"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Breakthrough: Experimented with direct game

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And I couldn't believe my dating success doubled.

Are women more aware to "negs" and ****y/funny now?

I used to only tease, give backhanded compliments to achieve any luck with women. As of this past weekend I decided to just be direct but not needy/desperate.

First tried this on dating sites. Just flat out gave a physical (what might be considered generic) compliment followed by a general question, and I've had more number exchanges than ever. Even women I've previously messaged who flat out told me they weren't interested.

Another benefit, is I feel less pressure to keep up my wit or playfulness, I can easily be more aloof. Less work it's seeming like.

So what gives? Was I just better at being direct and only now realized it or could women be more sensitive to the routines guys use since the info is pretty much available with a quick Google search
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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routines are like sales pitches.

the only really work when the buyer is already sold on the product

you will impress a woman more by being direct, which shows you are decisive, in control then by beating around the bush.

When I was single and i was still approaching chicks, I noted that about.. at least half, of my pick ups would start off with her saying no or not saying "yes" right off the bat. Even if she showed interest in me. it's just a default reaction almost. My wife, even though she was eyeing me to the point where I approached her, told me no.

When you are direct, you get the no out of the way and then "game" starts. When you are lollygagging around and pretending to be ****y / funny and all that ****, you are making the "no" the entire showdown.

tell me no, but at the same time be impressed that i went after what i wanted, and that i am decisive. if she is attracted to you at all these are traits she's going to admire. Then tell if it's a hard no or a soft no. sometimes no really means no. sometimes it means I don't know, maybe. But you got to get to the no first to figure all that out and then work off that.
 

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More than anything else, women want to be desired. The direct approach and (if you're online) a compliment about her desirability as a woman expresses that.

No magic required.
 

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Tictac said:
More than anything else, women want to be desired. The direct approach and (if you're online) a compliment about her desirability as a woman expresses that.

No magic required.
Which makes sense but most threads on here are about how to do the opposite with negs etc.

I used to act the way I'm going about it now way before I discovered this forum and community. I remember it worked well but abandoned it because everyone said to use other techniques.

Though I'm not dismissing them, I believe they help a guy give up the needy/desperate undertone when going direct. I'm well aware of that now. I can see how being direct can come off creepy.
 

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
Game(c/F, aloofness, neg, etc) is most important for the hottest women, especially women out of your league. If you are close to the same SMV as the girl then direct is fine.
Well as I said, women who earlier blatantly said they weren't interested were more willing to exchange numbers this time when I was more direct. These women are pretty good looking.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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