"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Breaking into new social circles?

DragonBlood

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Ive done some cold approaches these past two weeks, some going better than others, but there is one kind that stays in my mind. The one where the girl has a boyfriend, gives her your number anyway "because your not like all the other guys" and you just chill and have an interesting conversation. Im aware a girl can give out a number just to get rid of you but not always, especially if your vibing and she genuinely unavailable.

My main objective here is to just hang out with these kind of girls, possibly become friends, invite to parties etc and just expand my social circles.

Any ideas on how to achieve this? It seems like a serious jump from the number to making them and their friends hang out?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Stort_Brød

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Two words... FRIEND ZONE!!!!

now the generic reply is over and done with look at it this way.
yeah sure she might invite you to parties and what not but who does she introduce you to her friends as? you guessed it " hey guys this is AFC he is a really nice guy" So that is generally going to equal bad news for you if you want to get to know some her female friends a bit better because what do girls do best? They TALK and talk and talk some more about anything and everything.

It is best to expand your social circle through male contacts bro. Be it some blokes down the gym that you could start training with, a sports team, someone at work / school... these are the ones you want. As you grow a good rapport with other men you become mates or bro's or whatever you want to call it and it is much easier to become part of the group and when at social events they will introduce you not as "AFC" but more like "hey this is my mate / bud / bro etc. Dragon Blood, he is a good bloke" and it is much easier to break off from the group and do your own thing and talk to more new people.
 

DragonBlood

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Hmmm interesting perspective SB, but I already have a lot of guy friends and they usually fight over what scraps come their way. I dont see why I want to compete for a stuck up HB6 or whatever in a room of guys regardless of how warm into introduction.

Im completely fine with the women who is seeing someone anyway friendzoning me. Thats kind of the point. I see your point on first impressions but its hard for me to believe a room full of women wouldnt find me attractive anyway with my shameless DJ attitude. Its not like I would be happy to sit around and talk and talk 'hoping' they will like me, I would definitely move, escalate afew or suggest something more fun. I also recall that having girls who think your cool is good for your social rapport.

My main question though is how to break into these circles in the first place when I have only meet the person once? Do I wait for an invite (as you suggest), text aimlessly, suggest a meet up? call? etc?
 
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