Break up

[Pancho84]

Ok - Met this girl about 2 months ago - went out for over a month and we had to split up. There's a lot going on in her life(I have truly witnessed this so it's not bs..) and she's basically overwhelemed by everything that is going on. I'm talking serious stuff like surgeries, emotional stuff, bladibladibla
Anyway
so we broke up thrusday, obviously she wants to straighten out things as it was begining to affect our relationship and her school work(we are in college). she says she doesnt think she can handle a relationship right now. I am a bit bummed out and was just wondering what you guys think is the next step. She's very confused, she is very I dunno she feels lost you guys get what I'm saying? Now - I know all this stuff is actually going on, I have witnessed it. I asked her if she wants me to just move on or wait for her to get everything taken care of. She said she doesnt know - once again, she feels lost if you get what I am saying.
Ok so this just hapenned thursday, we talked a bit yesterday and she said she will get back to me.
basically the ball is on her court right now, I'm just wondering what you guys feel would be the best way to take it from here - should I call her or send her a quick email just to check on her or what - I should also mention she has some social anxiety issues going on so although she might want to call me or email me she might not do it because of that. It's hapenned before. And again it's not that she doesnt want to its that she has social anxiety.
Anyway, I'm just looking for some input. I think she is worth the time this is taking I am just a bit lost myself.
Help me out fellas!
Thanks
Il Bambino.

 

[DJDamage]

From my experiences, women with problems give guys the biggest oneitis because you end up caring and feeling for her and you also want her but yet she doesn't want you.

She ran her misreable experiences through you, and you ended up being the emotional tampon and hance became also affected by her problems.

You became the crutch whenever she needed help to solve her problems, but it doesn't mean she will gain attraction for you, quite the opposite will happen, she will lose attraction for you.

Women who are in love with a guy, will not dump a guy because of having problems. She either lost attraction to you, or moved on with another guy.

You need to move on and court other chicks. This girl as much as you like her, is in no position to provide you a healthy relationship.

 

[Yeto]

During life a couple will find a lot of problems, so, she will be dumping you from time to time, is that what you want? or you want somebody to stay with you no matter what.

 

[Pancho84]

Anybody else have anything to say?
Help don juaners!
thanks
Il Bambino

 

[georgie24]

be lucky you guys broke up. man this is the same shiat that got me in trouble with last girl, leave her alone guy. you will be sorry in the long run

i post from EXPERIENCE


i bet she's got a slew of other issues.


better yet propose to her and keep her, then come back in 1 year and tell us what a living hell you been living



cheers

 

[sustainable007]

loose her

1. Break up with her
2. Forget about her
3. When she comes back reject her
4. Start pursuing other women
5

 

[flexion_]

Yep - I agree with the others... women don't break up with man they like ... she ain't interested IN YOU for some reason or another.

Giving her time to think about is something maybe to make you feel better but she has already decided. By the time a woman has decided to break up they are long past the time of looking back.

I wouldn't fret though... sounds like this woman has issues anyway.

 

[NoMoreMisterNiceGuy]

Originally posted by DJDamage


Women who are in love with a guy, will not dump a guy because of having problems. She either lost attraction to you, or moved on with another guy.

she wasnt attracted to you and she did all that to you so you had to do the dirty work=>break up ....

 

[squirrels]

MOVE ON!!