"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Jeffrey12

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9am chick: You okay x

12:03pm chick: You havent made no effort so I no you've met someone else good luck to you thanks for makng me happy and maybe see you around ciao

12:41pm me: Morning. 2 questions just so I can understand the way you think. So, you think since Wednesday I've met someone else lol? And by no effort, you mean what exactly?

12:47pm chick: Havent spoken to u in few days

13:15pm me: Do you think I've met someone in 3 days?

13:17pm chick: No. Think you met someone before. So why havent u text me once

13:27pm me: Lol ok then. I've been busy working. Why haven't you text me until today?

13:29pm chick: That busy u havent been onnur phone once ****ing bull**** u was probs out ladtnight n friday

13:45pm me: Ok. So why haven't you text me until today?

13:53pm chick: Bevause I was waiting for you to text me

13:57pm me: And why is that?

13:58pm chick: To see if u nake effort

14:20pm me: Why was you waiting to see if I made effort?

14:25pm chick:Ffs bevause I did

20:46pm me: So you have been playing a game, thats not nice! you have accused me of lying, and now your getting aggressive and you don't want to see me again, when actually I've not done anything wrong to you apart from treating you good and showing you a good time. Well its your choice, if you change your mind let me know X



How would you guys interpret this messaging conversation...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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jurry

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Way too combative.. Just oh sorry was busy lets meet up is all you needed to say, rest of the convo was pointless back and forth accusations.
 

sylvester the cat

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she's highly interested. cut to the chase and bang.
 

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Oh, you fell for it.

As soon as she texted you a "goodbye", you immediately responded... not only that, but you responded in an argumentative manner.

You went from not talking to her in 3 days to responding every 5 minutes. You completely undid all that "too busy so I'm not available" vibe you had going for you. Why? Because the idea of the poon not being an option to you anymore completely disarmed you.

Why would you want to ask questions trying to understand how she thinks? She just wanted a reaction from you. All you had to do was set up a date immediately.

"Been busy, still busy, let's grab a drink on XXXX"
 

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^ this exactly...lol can u be my wingman

"been super busy and tired...still busy...i need a break, lets get drinks on x night". Boom...u automatically sound like a baller.

very good insight....texting right away like 5 times in a row undid the whole mysterious vibe.

girls know about this cuz one girl thought she was slick always does this...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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You failed a little shiit test because you got mad bro.

Are you here to get laid or to teach girls respect? What part of game includes getting mad bro?

Shoulda just asked her out when she started talking about you meeting another woman...


SgtSplacker Version:

9am chick: You okay x

12:03pm chick: You havent made no effort so I no you've met someone else good luck to you thanks for makng me happy and maybe see you around ciao

12:41pm me: Morning. 2 questions just so I can understand the way you think. So, you think since Wednesday I've met someone else lol? And by no effort, you mean what exactly?

12:47pm chick: Havent spoken to u in few days

13:15pm me: Do you think I've met someone in 3 days?

13:17pm chick: No. Think you met someone before. So why havent u text me once

13:27pm me: My life is not ruled by my romantic encounters, as compelling as they may be...

13:29pm chick: So why haven't you texted me bla bla bla...

13:45pm me: Forget about the time I spend away from you it's not important, lets plan something this weekend...

That's it any more fussing and you stop replying until she calls to reconcile...
 
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Jeffrey12

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Thanks for the advice. My logic behind this was to try get her muddled up in her nonsense. But from what you guys are telling me, it was wrong.

How can I bring this back lol?
 

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In trying to be "too suave" and to get her "muddled"... you were the one who ended up muddled. You came at her as if she was a guy who was supposed to understand exactly what you were saying.

It doesn't work like that.

You don't bring it back, because your last message to her was an ultimatum about game playing and then said if she changed her mind, to let you know.

She's probably now made her mind up about you so the only way to "fix this" is by doing nothing. You let her text you again and instead of playing the game with her, you cut that right out and immediately ask her out. Be assertive. Don't try to get into a battle of wits and logic with her. You won't win.
 

