"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Breaking up with really clingy women?

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HELP! I've had this thorn in my side that either loves me or tells me what a pathetic jerk I am, complete with crying. She's clingy, to put it politely. It's like a cancer I just can't get rid of: She's calling me in the middle of the night, and gets pissed when I can't stay on the phone and she's even getting her friends to call me.

How should I deal with a woman like that? She's probably bipolar, and I'm sure depressed. I don't want to deal with this drama, I don't want to be pulled into her negativity, but the more I resist, the harder she pulls. If anyone has any experience with crazy women, please help me out.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Time to bail, the sooner the better.

I was in a similar situation a few years ago, and I let it drag on a good six months longer than it should have, only because I hated the break-up process so much that it was hard to initiate it. But once it was over I felt like a huge weight had been lifted off me, I was a new man. It will not get any better, trust me. Free yourself.
 
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Quietly put on some trainers and slip out of the door. Then run. Run. Away. Now. As fast and as far as you can.

Don't be afraid to be blunt bordering on aggressive (not physically, obviously) in getting a girl like this to leave you alone. Sometimes its the only way.
 
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Kidquick said:
Time to bail, the sooner the better.

I was in a similar situation a few years ago, and I let it drag on a good six months longer than it should have, only because I hated the break-up process so much that it was hard to initiate it. But once it was over I felt like a huge weight had been lifted off me, I was a new man. It will not get any better, trust me. Free yourself.
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Yep, this is true. I had the same thing happen to me with my last girlfriend, she was super super super clingy and way more into me than I was into her. She was bawling all over me when I told her it was over, and then literally clung to me and begged and pleaded with me not to go. Finally when I got away I remember looking in my rear view mirror as I drove off half expecting her to throw herself off the balcony from her front door (she lived 3 stories up).

It really sucked leading up to it and it was hard to do, and I did the same thing, put it off for easily 6+ months which in hindsight is all wasted time. Now that I've been free for a while though it feels great, I haven't looked back for even a second.

Moral of the story: stop wasting precious time and end it!
 
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Tell her straight up. Be a man about it. Dont leave anything back. Tell her exactly what your thinking and feeling and I guarantee she will respect that. Your human just as she is. If she cries or *****es about it, cut her off...its not rocket science...if she doesnt care about your feelings then you shouldnt give two f7cks about hers
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Atleast you didn't knock her up look at the bright side. Tell her friends to mind their business, and tell her it's officially over. Now all you have to do is not show up where she usually is at or her friends for awhile let it blow over. Do not answer anyones phone calls reguarding this matter.
 
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o.g. said:
HELP! I've had this thorn in my side that either loves me or tells me what a pathetic jerk I am, complete with crying. She's clingy, to put it politely. It's like a cancer I just can't get rid of: She's calling me in the middle of the night, and gets pissed when I can't stay on the phone and she's even getting her friends to call me.

How should I deal with a woman like that? She's probably bipolar, and I'm sure depressed. I don't want to deal with this drama, I don't want to be pulled into her negativity, but the more I resist, the harder she pulls. If anyone has any experience with crazy women, please help me out.
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Story of my life, right here.

I attract these women like a magnet, and I have no idea why.

I've found that the only way to get rid of them for good is total cessation of contact. Don't return her calls, texts, e-mails, etc. Change your number if you have to.

Give her even the smallest thread to hold onto, and she'll cling to it like her live depends on it.
 
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