Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Breakup Via TEXT!?

Tenzen

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So today is the day my gf of 1 year broke up with me via a text message. How funny is that? To think only afc's would try breaking up with a gf without even having to face her. In this case my GF did it to me.... lol. this relationship had its ups n downs but i was always living on the edge of things, like everyday was my last with this girl. Now it has finally arrived in a manner i totally did not expect. She felt our relationship was empty and that she wasn't giving her 100% to it but she felt that i was giving my 100% to it. Which is also a little bit funny. I didnt obsess over her or anything i played it cool always kept many feelings to myself to an extent, which i'm glad that i did that now because it hurts a whole lot less. Back when i joined this forum i felt hurt when a girl denied me that wasn't even my girlfriend. Its like i have this solid wall in front of me or something because i don't feel bad or hurt or running back to her for anything. Its like i'm glad this happen? but if i wanted this to happen i would of ended it myself? The sex was great and i was having it like 3-5 times a week with her. I feel as though she broke up with me because she thought i was giving too much effort (which i wasn't she at least thinks so) or that she felt the spark died between us by feeling empty. This is the first time i got dumped via text message just letting you guys know how it must feel. Right now i'm feeling great... but i just got dumped? weird...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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COD

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What A Loser...........she Is

well if your relationship was like just sex and no actual dating.........then that advocates a TEXT BREAK.

But, if you were GF/BF and the duration was more than a few months.......than she was a little immature.

TODAYS YOUTH-ya the problem with the youth (I blame advertising on the various media) is texting is vastly replacing verbal communications.

Not too long ago...........the fad was "SHE BROKE UP WITH ME EMAIL".......now its texting.

Avoiding confrontation is par for the course with a ton of females now-a-days and for that matter I suspect always has been.

Heck we scope out fresh females via a few clicks of a mouse, we build rapport with IM's, emails, TEXTS, so kinda stands to reason why NOT just hit send on our phones.


OK SO NOW WHAT TO DO............dont get all up in her grill and start calling her on the phone, leaving nasty messages on her voicemail or even text back with stuff along the lines of "YOUR LOSS, WHO CARES< ABOUT TIME, THANK YOU"...........that just re-enforces why she broke up with you.

Dude the relationship ran its course, the attraction was gone and now the axe fell.......sux I know. But right there that just shows you how certain chics avoid any confrontation and treat men like a kleenex......once she done with you.......you are disposed of.

WHAT DO I DO NEXT TIME-be the first to NEXT HER.........IN PERSON OR ON VOICEMAIL. Inform her from the getgo.........if we desire to see other people, just break up gently but do it in person.......we are civilized, dont get caught up in the TEXT PITFALLS.

I took this crappy job once and had to spew some BS about committment to get them to hire me.......a few days later a cooler job called me......so as hard it was for me to just not show up.......I told my manager.......found a better job and friday was my last day.

PRIOR TO THAT.........I got a written reference as to how I was doing.......THEN I QUIT.
 

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You're still the pimp that actually had a pretty hot chick for a year.

You're doing better than millions out there. Now, you're free to move upward for better girls.
 

Tenzen

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ya you guys r right. It wasn't just sex it was a great relationship lil arguments, tons of fun, normal relationship kinda deal. How is this text break affect my image though to her friends and mine? should i tell everyone that she broke up with me through a text? or just not care and move on? Hey dirtysouth, o yes she was hoottt, My standards are abnormally high sometimes so i only settle for something quality. Your right its time to move upward to other girls. Another thing is that saying that the prettier a woman is chances r shes very insecure but very good at acting.
 
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