In situations where you do want to break NC and you are ready to do so (proper frame, etc) what are some subtle methods for doing so in such a way that you will end up in a position of strength?
In the past I've crafted compact messages that LJBF them (offering a chance for friendship but only that) and at the same time ask them for a favor that puts them in competition with another female, real or not, for example "also you are vegan, I was wondering if you know of any nice vegan restaurants in town that I could take a friend to."
This also generates the appearance that you are contacting to ask for a favor and the friendship offer is just a side effect.
This may seem like a blatantly obvious ploy but I think women are so wired to hate competition and abandonment that it may be far more effective than they would ever let on.
Thoughts?
I think the LJBF relationship can actually be quite an unpleasant situation for women as long as you can keep frame and indifference. Offering it yourself also dislocates their pursuit mentality and makes them feel somewhat snubbed...
In the past I've crafted compact messages that LJBF them (offering a chance for friendship but only that) and at the same time ask them for a favor that puts them in competition with another female, real or not, for example "also you are vegan, I was wondering if you know of any nice vegan restaurants in town that I could take a friend to."
This also generates the appearance that you are contacting to ask for a favor and the friendship offer is just a side effect.
This may seem like a blatantly obvious ploy but I think women are so wired to hate competition and abandonment that it may be far more effective than they would ever let on.
Thoughts?
I think the LJBF relationship can actually be quite an unpleasant situation for women as long as you can keep frame and indifference. Offering it yourself also dislocates their pursuit mentality and makes them feel somewhat snubbed...