"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Breaking the Ice

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So I've been going to the gym (getting jacked of course:D) and noticed this hot girl is on the same schedule as me. I find her always looking at me so I want to go and talk to her. Thing is, she always wears headphones while working out and my friend thought it's weird to "spit game at the gym".

What should I do to break the ice, because she's definitely interested in me?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Real Talk

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TheTruth18 said:
So I've been going to the gym (getting jacked of course:D) and noticed this hot girl is on the same schedule as me. I find her always looking at me so I want to go and talk to her. Thing is, she always wears headphones while working out and my friend thought it's weird to "spit game at the gym".

What should I do to break the ice, because she's definitely interested in me?
If she definately notices you around, just go over and she's between machines. Tell her that she's the only person at the gym you've noticed is there whenever you are there and you wanted to say whats up.

Ask her about her workouts (Her fitness goals, if she's always worked out so often, etc.), then work you way to the job she has during the day and eventually what she likes to do on the weekends. Then just set up one of those "Well i always do so-and-so on weekends, you should come with this week" lines, (probably something physical since you already know she's into that stuff). # close and go back to your workout. Make it seem like your time is valuable and you want to continue your workout, but throw in some charm and casual convo here and there

Badaboom :up:
 

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This is extremely difficult. The gym has two problems. 1) Girls don't want to be bothered 2) You don't know if she's there with a boyfriend or has a boyfriend or other variables.

A lot of guys have mastered the gym scene. But for me, I always got the girls outside of the gym, that I have seen at the gym. Catch my drift? If I see a girl out, I say "Hey, you go to my gym up at ______ right? I see you all the time, what's your name?"

But as far as in the gym, try to smile and say hi. Little at a time, next time, talk to her, next time work out next to her, next time ask her etc.

The one thing you don't want is the reputation of the "guy that hits on every girl at this gym".
 

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Hey, thanks for the advice. Good stuff to think about, will definitely try the suggestions.
 

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Falcon25 said:
This is extremely difficult. The gym has two problems. 1) Girls don't want to be bothered 2) You don't know if she's there with a boyfriend or has a boyfriend or other variables.

Other variable obstacles include iPods, Muscular Personal Trainers, and the attention wh0re shield (Toe touchers, stretching, treadmill juggies bouncing, anyone?) There's even a show about this sh*t in Fit TV, I think!

A lot of guys have mastered the gym scene. But for me, I always got the girls outside of the gym, that I have seen at the gym. Catch my drift? If I see a girl out, I say "Hey, you go to my gym up at ______ right? I see you all the time, what's your name?"

The musclemen did. Extra points if they got a handsome face to go with it. Triple word score if this guy is seen getting in a Benz! But getting these girls outside the gym, that's a damn good idea!

But as far as in the gym, try to smile and say hi. Little at a time, next time, talk to her, next time work out next to her, next time ask her etc.

Slowly but surely. But slow and steady might not be enough to win this race. You still gotta get the # and set up a date. Strike while the iron's hot because she'll be back to her playlist quickly.

When you do, use alcohol because it equals sex. Add a bed, subtract the clothes, divide her legs, and multiply her hot desire!

Don't do dinner because it equals sleep, plus your hand minus 41 bucks, divided by another man, and multiplied by hurt feelings!


The one thing you don't want is the reputation of the "guy that hits on every girl at this gym".

Hell no! And who the f**k does!
Read betwe- That's my ruling.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Sounds like outside of the gym is the easiest way to go..although I have no idea who she is or where she lives so I guess I'll try inside the gym. Thanks again for all the replies, I appreciate it.
 
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