"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu

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In the next month or so, I plan to begin training in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. I've always wanted to learn how to wrestle, and I figure Jiu-Jitsu would be the most effective, no-bullsh*t grappling art I can learn. Also, it seems like it would be effective for my body type (5'9, 160 lbs, solid but not huge). Later I might also train in Muay-Thai.

Anyone else practice BJJ? Any suggestions, tips?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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nw1512

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Yeah i'm a blue belt in BJJ

Be prepared for the long haul though.
 

thefonz

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would you guys say it's impossible to power-lift and practice ju-jitsu and the same time because of the 'sore-muscle' factor.....i've wanted to take up some martial arts but i also don't wanna stop lifting.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Alpine

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Not impossible, but they are different and won't compliment when you are at a high level.

Apart from the training fatigue, also consider the weight class issues.

If you aren't that good or non competitive it doesn't really matter.
 

Nightwing

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Yeah, I got a blue belt on BJJ and also fight NHB. BJJ is great for when you get stuck on the ground in a fight. A lot of the techniques may seem confusing at first, but just stick with it and you'll begin to develop a repitoire of techiques that you will use over and over.
 

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There are two jiu-jitsu schools near me. The first is run by a brown belt who also competes in mixed martial arts tournaments. The other is comprised of three different instructors, one of whom is a 3rd degree black belt, another black belt, and a brown belt.

Both schools participate in competition. Which do you guys think is better? I plan on going to both of them, but what sorts of things should I look for?
 

MindOverMatter

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work out on seperate days then you do BJJ on.

take good diet, good protein intake + glutamine supplementation will make recovery easy.

right now I workout on monday/wed/fri, do muay thai on tue/thur/sat, the soreness is not an issue. human body is amazing, it gets used to anything you throw at it
 

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My mates brother is one of the top BJJ fighters in New Zealand, not to mention being very high up in the ranks in Japan.

Of course ...doesn't compare to the Brazilian fighters.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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wildchild

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I practice muay thai and wanted to move into BJJ i reckong im just gonna try wrestling instead though, they seem to do well in ufc.
 
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