Break up with gf; I'm called a mysoginist, gay, woman hater - whole gamut

[Don Juanabbe]

Hey,

Any of you guys experienced this shyt? My girlfriend was driving me insane. Being a complete bytch for about 3 weeks. So I got fed up, wasn't going to take her shyt, told her that, then broke up with her.

Now I'm the whole gamut of negative male stereotypes according to her - first, I'm a woman hater and have 'woman issues', I suppose because I wasn't willing to put up with her grief.

Next, I'm a mysoginist. Which is pretty much the same thing.

Now, I'm apparently 'gay', according to her. She says because I have 'such issues with women that I must be gay'.

Uh-huh.

Then she goes on to tell me a couple other people have said the same thing, but she wouldn't elaborate or tell who it was who said that shyt.

Now I've just come into work and she's left me another f*cking message reiterating her opinion.

F*ck.

Talk about f*cking torture.

 

[El MonoLoco]

*APPLAUDES*


WAY TO GO! You got out will you still had your dignity.

I wouldn't worry about anything she says, she's just mad because YOU dumped HER.

Props...

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Thanks.

But yeah, you know the thing is? These tactics can work.

I was actually starting to get pissed off at this shyt.

 

[Egoist]

yeah i say you're lucky to get out of there.

basically, you can be getting mad and whatever, but just remember, she is even worse off because you are not reacting to her BS.

be strong, ignore her, move on.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

She keeps hammering on the gay thing, being a real b*tch on my answering machine. I wish she would stop calling.

 

[SamePendo]

Can you call the cops? I mean, if she is breaking any law, be sure to call them. That ***** is troubling your life and as the crazy ho she is, she should be locked up or atleast called at by the authorities.

As the crazy monkey said, she's pissed off because YOU dumped HER. Her nature to seduce has failed.

 

[Nighthawk]

Shes mad because you dumped her. Although if she was being a total ***** before the break-up she either wanted you to give her your balls or break up with her anyway. And now you have done she wants you back. Predictable.

The easiest way to stop a (potentially) stalking/troublesome ex is to make yourself unattractive, ideally when you break up with her or before. Get them to leave you by acting needy and clingy and they'll soon bolt and with no messy suicide attempts to win you back. Or develop a personal hygeine problem, take up knitting or dye your hair ginger. Sorry gingers.

I call this move the Reverse-DJ-Safety-Dump. Use it wisely.

 

[Ryan01]

Just ignore her, she is bitter, if you reply to her abuse she will have the upper hand. Ignoring her will just make her even more angry which is what you want, eventually will will realise she is being childish.

 

[Warlord]

Actually The girl did the dumping indirectly IMHO - when a girl starts getting real crappy in a relationship or decides to do some seriously funky sh-it, she's doing it so you can dump her which will relieve her of the duty. Unfortunately girls who do this also get bitter in the process because she's may also be bringing the worse in you. Now, I'm not sure if she wanted to dump you as I don't know how long you two have been dating. Would the posters on this site be more specific and a little more detailed when describing their dramas?

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Yeah I was with her almost a year. I dumped her in November. I come into contact with her from time to time. She's told me she loves and cares for me on several occasions since. But then it alternates between that kind of talk and then this shyt.

In September I lost one of my oldest friends to cancer. She started getting insecure and basically started on the attack about two months later.

I begged her to back off because I was grieving my loss and couldn't handle arguments.

This all started because she kept saying I had 'woman issues' and that I was a mysoginist. Then she'd want to know where she stood in the relationship and everything whilst every other day accusing me of being a woman hater and mistreating women.

Now it's just escalated and escalated to the point that she now pulls this 'gay' card out of her pocket and flings that at me.

Her logic being I have women issues because I don't take this sort of crap., therefore I must be gay.

You can guess that she keeps showing up at the places I go to. She's been trying to actually push her way back into my life.

This last incident was last night. I thought that I would be nice to her and still try to continue an amicable friendship, but that's apparently not working.

She suffers from depression, BTW.

 

[Nighthawk]

Your friend's cancer, and your understandable need (oops, must never have needs) for patience and comfort tested what sort of a woman she was - and she failed.

Most women despise weakness in a primeval way, whether its you being sick or grieving for a friend - the last being a rival for your attention to a selfish AW/drama queen.

The accusations are any old bull**** she can come up with, they will only hurt as much as you believe them to be true.

She is obsessed with you, and you must lower the flame or suffer the dramatic consequences. Send her some flowers and a poem, that'll do the trick.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Thank guys. Yeah, this is seriously some f*cked up drama, nighthawk, that I never counted on, nor did I need.

My mistake was breaking it off and thinking she had the ability to be mature about it.

She was cruel to the point that I had to get away from her because she was seriously making it impossible for me to get back on my feet after my loss.

What's more amazing is that I helped her get through something very similar near the start of our relationship - I was very supportive.

 

[MackJr]

What's more amazing is that I helped her get through something very similar near the start of our relationship - I was very supportive.

It's not fair, but it does make sense; You were the strong one before, and you still are.

 

[Warlord]

IGNORE HER, she's wasting your time and energy. I've dated a couple poisonous snakes like her before - they're the types that are "walking wounded" where they've been burned and now they're ready to get back what they think is right even though they meet someone geniunely interested in spending time with. I included in this post an AskMen article about these type of women. If you're not the strong type (and I'm not either) you will not be able to deal with these women. You're not her counselour, if she's got some daddy issues, that's her problem!

http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith_100/109_dating_advice.html

 

[Lost In Translation]

here are some crazy ideas :

tell her your dumped her to protect her as you were asked out by a model type chick and you didnt want to cheat so your dumped her because you think she is too sweet and innocent

if you know any gang type chicks get her threatened if she continues then get them to make the point clear

take out an ad in the local paper or internet using annoymous means and post her number as a freelance escort named Wanda

even better use her real name and use her work or home number so her family / employer know

in my experience people are too afraid to try this sh*t with me

i have had a few exceptions. prank calls to my mobile phone late at night and one ex gf who was complete ghetto trash got her sisters brother in law the day he got out of jail to come to my house

but usually people gotta know you can't be f*cked with

they do it because they know they can get away with it

difficult in our modern society i know but after the dust settles i realise i am better having and sifting through the dirt for a quality woman than 5 crack wh0res


Lost In Translation

 

[squirrels]

Ignore her.

If she's depressed, she's used to giving people that "you don't understand, you're an @sshole" crap in the hopes that they'll feel sympathetic to her and give her what she wants.

Hold out a little longer and she'll go into the, "I'm sorry, I was wrong, I'm worthless, give me pity" angle.

But don't take her back. You dont' need that ****.

 

[blueangel83]

So which one are you?

LOL jk