I've been on and off with this girl a couple times. It's been a month since we've talked I'd like to open paths of comunication again. I said some nasty things to her. I've gotten her back in the past. Just looking for ideas on how to break the ice to start talking terms again. I think Doing the same thing I did last time won't convince her things will be differnt. She contacted me last time its my turn now. I'm in the wrong. Don't need to hear negative posts about AFCs or reasons why i shouldn't or questions why i should. Please only post if your game is so tight that you have the ability to pull this off or better yet have pulled it off. Once shes willing to talk again I can take it from there. Thank You.
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ok sosilky, i cant prove how strong my game is, so u can consider me a nil game. my advice: if she feels soemthing for u, u have a chance. best game is no game at all, just go and do something surprising taht says u still want her but u still have the power. so just go for her like a MAN. and if she is already listed u out, theres hardly u can do anything to get her back.
as an example, i treated a girl very bad and i have the bad habit of getting my own way by any means. its the same for girls too. so, i do what i feel like and what i want to. and man, i treated this girl bad, but i never let myself down in front of her, my attitude was like "i am the way i am. u better accept me or fvck off but i wont put up with any b!tchy attitude of urs" it was an evil kind of push/pulling i did with her and stopped all contact with her. but she was attracted to me. and yesterday, i just called her and asked her to meet me. she was giving me some attitude but u know, i was the same. i didnt give that a damn and all the way, i behaved like nothing happened and in fact, kino flirted too and man, she was enjoying it but she was actually showing that she was not giving in. and i just laughed and joked and kind of just focussed on having a fun time without muddling the stupid past affairs. and then she went away and i went away and i always behaved like nothing happened and im alwys right. then i went home and i could see she was expecting more, so i gave her a text after a couple of hours like this, "her name, i dont know why but i think i still feel something for u. and whatever i may have done wrong to u perhaps, i m not at all sorry for taht since thats the way i am. u dont need to reply if u dont want to, just wanted to say so. by the way, the nite sky is really looking beautiful..."
and the next thing was she called me and like talked with me for about an hour and all the time, it was like she was subtly asking "why do u do like this?" but it was the same me and i wont let my power over to her, no domination, baby. i dont know if was following any technique over there, so no idea how strong my game is. just an example to help my dear playa' buddy...
as an example, i treated a girl very bad and i have the bad habit of getting my own way by any means. its the same for girls too. so, i do what i feel like and what i want to. and man, i treated this girl bad, but i never let myself down in front of her, my attitude was like "i am the way i am. u better accept me or fvck off but i wont put up with any b!tchy attitude of urs" it was an evil kind of push/pulling i did with her and stopped all contact with her. but she was attracted to me. and yesterday, i just called her and asked her to meet me. she was giving me some attitude but u know, i was the same. i didnt give that a damn and all the way, i behaved like nothing happened and in fact, kino flirted too and man, she was enjoying it but she was actually showing that she was not giving in. and i just laughed and joked and kind of just focussed on having a fun time without muddling the stupid past affairs. and then she went away and i went away and i always behaved like nothing happened and im alwys right. then i went home and i could see she was expecting more, so i gave her a text after a couple of hours like this, "her name, i dont know why but i think i still feel something for u. and whatever i may have done wrong to u perhaps, i m not at all sorry for taht since thats the way i am. u dont need to reply if u dont want to, just wanted to say so. by the way, the nite sky is really looking beautiful..."
and the next thing was she called me and like talked with me for about an hour and all the time, it was like she was subtly asking "why do u do like this?" but it was the same me and i wont let my power over to her, no domination, baby. i dont know if was following any technique over there, so no idea how strong my game is. just an example to help my dear playa' buddy...
schttrj said:ok sosilky, i cant prove how strong my game is, so u can consider me a nil game. my advice: if she feels soemthing for u, u have a chance. best game is no game at all, just go and do something surprising taht says u still want her but u still have the power. so just go for her like a MAN. and if she is already listed u out, theres hardly u can do anything to get her back.
as an example, i treated a girl very bad and i have the bad habit of getting my own way by any means. its the same for girls too. so, i do what i feel like and what i want to. and man, i treated this girl bad, but i never let myself down in front of her, my attitude was like "i am the way i am. u better accept me or fvck off but i wont put up with any b!tchy attitude of urs" it was an evil kind of push/pulling i did with her and stopped all contact with her. but she was attracted to me. and yesterday, i just called her and asked her to meet me. she was giving me some attitude but u know, i was the same. i didnt give that a damn and all the way, i behaved like nothing happened and in fact, kino flirted too and man, she was enjoying it but she was actually showing that she was not giving in. and i just laughed and joked and kind of just focussed on having a fun time without muddling the stupid past affairs. and then she went away and i went away and i always behaved like nothing happened and im alwys right. then i went home and i could see she was expecting more, so i gave her a text after a couple of hours like this, "her name, i dont know why but i think i still feel something for u. and whatever i may have done wrong to u perhaps, i m not at all sorry for taht since thats the way i am. u dont need to reply if u dont want to, just wanted to say so. by the way, the nite sky is really looking beautiful..."
and the next thing was she called me and like talked with me for about an hour and all the time, it was like she was subtly asking "why do u do like this?" but it was the same me and i wont let my power over to her, no domination, baby. i dont know if was following any technique over there, so no idea how strong my game is. just an example to help my dear playa' buddy...
