"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Breaking up...saying she's not good enough?

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I don't know if this is some sort of game that this girl plays or what. But it REALLY surprised me. Here's what happened.

Well this morning, we talked and everything was perfectly fine. Tonight, I get a text message saying that "we need to talk". I know I did something wrong here because I've never been in this situation before. She said something along the lines of "Im screwed up. My whole family is screwed up. I don't deserve to be with you." This is all COMPLETELY out of the blue. I was at a loss of words of what to say at this point. This girl is best friends with one of the what I would call a female dj, and I've been thinking that this might be one of the ways they break up. This whole week and even this afternoon she was perfectly fine. I tried persuading her out of it but I'm not too sure how its going to work. It hasn't so far. I tried to ask her about the sudden change and she just ignores it.

Anybody have ANY idea what the hell is going on? Immediate help would be great, thanks.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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This is pretty similar to how my LTR ended two weeks ago. Except that we got into a pretty big argument beforehand, and i drove off on her. You don't really need "immediate help," bro. What you do need is to realize that your gf is RIGHT, and she ISN'T good enough for you (if only because she'd even CONSIDER breaking up with you). Move the fvck on to better, more normal girls :)
 
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Haha, that's what I'm thinking. I'm not depressed or anything, but I've been friends with her for awhile. I don't want it to just end like this. It's really not the way I want it to happen. If we do get back together, okay, thats fine. If not, oh well too bad for her. But I still want to be friends with her.
 
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Don't be stubborn :) It doesn't really matter whether or not you want this to happen right now or not. If she wants out, then there are only 3 options: 1) you break up right now 2) you break up later or 3) you get cheated on. Unfortunately, "4) you live happily ever after," is no longer an option. Now you know why i advised you to run for the hills :)
 
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Here's a list of what NOT to do if your girlfriend is
breaking up with you.


1) Do NOT fight with her. Fighting ALWAYS creates
tension and kills attraction. Fighting with a woman is useless.
Even if you win the argument, you will still lose the war.

2) Do NOT try to use logic to show her why she should
come back to you. Love is based on FEELINGS, not logic. No
matter how brilliant your logic is, she's still going to leave
you.

3) Do NOT reassure your ex that you have "changed" so
things will be "different from now on". It's like trying to
bail water out of a sinking boat. It won't work. The hole is
still there and your words are not going to mend it.

4) Do NOT keep telling her you love her. She won't
care. All a woman cares about is how much SHE loves YOU...not
the other way around!)

5) Do NOT beg her to come back. The more you beg, the
more she will ignore you.

6) Do NOT try to make her feel guilty about leaving you.
(Examples: "I can't work without you." and "Don't break up
with me during exam period...") It won't work. It will only
make her DREAD being with you even more.

7) Do not act depressed so they will feel bad for you.
Sympathy does NOT equal ATTRACTION!

8) Do NOT talk to her friends to win their support. All
she cares is how SHE fees about you. Even if her friends love you,
they can't make her love you forever. External pressure never
lasts longer. If your girl decides to stay with you, her motivation
has to come from WITHIN.

9) Do NOT spend money on gifts and flowers for her. You
can't buy her heart back with money.

10) Do NOT push her into getting back with you. The more
you push, the more she will PULL AWAY.

These are the most common mistakes guys make during a
breakup. Trust me, you don't want to do ANY of these things.
If you do, I can guarantee you your relationship will be doomed.
You probably won't even get a chance to kiss your girlfriend
goodbye, let alone get her back.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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MacDiddy said:
Well tough ****...

have you have the balls to just let go??
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Well actually yeah I do.

I just still want to keep contact though. I've read somewhere on here about how to keep contact with everyone you know, even if they were your GF. I forgot where that thread was though.
It's really hard to explain this because you guys don't know my exact situation. Thanks for that link donpepot, even though I've read it. I'll read through it again since it now actually applies to me.
 
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Kommon said:
Well actually yeah I do.

I just still want to keep contact though. I've read somewhere on here about how to keep contact with everyone you know, even if they were your GF. I forgot where that thread was though.
It's really hard to explain this because you guys don't know my exact situation. Thanks for that link donpepot, even though I've read it. I'll read through it again since it now actually applies to me.
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That's cool, there's nothing wrong with having ex-girlfriends as friends or fvck buddies AS LONG as you remember that they ARE your EX-girlfriends (FOR A REASON)! :)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Surely, "I'm not good enough" is woman code for "you're not good enough"

Woman are cowards, you will never hear an honest opinion when it could affect them negatively.

You have to ask yourself why would anyone break up with someone thats out of their league? surely, women especially would grasp that kinda man with both hands and never let go.
 
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MacDiddy said:
Ask yourself why you want to keep contact... WHY!!!!

Every guy that breaks up knows your situation!!
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Agreed. When it's over, it's over. You need a clean break to move on. You only want to keep contact with her because you can't let go.
 
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jesus christ this guy has no idea..you really new in this site arent you?

do you want to push her further?..contact her and be her doormat...

read the tread i gave to you!
 
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'You're too good for me' is number two in the Big Girls Book Of Dumping right after 'It's not you, it's me.'

It also suggests you made some nice guy mistakes, or she finds dangerous men more attractive. Move on.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I don't even know how old is she or you...and how long you guys have been together (and known each other)...so, how can you expect ANY advice with so little details?
 
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HER: You're too good for me
YOU: Yeah, I am... and i've been considering finding someone new for a while now.

ha.
 
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Either she has some mind issues or she is into someone else. Either case make like the Iron Maiden song "Run to the Hills". It almost sounds like she cheated on you with that "I'm not worthy of you cause I don't measure up" shpeal
 
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she cheated on you and thats her way of saying it to you.
she feels guilty but not sorry.
"you are too good for me" means that she fooled around and her conscience is dirty.
 
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you're gone...and you dont even know it
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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