Breakup advice needed please...old DJ here

[keyforit]

Ive been out of the game for a very long time, may this year i was with a woman for 1 1/2 years and i found out she was cheating on me, after going through a period where i thought i couldnt get back on my feet i began to go out and i met and slept with some of the hottest women i ever had. Well come July i went on a vacation to a island and i met this beautiful woman who was also a dentist, we kicked it off in paradise and had a rendezvous back in miami when i got back. Reason im telling u this is so u can get a little background info on this chick. 4 months later we're doing the long distance thing seeing each other atleast once a month and she breaks up with me. now it wasn't a normal break up, this is what happened...

she always insisted she was going to move up to live with me come the end of this year, but as of early november she started to get cold feet. I told her it was normal and that she should come up to Virginia for thanksgiving and spend 5 days together, she agreed and so we bought out tickets. We were suppose to meet up in atlanta airport and then fly out to dulles on wednesday. We even had seating together. Well Tuesday she drops me a call and tells me shes sorry but she cant break her dads heart and she can't come up and move over here, so she sold me out and i had a horrible thanksgiving trip just thinking about how much i realy cared about this girl. What's the advice u guys can give me on this? I'm so confused because it was her dad and not her that made this decision. She didn't want to leave her family and i can't blame her but man this is pretty much the end. So i deleted her number and ****ed a girl last night. I don't feel any better, i think i feel worse. What do i do? Thanks in advance.

 

[true romance]

Sorry to hear that..but I think she already made her decision. She chose her family over you, there is nothing you can do. It's her lost and you should move on. She is an adult and she can make her own decision.

Just a note: 4 months is still early to move in together. did you put any pressure on her? You have to give up all your friends and family, job to move to another place is a Big decision. Maybe give her some more time.
Just play it cool, respect her decision and wish her good luck and she may come around .....You never know in life..down the road you might meet her again...

 

[Fontaine]

It's tough, but move on.
If she's a dentist, then she's obviously somewhat responsible, so moving in with a guy in a different geography after only four months was probably a stretch from the time the discussion came up.

Again, it's tough, it sucks, but it sounds like you've got game. Take full advantage of it. A lot of guys would kill for that.

 

[keyforit]

good suff

very good responses guys and your both probably 100% right. I dont think i pressured her but I did bring it up a little more than usual past couple weeks. And yeah I do have game but I'm kind of tired of the whole cat and mouse thing, it felt good having someone I could relate with. I doubt she will come back she said she loved me but she couldnt break her dads heart, im sure her love for her dad is great and there was nothing i could do from the beginning. Sad story but I can't be mad, i guess I just have to suck it up and realize it wasn't meant to be. Hopefully she realizes she's a grown ass woman and needs to make her own decisions, or maybe she won't. Either way im going to order like 6 self help books and just **** as many girls as i can until the thought of her ****ing me over goes away.

It just sucks cause u think u know someone and they turn around do a 180 and ur back where u started. ****ing wasted 4 months of my time. Any other inputs feel free to post. peace