"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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BREAK UP W/ LONG TIME GIRLFRIEND

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I BROKE UP WITH MY long term GIRLFRIEND, I CAUGHT HER DRINKING LIQOUR WITH HER WORKMATES WITHOUT ASKING PERMISSION ON ME and she only said that she drinks softdrinks.. AND I HAVE INSTINCT HES FLIRTING WITH HER MALE WORKMATES BASED ON PICS AND CHAT, ANY ADVICE DJ'S?
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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First off, is this a real post?

There is nothing wrong with your gf drinking with other people, she does not need your permission to do that.

What’s in the pictures that you saw? Again most women flirt, that’s their nature. She might be testing you to see if you are the strong confident man she wants or if you will loose your mind. If she is testing you, you have failed.
 

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First off, is this a real post?

There is nothing wrong with your gf drinking with other people, she does not need your permission to do that.

What’s in the pictures that you saw? Again most women flirt, that’s their nature. She might be testing you to see if you are the strong confident man she wants or if you will loose your mind. If she is testing you, you have failed.
shes not testing me because we are already 4 years , the situation is we are 1 year LDR , 1 year no sex,,, i know its their nature however its disappointing because we are already 4 years ang really serious
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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shes not testing me because we are already 4 years , the situation is we are 1 year LDR , 1 year no sex,,, i know its their nature however its disappointing because we are already 4 years ang really serious
It does not matter how long you have been with her, she will still test you. In my opinion LDRs just don’t work, one or both parties move on and I would say that she has. If you have not done the business with her for one year then I would say this is over. Sorry dude just move on.
 

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the issue is im conscience breaking up with her because i just think it just a mistake on my instinct
 

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I BROKE UP WITH MY long term GIRLFRIEND, I CAUGHT HER DRINKING LIQOUR WITH HER WORKMATES WITHOUT ASKING PERMISSION ON ME and she only said that she drinks softdrinks.. AND I HAVE INSTINCT HES FLIRTING WITH HER MALE WORKMATES BASED ON PICS AND CHAT, ANY ADVICE DJ'S?
1 year and no sex? Holy sh1t. Time to get out immediately.

Granted I’m not convinced this isn’t a troll post.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Your instinct is usually right on these matters, but what do you expect. You're in a LDR and haven't had sex for 1 year? I'd be more suprised if she didn't sleep around with other men behind your back and that is not a relationship, more like friendship. Space is good for attraction, but too much space will always kill it eventually.
This is a blessing for you, since now you have an opportunity to work on bettering yourself and get women closer to you.
 

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1 year no sex beacuse , im a police cadet and we do not have vacation because of covid 19
I work in police department for 5 yrs and no situation can and will affect your sex life, this isn't true in Europe.
 

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LDR is just not worth it, man. It will never work.

It's a platonic relationship.

Women need touches in order to build attraction. You can't touch her when you're away for too long. She'll find someone closer because he is emotionally and physically available for her.

Taken from How long does passion last? Science says... :
Movies try to convince us we’ll feel this way forever, but the intense romance has an expiration date for everyone. Expect the passion to last two to three years at most, says Dr. Fred Nour, a neurologist in Mission Viejo, California, and author of the book “True Love: How to Use Science to Understand Love.”

WITHOUT ASKING PERMISSION ON ME
She's not your slave. Why does she have to ask a permission on hanging out with her friend?

and she only said that she drinks softdrinks..
It's her way of saying that her activity wasn't serious.

ANY ADVICE DJ'S?
Whether you did the right thing or not, the relationship is already broken. She'd lost her respect for you.

Move on. Find someone else.

Next time, don't be too insecure. By accepting LDR, you're putting her on a pedestal because you're willing to be put under her control (by being her boyfriend in status only) while she's free to approach other guys without you knowing any of it. You are her fail-safe plan whenever she can't get a guy to replace you. You need her more than she needs you. This is called being needy.

Neediness & insecurity kill attraction fast. In your case, it was long gone.

Next time, don't be controlling. Just because you're her boyfriend, it doesn't mean that you own her. She's a human being who has her own needs and wants. If her needs and wants is not in line with yours, then find someone who is. You don't build a relationship, you buy one (and to understand what that means, read this: Anti-Dump's Machine (Part III: You BUY a relationship, not BUILD one) and this: The Relationship Begins Before You Meet Her )

You've been this forum member for almost 6 years. Have you read anything from DJ Bible or another posters?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well covid do kills a lot of relationship, if she isnt gettin sex from you, her needs to be fulfilled elsewhere.. Drinking isnt an issue, maybe its her provoking you so you can let her go?
 

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I work in police department for 5 yrs and no situation can and will affect your sex life, this isn't true in Europe.
im in an academy, we only got vacation christmas break and graduation, just only twice a year
 

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im in an academy, we only got vacation christmas break and graduation, just only twice a year
I was at police academy for 8 months, 4 months theoretical and 4 practical and you have free weekends and Wednesdays.
 

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LDR is just not worth it, man. It will never work.

It's a platonic relationship.

Women need touches in order to build attraction. You can't touch her when you're away for too long. She'll find someone closer because he is emotionally and physically available for her.

Taken from How long does passion last? Science says... :




She's not your slave. Why does she have to ask a permission on hanging out with her friend?


It's her way of saying that her activity wasn't serious.


Whether you did the right thing or not, the relationship is already broken. She'd lost her respect for you.

Move on. Find someone else.

Next time, don't be too insecure. By accepting LDR, you're putting her on a pedestal because you're willing to be put under her control (by being her boyfriend in status only) while she's free to approach other guys without you knowing any of it. You are her fail-safe plan whenever she can't get a guy to replace you. You need her more than she needs you. This is called being needy.

Neediness & insecurity kill attraction fast. In your case, it was long gone.

Next time, don't be controlling. Just because you're her boyfriend, it doesn't mean that you own her. She's a human being who has her own needs and wants. If her needs and wants is not in line with yours, then find someone who is. You don't build a relationship, you buy one (and to understand what that means, read this: Anti-Dump's Machine (Part III: You BUY a relationship, not BUILD one) and this: The Relationship Begins Before You Meet Her )

You've been this forum member for almost 6 years. Have you read anything from DJ Bible or another posters?
im already long time here and i admit that it help me a lot, , thanks for the advice
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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