Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I've tried so hard to stay in a relationship... I've tried so fukcing hard. I can't do it. My morals are unchanging, and I always try to be a LTR person so I won't sleep around, because when I do, I go wild or find myself in another LTR with someone I don't want to stay with.

I've been with this girl for like 7 months, and she's completely loyal, she's a smoking hot bartender (i literally have to beat dumba$$es off), and she has really good morals. She's just too damn bossy and can really be a bytch sometimes. It seems like we have 20% great times, and fight 80% of the rest. When she's toned down and sweet though, she's amazing. It's the south FL attitude that makes me want to flip out.

I don't tolerate behavior like that, and I fear my own unwillingness to change and arrogance will lead me to a pretty unhappy life. I've noticed myself looking at more women again and drooling over tits and ass; also I've been considering my options once I'm single again, and that's something I've been able to hold off on.

Since last night everything is pretty much broken off. She just called me and wants to talk things over at dinner. I know if I go out with her, I might not be able to resist her. She's calling me waiting for my answer.

What should I do? And what's the right thing to do?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Just play it like a girl would. Let her pay for dinner, she'll probably want to make things up i'm guessing.
Use her for sex until you can find another girl.
At that point, you bring up a reason to start a fight and tell her you've had enough and move on to the girl you've found.

It's called the Tarzan vine jumping technique.
Don't let go of your vine until you see another one within grasp.

I don't give a sh1t what the RIGHT thing to do is. :)
 

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i'd just dump her. Good looks aren't an excuse to be a b1tch
 

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Play the Game said:
Just play it like a girl would. Let her pay for dinner, she'll probably want to make things up i'm guessing.
Use her for sex until you can find another girl.
At that point, you bring up a reason to start a fight and tell her you've had enough and move on to the girl you've found.

It's called the Tarzan vine jumping technique.
Don't let go of your vine until you see another one within grasp.

I don't give a sh1t what the RIGHT thing to do is. :)
Play the Game, your advice is spot on most of the time. This sh*t is just disgusting, however.

Playing it like a girl is exactly NOT what to do, since we all know how devious, evil, back-stabbing and fickle girls can be. Why would you want to act like them?

Turning down some action in favour of your self-respect is much better for you in the long run, trust me. Don't use her. It WILL get back to you through friends, etc. and people will find out you were just using her until the next girl came along. Poor form, if only for your reputation.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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80% bad to 20% good?

Move on bro.

Plenty of fish in the sea.

JJ
 

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This is going to take longer than I thought to fully break it off. I jsut fawked up bad. We just slept together after a break up. I threw that word out. Stupid stupid stupid. She just taunts the shyt out of me and expects me to not try to persue.

I'm going to slowly try again without going in the wrong direction so it won't look like I slept with her just to do it and run.

... btw thx Rambo, I that's what I had in the back of my head. I'll try not to let myself down this run (of hopefully no more than a week).
 

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lebRambo said:
Play the Game, your advice is spot on most of the time. This sh*t is just disgusting, however.

Playing it like a girl is exactly NOT what to do, since we all know how devious, evil, back-stabbing and fickle girls can be. Why would you want to act like them?

Turning down some action in favour of your self-respect is much better for you in the long run, trust me. Don't use her. It WILL get back to you through friends, etc. and people will find out you were just using her until the next girl came along. Poor form, if only for your reputation.
Dude, i am evil. Can't you tell... I'm a wolf in sheep's clothing. ;)

To each his own i guess. Depends how much you care what other people think of you. Remember, people talk sh1t about everyone.
I'd rather lie and deceive and get some ass then jerk off by myself but feel that i have honor.
Some of my friends see it your way, but they're more religious than me.
 

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Sexual said:
This is going to take longer than I thought to fully break it off. I jsut fawked up bad. We just slept together after a break up. I threw that word out. Stupid stupid stupid. She just taunts the shyt out of me and expects me to not try to persue.

I'm going to slowly try again without going in the wrong direction so it won't look like I slept with her just to do it and run.

... btw thx Rambo, I that's what I had in the back of my head. I'll try not to let myself down this run (of hopefully no more than a week).

DON'T engage her you're only supposed to use her for sex!!
Newbie mistake: getting emotionally attached. Be strong and independent. Go out and look for some new ass right now.

I'm puzzled...you seem to understand what she is doing to but you won't fight back.

Are you gonna bark all day little dogie or are you gonna bite?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Well the answer sounds clear to me, your unhappy and don't want to change and it's obvious your bored in the relationship they way i see it you have 3 options. A) use her for sex until your hearts content then drop her like a hot potato. B) **** other women while still dating her although i'm not so much in favor of this one, or C) drop her ass and live the single life. It all comes down to what you really want. Unless some miracoulous change comes about your feelings aren't gonna change of wanting to get out of a ltr, and once the sex dies down then things are gonna be far worse for you and she may get more attached.
 

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I had the same thing happen.

In order to break up with her, break up with her and then try to cut all contact with her. She will cry a lot, but don't think about going back. It will suck for a while, but it is in your best interest.

I am now much happier

comic_relief
 

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Yeah, that's what I should do comic_relief. I just hope I won't be a **** about it like I usually do.

Play_The_Game I'm not hating man, but you don't have to post anymore. It'll just waste your time man. I know everything you're saying and I won't hate on your ego cause it's a good tool for a lot of guys, but my game works for me and my moral beliefs as well as religion do to. Only thing I will say is go to the high school forum with all that shyt, cause calling grown ass men that actually get laid "little doggies" sounds like stupidity more than intelligence. I really hope you're not that bored- I'd go make use of that game you broadcast around the boards.
 

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"She's just too damn bossy and can really be a bytch sometimes. It seems like we have 20% great times, and fight 80% of the rest."
" I don't tolerate behavior like that,"

Clearly you have. For 9 months.

"We just slept together after a break up."
Zero credibility, I doubt she'd be bothered if you left her now. Leave her alone.
 

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"Now would you let a female act b!itchy just because she gets you to bust a nut once in a while?" Damn right I would. Doesn't mean I roll over or take it.

Btw, she's gone. Damn there are some big talkers on these boards now! Hey, good for you guys. I just hope you're getting more accomplished in your life than you are with your ""bytches aint shyt" "wuz wrong wid u pouysie" advice.

Thanks again for those guys that inspired me with realistic shyt rather than with their hatred from their first true love workin up the football team.

Btw!!! I just went through pseudo-deescalation... let that one sink into your skulls as official CRAP. These colleges force this sociology down your throat when all the seats in other classes are filled... fawwwwwwk dude.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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