**Break it to her straight forward, or just ignore her??**

[Charm&Style]

A girl that was my best friend for a year and then became my gf is getting really annoying, b!tching alot, has become very shallow, slutty, high maitanace, big flirt, acts like a 12 yr old, and has a huge ego eventhough she aint nothing.

Anyways i want her gone, i already broke up the gf part with her a$$ but she still wants to be close friends, i dont want that crap. I ignored her but last nite she told me to atleast tell her why im doing all this.

Should i tell her all her negs...if so...how should i tell her in a way that fills her with guilt??

 

[michaelhctam]

A girl that was my best friend for a year and then became my gf is getting really annoying, b!tching alot, has become very shallow, slutty, high maitanace, big flirt, acts like a 12 yr old, and has a huge ego eventhough she aint nothing.

Anyways i want her gone, i already broke up the gf part with her a$$ but she still wants to be close friends, i dont want that crap. I ignored her but last nite she told me to atleast tell her why im doing all this.

Should i tell her all her negs...if so...how should i tell her in a way that fills her with guilt??

I think the best solution is to be mature about it, give her a 'compliment sandwich' meaning you say something positive about her and THEN break out the negs, and to conclude it say another compliment.

For example,

"I really did enjoy our time together, you have been one of the few people in my life that made me happy; but lately you have been acting strange ever since you became my significant other (this is when you start putting in the negs), to put it bluntly (name) I think you are (list of negative connotations)....If you do not fix these problems soon, I am afraid I can't be your friend any more. And this is why I am reluctant to be your friend"

I hope this helps.....

Tell me how it goes if you apply these tactics,

Peace :rockon:

 

[Charm&Style]

bro your amazing

 

[qweretyuiopas]

Be straight forward

 

[michaelhctam]

bro your amazing

Thank you

Anything to help a fellow DJ.

Keep going! I am cheering you on! :yes:

 

[Pappadapolis]

I think the best solution is to be mature about it, give her a 'compliment sandwich' meaning you say something positive about her and THEN break out the negs, and to conclude it say another compliment.

For example,

"I really did enjoy our time together, you have been one of the few people in my life that made me happy; but lately you have been acting strange ever since you became my significant other (this is when you start putting in the negs), to put it bluntly (name) I think you are (list of negative connotations)....If you do not fix these problems soon, I am afraid I can't be your friend any more. And this is why I am reluctant to be your friend"

I hope this helps.....

Tell me how it goes if you apply these tactics,

Peace :rockon:

I wonder if some of you guys read the articles and use the advice on acutal women. Don't compliment her or give her any reason why other than, "It's not working." Giving her an explanation is spineless, an AFC move. It's exactly like interrogating a girl on "where we stand" when you are together.

If you take the compliment sandwhich advice, she'll lose even more respect for you. Like I said, the only thing you should tell her is "It's not working." If she ask you why, just tell her "This is what I'm talking about" and walk off. Stay calm about it, don't raise your voice, and don't get sucked into conversation. Confusion in a girl's mind is your ally. Having long conversations about that stuff is girl sh*t.

 

[michaelhctam]

I wonder if some of you guys read the articles and use the advice on acutal women. Don't compliment her or give her any reason why other than, "It's not working." Giving her an explanation is spineless, an AFC move. It's exactly like interrogating a girl on "where we stand" when you are together.

If you take the compliment sandwhich advice, she'll lose even more respect for you. Like I said, the only thing you should tell her is "It's not working." If she ask you why, just tell her "This is what I'm talking about" and walk off. Stay calm about it, don't raise your voice, and don't get sucked into conversation. Confusion in a girl's mind is your ally. Having long conversations about that stuff is girl sh*t.

And while we are at it, we can take a huge bite off a piece of meat and walk off grunting.

No Pappadapolis what I meant was he gives the compliment sandwiches and when she starts machine gun mouthing THEN ignore her. And he asked the BEST WAY to not make her FEEL GUILTY and you need to sugar-coat alot of Sh!t to make a women not feel guilty.

Any ways, the less you speak the more room there is for misinterpretation, the advice I gave was as strait forward as possible without MAKING HER FEEL GUILTY.

If she gets confused, wouldent she ask MORE questions? And therefore making the origional poster MORE ANGRY? Hrrm?

 

[JLW]

Pappadopolis,

What the hell is so wrong with giving a girl a simple explanation? I mean 30 seconds of your time explaining something pretty simple isn't a big deal at all.

Saying "this isn't working" is kind of immature and stupid if you ask me.

If a girl did that to you, you'd probably be pissed, and for good reason. She at least should get an explanation, even if she is an immature *****.

 

[Charm&Style]

micheals advice played out very well.


but ive changed my mind on passing this chick...im keeping her around as one of the chicks that im juss gonna play games on...try new stuff on her.

 

[Charm&Style]

Pappadopolis,

What the hell is so wrong with giving a girl a simple explanation? I mean 30 seconds of your time explaining something pretty simple isn't a big deal at all.

Saying "this isn't working" is kind of immature and stupid if you ask me.

If a girl did that to you, you'd probably be pissed, and for good reason. She at least should get an explanation, even if she is an immature *****.

its ok he needs experience...pappa..when you say stuff like that to a girl you lower yourself and the girl will juss tell you "fvck off jerk" and never remember you again.

I want the girl to remember how i was the best, and that i always said whats on my mind, that shes missing out on a true alpha because her 18 yr old punk a$$ needs a lot of attention and thus will go to any extremes to get that attention and think its alright.

 

[michaelhctam]

Pappadopolis,

What the hell is so wrong with giving a girl a simple explanation? I mean 30 seconds of your time explaining something pretty simple isn't a big deal at all.

Saying "this isn't working" is kind of immature and stupid if you ask me.

If a girl did that to you, you'd probably be pissed, and for good reason. She at least should get an explanation, even if she is an immature *****.

Ditto!