"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Bredren!! Fallen soldier seeking redemption.

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Greetings men.

I found this by way of searching the web on how to talk to women. I'm 30 years old and I have no game at all. Never had it. But that didn't stop me from finding a wife and getting married.

Well unfortunately my marriage lasted 6 years and just two months ago, after years of fighting and counseling, the marriage was called off for good.

Regardless, after a 6 year stint, I'm not ready for another relationship, but I do want to utilize my down time to my advantage. Which is, learning how to approach and talk to women with confidence. I figured, what do I have to loose. I will say that during my time being married, I have let myself go (5'11, 230lbs) and my wardrobe could use some updating (jeans, collard shirt... glasses :D) so there some changes in store.

On my own though, I've been working on things like making eye contact, and saying "hi" to a woman. I've engaged in small talk but due to my lack of knowledge coupled with experience on talking with women and engaging in conversations, they normally just end awkwardly and I start again from scratch.

My aim here is to not only improve my confidence, but to establish a rapport with women and hopefully, find the one that was really the one and never let her go. Sounds cheesy, but that is my ultimate goal.


So hope I'm accepted here because even though I realize that I will be doing all the heavy lifting, I will be in need your help and support.


Ok. That's enough for post number one today.

Time to get some sleep and really start the first day of the rest of my life.

See you guys around.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Greasy Pig

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Baby steps, OP. First thing you must do is read the DJ Bible, anything by Pook and Rollo's "Iron Rules".
The second thing you must do is read them again.

You'll find most people here happy to help you on your journey but try to avoid asking questions which can be answered by any if the above literature.

Welcome!
 

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Self improvement starts now and never stops! This is the foundation upon which everything else is built. Welcome :up:
 

Rollo Tomassi

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OP, put an age on your profile. Read the Mature Man forum rules.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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