Breaking away from beta condition is hard!

[lexa]

So there is this hb who obviously just wants me to be her obiter, we would hang out, flirts and she even stayed with me in my hotel room during a work trip, I did make a move but no joy plus we were very drunk, during that night we took loads of normal pictures and she sends them to another guy she slept with a few days before! (for jealous plot and disrespected me I know)

Her mo is always when things get close, she would accuse me of something trivial and then have a go at me at flirting at her. we would then not speak for a while, then either i forgive her and reinitiate or she does with a small token of apologies and I forgive her.

Anyway, lately, I made a point of seeing other girls, or at least appeared to be doing so and intentionally avoid her a bit. She keep trying to talk to me, I keep avoiding and then she finally accuses me of saying something of which I didn't, and then saying I flirted and is disrespectful. This time I had enough so I just said let's cut contact and I basically blocked everything, after a few email letting her go easy.

But is hard! I know I should relish the fact I am free, but like a slave who just been free, I am a little lost.

There is always this part of me thinking I would be happy even with just being an beta obiter, and somehow it was my fault and is me being harsh and even that I know for a fact that she has a dozen guys like me in her pocket, I still hope some miracle with happen, damn this Hollywood movie conditioning we have since childhood!

Anyway, I am hoping I can find a project I can work on to get over this bump.

 

[narcissist]

You didn't sleep with her.

You made one move and she rejected you.

And its hard to move on?

You weren't even dating her. And she wasn't a plate that was being spun.

This should be like flicking a fly off your shoulder. Simple.

Brush it off. Move on. She's annoying anyways.

 

[Turuwal]

A woman who is not part of your social group or workplace should be used for one of three things.

1. Sex
2. Social proof
3. Favours

Anything else and you are being used.

A woman must know that you will only spend time on her when she is being useful for one of these things. A woman in category 1 must know that you will only talk to her while she is submitting to your escalations.

 

[El Payaso]

You didn't even fvck her...

 

[JoeMarron]

Congratulations, you took the road less traveled. It would have been easy to just forgive her again and continue to live off the crumbs of her affection. It would have been easier for you to continue orbiting her, jacking off to thoughts of her while other men get to pound her all sorts of ways. You took the hard way though, you decided to cut this attention wh0ring b!tch off and move on with your life. Sure it's gonna suck for a bit but ultimately you'll be able to look back at this situation, laugh and feel pride in your decision. Keep on making decisions like this, keep improving and keep talking to other women and eventually you'll be the one having women orbit around you.