Been seeing her for about 1 and 1/2 weeks now. I figured she was a virgin and confirmed it today after talking with her. I tried having sex with her but as soon as I put even the tip of my penis in she told me to stop because it "stung" her? I went down on her and used my mouth and this didn't bother her even when I stuck my tongue in her as far as possible. But as soon as I tried a finger she once again pulled back and said that it hurts or "stings".
Tonight we had a bit of a talk and I was telling her how I am moving in 2 months and that I'm very concerned that she will be hurt if I have sex with her and we get attached. She says she understands, and I told her that i'm worried that she understands intellectually what I'm saying to her but that she doesn't understand emotionally that she will likely be hurt and resentful towards me when my move out date approaches and I don't want her to feel like i'm using her. I laid it all out on the table for her and I was completely honest with my intentions but she still seemed ok with spending more time with me. I don't know if this girl is understanding what she's getting into. On top of this her interest level in sex seems to be very low or at least she's pretending this for fear of looking like a slut. I'm contemplating just breaking it off with her.
As for the "stinging", I suggested to her to try masturbating to maybe get her body used to the sensation and I also suggested that she do some research or something to see if there is anything she or I could do to lessen the stinging. What is going on her? I thought pain was normal but stinging?
Tonight we had a bit of a talk and I was telling her how I am moving in 2 months and that I'm very concerned that she will be hurt if I have sex with her and we get attached. She says she understands, and I told her that i'm worried that she understands intellectually what I'm saying to her but that she doesn't understand emotionally that she will likely be hurt and resentful towards me when my move out date approaches and I don't want her to feel like i'm using her. I laid it all out on the table for her and I was completely honest with my intentions but she still seemed ok with spending more time with me. I don't know if this girl is understanding what she's getting into. On top of this her interest level in sex seems to be very low or at least she's pretending this for fear of looking like a slut. I'm contemplating just breaking it off with her.
As for the "stinging", I suggested to her to try masturbating to maybe get her body used to the sensation and I also suggested that she do some research or something to see if there is anything she or I could do to lessen the stinging. What is going on her? I thought pain was normal but stinging?
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