Thanx for the post you handled that well. So your saying call her. She has felt that she will never talk to me gain in the past and we got back together. She has felt that she was not attracted to me anymore before and then after that came a time we had the best sex for a while ever and she was wild about me. So I feel like even if she has written me off its nothing to take seriously if my confidence is up enough. Then again I've continued to make the same mistakes and even said some really nasty things this time. But I think she has probably been through worse. I've seen other guys pull this off so many times too. Girls would swear up and down they would never go back to someone or what ever and they do. I've even seen guys keep calling and calling and pulled it off. A few of my friends have gotten the ex back. Maybe there is just a upper 1% that can do this. Anything else schttrj? anymore responses to the OP out there?
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well, my suggestion is to bait her by any way u know what would work, even a really naughty teasing comment or anything, it depends on the girl and the situation believe me, to get her out of her shell first of all. she can react bad, note that and really bad but dont let it affect u, if she still likes u, just remember to act like a MAN should and forcefully get her. ur in control if she is attracted to u. but if i had to start it all over again, two ways basically....
some girls wait for the chance to get back to u or give it back to u even if she is attracted to u... the "bait her" method in this case
and some others are way too inside their shells and even if they like u, they would not act on that... here, the "go get her" method in this case... means even catch her hand in front of others and take her where u want because she is ur girl. even she will feel uncomfortable at first, she will like this, trust me or u can curse me here in this forum creating a separate thread on this.... lol
i think i have been quite clear on this but please remember one thing, i am still just a person sitting across the oceans, so u r the best person to decide what to do, because i feel ur unconcious mind will lead u to the right path. its our social intuition, listen to it!
some girls wait for the chance to get back to u or give it back to u even if she is attracted to u... the "bait her" method in this case
and some others are way too inside their shells and even if they like u, they would not act on that... here, the "go get her" method in this case... means even catch her hand in front of others and take her where u want because she is ur girl. even she will feel uncomfortable at first, she will like this, trust me or u can curse me here in this forum creating a separate thread on this.... lol
i think i have been quite clear on this but please remember one thing, i am still just a person sitting across the oceans, so u r the best person to decide what to do, because i feel ur unconcious mind will lead u to the right path. its our social intuition, listen to it!
Yeah I hear ya guess its just that when we don't talk to eachother we don't ever see eachother either. And her initaial reaction was don't respond to any phone calls or emails blocked me on IM. But again shes done this before. then she cooled off after a while later. So just wondering what would be the best way to open comunications again. Something out of the ordinary possibly to . Not crazy psycho flowers or the normal phone call or text. any ideas would help to get my brain going. Also wonder if i should apologizze again or not even bring it up.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
hmmm.... so u want a specific way here. buddy, i cant say 100% guarantee it would work the way i wish it to but the simplest way, no phone calls or texts, since u r giving her the chance to play with u there because u would not be able to read her emotions there. so go to where she goes so that u come across her and then give her a strong eye contact and dont go up to her, just from a little distance, say, "come here, i need to say something to u... there was a guy who.... (here tell u two's story or what happened and what the guy feels at the moment adn what the guys feels the girl would do or the guy would love the girl to do, u get me here?)...." here it is a question of confidence. its like u telling her u hold the power silently and also that u would like to get back with her subtly... if she still fancies u, she may not accept u but u would make her thinking and then a little following up would make her come to u.... man, if u feel im being wrong anywhere or u would like to modify or change the style or prefer something else, let us know... i think apologising to a girl doesnt make her lose her attraction as long as u dont come as a loser and look needy or down....
You know what man your good. I like that approach too. With that strategy I guess the trick would be to find out where she was gonna be (Iknow she where she works probly not a good idea, know where she lives, not sure about that one either, especialy seeing how she doesn't have a doorbell I'd have to wait for her and I don't talk to any of her friends) run into her and try not to look like a stalker the whole time.....tricky but you've got the wheels turning.schttrj said:hmmm.... so u want a specific way here. buddy, i cant say 100% guarantee it would work the way i wish it to but the simplest way, no phone calls or texts, since u r giving her the chance to play with u there because u would not be able to read her emotions there. so go to where she goes so that u come across her and then give her a strong eye contact and dont go up to her, just from a little distance, say, "come here, i need to say something to u... there was a guy who.... (here tell u two's story or what happened and what the guy feels at the moment adn what the guys feels the girl would do or the guy would love the girl to do, u get me here?)...." here it is a question of confidence. its like u telling her u hold the power silently and also that u would like to get back with her subtly... if she still fancies u, she may not accept u but u would make her thinking and then a little following up would make her come to u.... man, if u feel im being wrong anywhere or u would like to modify or change the style or prefer something else, let us know... i think apologising to a girl doesnt make her lose her attraction as long as u dont come as a loser and look needy or down....