"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Brain Difference of Alpha/Beta Males

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Alpha = Careless

Beta = Careful

Is this a matter of serotonin? Excessive anxiety and carefulness is caused by serotonin imbalance.

While we are at it, is there a significant difference between a beta and an a$$hole? I'm sadistic, not submissive.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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carelessness and carefulness are qualities for decisions
if a beta is smart enough he can learn how to make some and fast

and yes there is a significant difference
@ssholes belong in the toilet
 

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carelessness and carefulness are qualities for decisions
if a beta is smart enough he can learn how to make some and fast
I've heard the bit about the alpha engaging in risky behavior (or as the OP says, carelessness, or maybe recklessness).
Like you say, if the beta is smart he has a fair chance of outliving the alpha.
 

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zekko said:
I've heard the bit about the alpha engaging in risky behavior (or as the OP says, carelessness, or maybe recklessness).
Like you say, if the beta is smart he has a fair chance of outliving the alpha.
Risk taking is not the same as recklessness or carelessness. 'The Donald' is an Alpha. He certainly takes risks, but you can bet that he thinks long and hard beforehand. Clever, skillful and bold behavior .
Carelessness, and foolhardy behavior is more accurately described as just plain stupid.

Beta's are probably risk averse by nature so they are more likely to not trust their own judgement, agonize endlessly about the "what if's " and postpone or cancel action in favor of maintaining the status quo.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Vitanoid said:
Alpha = Careless

Beta = Careful

Is this a matter of serotonin? Excessive anxiety and carefulness is caused by serotonin imbalance.

While we are at it, is there a significant difference between a beta and an a$$hole? I'm sadistic, not submissive.

Ehh I would consider myself more careful than careless. I dont think you can define being Alpha or Beta on one characteristic.

I do plenty of risky behaivor only after weighing out the pros and cons.
 

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Both.

First clockwise, and then she went counter-clock wise.
 

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Goes to prove that we don't know a thing about the brain. If I were to bet, I'd say it's on the way the communication is wired. Leads me to think that after a certain age, there's no coming back or any self-help or bootcamp that can turn you from chump to champ. Game is a skill but it get you as far as your brain can handle. If by your early- to - mid 20s you're not a champ with women, then forget about it, you might as well learn how to live like that.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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There's a curve. A lot of people don't get that until they reach the end. An AFC/beta is too careful. A jerk/douchebag is completely careless. A truly successful man pays attention to detail and uses it to his advantage. Whether it's in seduction or in a fight.

The key to being the REAL alpha Don Juan is this; adopt the AFC mindset but FROM A POSITION OF POWER. In other words, always with the willingness to change your mind at a second's notice. This is the ONLY difference between a chump and a champ. An AFC does benevolent things from a position of weakness. A man does them from a position of power.

Most guys that start out AFC and discover this pickup sh1t are content to go from one end of the spectrum to the other and just become douchebags. They feel so dejected that getting laid regularly by attractive women somehow fills a void inside them. It's like a drug to them. So they become hooked on it and they stop their evolution there. Hating everything they used to be. Forgetting that the ultimate end goal is the place between AFC and douchebag, not douchebag itself. So they remain suspended in limbo.

You will get laid a lot being a douchebag. You saw it in other guys when you were an AFC. But as a douchebag, you will never command respect. A man values respect above pvssy. Respect is the cornerstone of DJ.
 

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Nexus Polaris said:
There's a curve. A lot of people don't get that until they reach the end. An AFC/beta is too careful. A jerk/douchebag is completely careless. A truly successful man pays attention to detail and uses it to his advantage. Whether it's in seduction or in a fight.

The key to being the REAL alpha Don Juan is this; adopt the AFC mindset but FROM A POSITION OF POWER. In other words, always with the willingness to change your mind at a second's notice. This is the ONLY difference between a chump and a champ. An AFC does benevolent things from a position of weakness. A man does them from a position of power.

Most guys that start out AFC and discover this pickup sh1t are content to go from one end of the spectrum to the other and just become douchebags. They feel so dejected that getting laid regularly by attractive women somehow fills a void inside them. It's like a drug to them. So they become hooked on it and they stop their evolution there. Hating everything they used to be. Forgetting that the ultimate end goal is the place between AFC and douchebag, not douchebag itself. So they remain suspended in limbo.

You will get laid a lot being a douchebag. You saw it in other guys when you were an AFC. But as a douchebag, you will never command respect. A man values respect above pvssy. Respect is the cornerstone of DJ.
I'm a jerk. It's not that I don't care I'm hurting girls, I actually like hurting girls. I have social anxiety so I care a lot more than normal people.
 

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Nygard said:
Goes to prove that we don't know a thing about the brain. If I were to bet, I'd say it's on the way the communication is wired. Leads me to think that after a certain age, there's no coming back or any self-help or bootcamp that can turn you from chump to champ. Game is a skill but it get you as far as your brain can handle. If by your early- to - mid 20s you're not a champ with women, then forget about it, you might as well learn how to live like that.
So your saying I should just pull the trigger right now? Cause I'm in my mid twenties and gave never gotten a single woman. I'd hate to waste the bullet though...
 

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Vitanoid said:
Is this a matter of serotonin? Excessive anxiety and carefulness is caused by serotonin imbalance.
Little bit. Seretonin is tied to stress. The more seretonin and individual has, the calmer they are under duress.

Vitanoid said:
I'm a jerk. It's not that I don't care I'm hurting girls, I actually like hurting girls. I have social anxiety so I care a lot more than normal people.
Ummm... that might not be good. Sounds to me like you're carrying a grudge towards these women.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Alle_Gory said:
Ummm... that might not be good. Sounds to me like you're carrying a grudge towards these women.
Nah, I'm just power-hungry.
 

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This thread has become retarded, well it was from the start... there’s no real difference between beta/alpha brains, and how dominant you are is mostly LEARNED and embedded as a reaction to your environment and upbringing.

Whist there may be a little bit of genetics that determine how you respond or act to things and situations, and there’s a lot of environmental luck – your parents how they act/encourage you, your friends, other people, other influences you see, your social situation, social conditioning …etc…etc (a very complex set of influences)

You may be more dominant in one situation and totally weak in another

The best thing is that becoming a better more dominant MAN is achievable, it just takes effort
 

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kingsam said:
This thread has become retarded, well it was from the start... there’s no real difference between beta/alpha brains, and how dominant you are is mostly LEARNED and embedded as a reaction to your environment and upbringing.
I just love how people make big bold statements on these boards without having a damn clue.

kingsam.. if u read a little bit beyond ur favourite PUA guru, u'd realise the thread starter might at least have a point.
 

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Didn't Blueprint Decoded from RSD go into detail about all this?

Pretty sure they did.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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