The procedure in which a person ends a relationship reveals a great deal about the content of their character. History has shown us that the depth at which you were involved is directly proportionate to how passionate the breakup will be. Obviously variables include the lust factor and the time duration. How you handle the rejection will determine your longevity success in dating. The proper course of action would be to be the first to call it quits, as being dumped tends to wreck havoc with our hearts. You want to strive to be a heartbreaker rather than to suffer from a broken heart. Being the first to breakup often gives you the power. If you ever been dumped you know exactly what I am mean. J. Geils wrote a song called “love stinks” and it truly is a depiction of a bitter/jaded man. Take a look at the movie “the wedding singer” if you need more detail. Try to avoid being one of those people who sound bitter/jaded and tend to talk about the ex whenever they feel the need. Lets take an inside look at some of the ways people handle rejection.
1) WHO CARES-these people tend to be loaners, remain silent and recover quite quickly by dating someone new. Commitment is not in their vocabulary; they tend to avoid confrontation at all costs. Psychology teaches us that, running to the next person will end up biting us in the butt down the road. They might breakup via text, email, phone call.
2) I WANT CLOSURE-these people assume it’s their fault and tend to seek answers that contributed to the breakup. Why are we breaking up, what did I do wrong, is there another man, etc. They want to remedy a solution to avoid being jaded in the future.
3) WUSS-they cry, make attempts to gain the person back by writing heart felt letters/emails, send flowers, gifts, etc. They philosophy here is guilt them back into their lives. If only I can show them they are making a huge mistake.
4) HOSTILE-these types tend to express their rage and pretend they don’t give a rat’s ass but in reality they do. They get verbally abusive and try to berate the other person to justify their feelings. Expression of anger is not the best course of action.
PSYCHO-now these types take being dumped VERY PERSONAL. They have the mindset of if I can’t have you no one can. Jealousy is a very powerful emotion. They automatically assume you are cheating on them, there must be another person. Behavior like this almost always leads to behavioral problems: stalking, verbal abuse,violence, etc.
1) WHO CARES-these people tend to be loaners, remain silent and recover quite quickly by dating someone new. Commitment is not in their vocabulary; they tend to avoid confrontation at all costs. Psychology teaches us that, running to the next person will end up biting us in the butt down the road. They might breakup via text, email, phone call.
2) I WANT CLOSURE-these people assume it’s their fault and tend to seek answers that contributed to the breakup. Why are we breaking up, what did I do wrong, is there another man, etc. They want to remedy a solution to avoid being jaded in the future.
3) WUSS-they cry, make attempts to gain the person back by writing heart felt letters/emails, send flowers, gifts, etc. They philosophy here is guilt them back into their lives. If only I can show them they are making a huge mistake.
4) HOSTILE-these types tend to express their rage and pretend they don’t give a rat’s ass but in reality they do. They get verbally abusive and try to berate the other person to justify their feelings. Expression of anger is not the best course of action.
PSYCHO-now these types take being dumped VERY PERSONAL. They have the mindset of if I can’t have you no one can. Jealousy is a very powerful emotion. They automatically assume you are cheating on them, there must be another person. Behavior like this almost always leads to behavioral problems: stalking, verbal abuse,violence, etc.