BetterCallSaul
Master Don Juan
For those of you keeping tabs, me posting field reports never happens due to being married so I only post junk that happens around the house.
But no, this time I've got an actual FR. "How?", you ask? "Is Saul getting some honey on the side?" As interesting as it could be to create my own harem and join my household of women to those mormons who still practice polygamy, the answer is no, no honey on the side.
I took a motorcycle safety course recently since I'm getting back into riding. I thought this would be good for me as a method of getting my feet wet again rather than just showing up at a dealer wanting to do a test ride. But this isn't about the class...the class was simply the venue.
It's a small class and the only woman to show up decides to sit next to me. I put her at around my age, probably 41 tops though. Divorced with some kids at home. She's an HB5 at best but I figured it as I'd rather be sitting next to a woman anyday than most men. I said most. At least she wasn't a land whale and I didn't have to man the harpoons.
I noticed that she was somewhat sociable with me and always noticed out of the corner of my eye that she was looking my direction. Now truthfully guys, I have really no idea what my 'market value' is these days if I were a single dude. I really don't wear my wedding band very much because I don't like wearing jewelry and I knew we'd be outside doing some practice rides, thus I'd be wearing gloves and I didn't want to have to deal with that. So she probably got the impression I was available. Like most classes they usually have a short intro where you tell the class a little about yourself, thus that's how I found out she was a divorced mom.
Once I noticed that she had some interest in me, rather than roll my eyes at this crap I decided to try and treat it like a sort of date and put into active use the principles taught here on SS. Thus, I started off by maintaining a low profile and generally not saying much, letting her do the talking but moreso letting her hampster run on its own.
So during part of the written portions of the training we divided into groups and of course we end up in one of our own and we select which questions we'll be doing. She then takes this as an opportunity to ask me more about my personal life by opening with "So what did you say you did again?"
Me: I didn't say what I did.
Her: (taken aback) Oh! Oh....i see.
I could tell at this point she wasn't expecting that response but I could also tell by her reply that she was possibly borderline getting offended too, so I diffused it quickly by following up:
Me: Actually I do (x) type of work.
Her: Oh really?! I have to work with a lot of people in that field too where I'm at.....blah blah blah.
So for the next 5 minutes she's talking almost non-stop and stuff I do in my industry and you'd think she was the one who worked in my field. I just oblige with the usual "uh huh", "yeah", "oh right".
Her: So do you have a bike yet?
Me: No, nothing yet. I'm wanting to get this out of the way so that I can start taking some test rides and find out what works best for me.
Her: I have a Kawasaki...(I forget)...that I've ridden a bunch before with some friends. Do you have anyone you ride with?
Me: No, no one seriously right now since I'm just getting back into it. Plus I have to establish some level of trust, you know?
Her: Oh right, absolutely I agree with you there.
....more meaningless banter....
So to try and cut this short and get to the point of my post....she was already starting to get a little annoying anyway. After we left the classroom portion of the training, I didn't really talk to her directly anymore onec I stood back and thought for a moment that she isn't that hot, she's not that interesting, and I came her to learn something that I paid money for. She mainly gravitated toward the other men in the class after that.
Some principles learned here on SS that can be easily detected:
-Remain in control, both of yourself and the situation
-Many times, less is more. I occasionally catch myself in conversations with people and I spill out more information than necessary. It's also a part of remaining in control. Notice how the majority of women can't do this?
-Your time is valuable
-Don't let women distract you from your goals to improve yourself.
-Older, newly single women are often on a timeclock to lock you down.
That last one I think is key. If I had shown even an inkling of enthusiasm in reciprocating this chick's attention, I could have easily escalated and been making out in her car by the end of the day.
But no, this time I've got an actual FR. "How?", you ask? "Is Saul getting some honey on the side?" As interesting as it could be to create my own harem and join my household of women to those mormons who still practice polygamy, the answer is no, no honey on the side.
I took a motorcycle safety course recently since I'm getting back into riding. I thought this would be good for me as a method of getting my feet wet again rather than just showing up at a dealer wanting to do a test ride. But this isn't about the class...the class was simply the venue.
It's a small class and the only woman to show up decides to sit next to me. I put her at around my age, probably 41 tops though. Divorced with some kids at home. She's an HB5 at best but I figured it as I'd rather be sitting next to a woman anyday than most men. I said most. At least she wasn't a land whale and I didn't have to man the harpoons.
I noticed that she was somewhat sociable with me and always noticed out of the corner of my eye that she was looking my direction. Now truthfully guys, I have really no idea what my 'market value' is these days if I were a single dude. I really don't wear my wedding band very much because I don't like wearing jewelry and I knew we'd be outside doing some practice rides, thus I'd be wearing gloves and I didn't want to have to deal with that. So she probably got the impression I was available. Like most classes they usually have a short intro where you tell the class a little about yourself, thus that's how I found out she was a divorced mom.
Once I noticed that she had some interest in me, rather than roll my eyes at this crap I decided to try and treat it like a sort of date and put into active use the principles taught here on SS. Thus, I started off by maintaining a low profile and generally not saying much, letting her do the talking but moreso letting her hampster run on its own.
So during part of the written portions of the training we divided into groups and of course we end up in one of our own and we select which questions we'll be doing. She then takes this as an opportunity to ask me more about my personal life by opening with "So what did you say you did again?"
Me: I didn't say what I did.
Her: (taken aback) Oh! Oh....i see.
I could tell at this point she wasn't expecting that response but I could also tell by her reply that she was possibly borderline getting offended too, so I diffused it quickly by following up:
Me: Actually I do (x) type of work.
Her: Oh really?! I have to work with a lot of people in that field too where I'm at.....blah blah blah.
So for the next 5 minutes she's talking almost non-stop and stuff I do in my industry and you'd think she was the one who worked in my field. I just oblige with the usual "uh huh", "yeah", "oh right".
Her: So do you have a bike yet?
Me: No, nothing yet. I'm wanting to get this out of the way so that I can start taking some test rides and find out what works best for me.
Her: I have a Kawasaki...(I forget)...that I've ridden a bunch before with some friends. Do you have anyone you ride with?
Me: No, no one seriously right now since I'm just getting back into it. Plus I have to establish some level of trust, you know?
Her: Oh right, absolutely I agree with you there.
....more meaningless banter....
So to try and cut this short and get to the point of my post....she was already starting to get a little annoying anyway. After we left the classroom portion of the training, I didn't really talk to her directly anymore onec I stood back and thought for a moment that she isn't that hot, she's not that interesting, and I came her to learn something that I paid money for. She mainly gravitated toward the other men in the class after that.
Some principles learned here on SS that can be easily detected:
-Remain in control, both of yourself and the situation
-Many times, less is more. I occasionally catch myself in conversations with people and I spill out more information than necessary. It's also a part of remaining in control. Notice how the majority of women can't do this?
-Your time is valuable
-Don't let women distract you from your goals to improve yourself.
-Older, newly single women are often on a timeclock to lock you down.
That last one I think is key. If I had shown even an inkling of enthusiasm in reciprocating this chick's attention, I could have easily escalated and been making out in her car by the end of the day.
