figured the pm section out, but here's what you guys are working with:
http://www.flickr.com/mustnotsleep

I have a thick skin so don't be afraid to let the criticism fly and any advice on the weight loss is welcomed.