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Kailex nailed it. Your attitude should have been more dismissive, to the point of laughing at her hysteria. Act like everything was cool and hit her with date plans. Don't let her bait you into a fight. She won this round.
 

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Completely agreed guys. In future, I won't try the discipline route/logical. Women just don't get it or they refuse to get it because from what I've gathered they're selfish creatures. I should of simply just dismissed her initial accusations by laughing them off and then presented the option of meeting up with her, which is what she wanted.

One question though, by what she was saying would you think she's interested?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Kailex

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Jeffrey12 said:
One question though, by what she was saying would you think she's interested?
WAS interested? Quite possibly. We'll never know. There is no 100% guarantee to that being the absolute truth.

IS interested? That's up to her to decide. You left the ball in her court.

Now you get to game other plates until this one decides to roll back around... or doesn't.
 

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That's why I tried to instil some discipline but from what I've been told you just don't try and do that..

Well she got back into contact with me telling me she found her dad online blah blah. Here's how the conversation went:

17/06/2014 20:37:50: Chick: Im stressed found my dad on FB x
17/06/2014 20:49:10: me: What's wrong?
17/06/2014 20:50:33: Me: Did you dad get back to you...
17/06/2014 21:05:20: Chick: Yh ill show u em all when I see u next

How shall I get back to this? Need to master this **** lol!!
 

jurry

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This really shouldnt be that difficult man lol she is all over ur nuts, just take her out and bang her
 

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Jeffrey12 said:
That's why I tried to instil some discipline but from what I've been told you just don't try and do that..

Well she got back into contact with me telling me she found her dad online blah blah. Here's how the conversation went:

17/06/2014 20:37:50: Chick: Im stressed found my dad on FB x
17/06/2014 20:49:10: me: What's wrong?
17/06/2014 20:50:33: Me: Did you dad get back to you...
17/06/2014 21:05:20: Chick: Yh ill show u em all when I see u next

How shall I get back to this? Need to master this **** lol!!
See bold in red. Proof she was power playin you. Set up a date ASAP and ignore whatever BS just happened.

I know you wanna teach her a lesson, but they won't learn like that. You gotta turn it around in your favor by letting her stomp her feet while you laugh it off and try to push forward..smoothly.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Kailex said:
Oh, you fell for it.

As soon as she texted you a "goodbye", you immediately responded... not only that, but you responded in an argumentative manner.

You went from not talking to her in 3 days to responding every 5 minutes. You completely undid all that "too busy so I'm not available" vibe you had going for you. Why? Because the idea of the poon not being an option to you anymore completely disarmed you.

Why would you want to ask questions trying to understand how she thinks? She just wanted a reaction from you. All you had to do was set up a date immediately.

"Been busy, still busy, let's grab a drink on XXXX"
:up: :up:

Bro you are not a lawyer trying to disarm the witness. Your goal is to have sex with her ASAP.

As said above, busier than the President in 3 days to nothing to do in 5 min. You bluffed, she called it.
 

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Why are you not using the phone to set up dates is my question. All this gibberish isn't necessary, the only thing you accomplished was declaring that you are weak and needy.
 

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So how would you reply back to that?

I've already slept with her loads of times. I'm trying to be a jack of all trades (discipline whilst ****ing her) but in the mean time I'm master of none haha
 

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Kailex said:
Oh, you fell for it.

As soon as she texted you a "goodbye", you immediately responded... not only that, but you responded in an argumentative manner.

You went from not talking to her in 3 days to responding every 5 minutes. You completely undid all that "too busy so I'm not available" vibe you had going for you. Why? Because the idea of the poon not being an option to you anymore completely disarmed you.

Why would you want to ask questions trying to understand how she thinks? She just wanted a reaction from you. All you had to do was set up a date immediately.

"Been busy, still busy, let's grab a drink on XXXX"

this
 

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Jeffrey12 said:
So how would you reply back to that?

I've already slept with her loads of times. I'm trying to be a jack of all trades (discipline whilst ****ing her) but in the mean time I'm master of none haha
Quit analyzing and start ANALizing.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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