So what? I have slept with dozens and dozens also lol,If they know you are BPD "self aware" you will always be at the top of their list,anyone with a scintilla of game can have a lifetime FWB is my point here...
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
BPD's can control their behavior…they choose not to
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
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Are you saying if her interest level is super high then a guy won't have to worry about behavior problems?
Another thing that I have noticed after decades of BPD experience is that it typically takes me 4-6 months to find out if they are a true BPD or not,yes they hide themselves that well.Out of 250 + women I have been with 12 are BPD so I suspect they are only 5-8% of the female population.Be careful what you say in these BPD threads lol,it is my experience that there is a "BPD NETWORK" this network is better than the CIA and NSA and Scotland Yard combined.I can't tell you how many times and ways they have contacted me when they DID NOT know my contact information (spooky) Also every single one of the BPD's I have encountered are heavily involved in the occult whether it be witchcraft,satanic worship or what have you.
I agree with you on high interest,I think it's important to point out that every BPD initiated WITH ME FIRST,whether we met online or out in public,it is my belief that they pick you not the other way around,and yes being "game aware" is vital if you decide to trifle with one,if you are not you might not survive the relationship.
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It definitely seems like they pick their victims selectively. She would always talk about how many guys are after her. When I asked if she dated a certain friend.... her response..."if I wanted him, I could have had him". I can look back now and see how she goes after wounded animals (broken, good men), then cheats on them when she gets bored. The cycle will never stop. She may settle when her looks fade, but she will always be an empty shell who is not capable of loving or being truly happy.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
A BPD sure can hide their true selves my ex sure could nobody knew about her dark side, she showed it not too me not too long after we met. Its always fun to get lashed out at, one minute she was fine the next she's p*ssed at me for no reason. The term empty shell is very true I wished she was the person she portrayed in public the bubbly happy young woman. Her happiness was always short lived no matter how much she tried to be happy it never lasted.
The guy she replaced me with I'm pretty sure is a narcissist he wanted her bad she wanted him for money she claims she loves him its probably all a façade like the rest of her life. She loves animals namely dogs more than humans she values her dog more than she values her BF she puts her dog first.
The split up with me shook her up, caused stress in her life she started to get fat, she also aged quite a bit, I didn't put up with her crap, we had some pretty intense fights. Then she went off her nut to get revenge on me she hated seeing that I was happy and she wasn't the smear campaign started.
Life is good she's been out of my life for 2.5 years she can stay out of it too, when she first met me she came on strong she just got out of a long term relationship she claimed she was the victim her ex boyfriend was abusive. Funny thing is she claimed I was abusive when we went our separate ways.
Stay away from these sick women there is nothing you can do for them they are damaged goods.
The guy she replaced me with I'm pretty sure is a narcissist he wanted her bad she wanted him for money she claims she loves him its probably all a façade like the rest of her life. She loves animals namely dogs more than humans she values her dog more than she values her BF she puts her dog first.
The split up with me shook her up, caused stress in her life she started to get fat, she also aged quite a bit, I didn't put up with her crap, we had some pretty intense fights. Then she went off her nut to get revenge on me she hated seeing that I was happy and she wasn't the smear campaign started.
Life is good she's been out of my life for 2.5 years she can stay out of it too, when she first met me she came on strong she just got out of a long term relationship she claimed she was the victim her ex boyfriend was abusive. Funny thing is she claimed I was abusive when we went our separate ways.
Stay away from these sick women there is nothing you can do for them they are damaged goods.
Their closest friends may
not even know that they are BPD. They have the facade with everyone. How can they keep
up the act with everyone else beside those closest to them? Its like if you can control your emotions for 8 hrs a day at work, why cant you control them for 3 hrs around me? I just dont get it.
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They want their coworkers to like them
The one I was with could switch back and forth like a light switch, if she was alone with me she wouldn't hide anything, if somebody come around she would put on the façade, once they left they she went back to her true self. It takes a lot of work putting on the façade she did slip up a few times people seen her other side but it was only for a few minutes she would go hide if she couldn't control herself. She was the hardest woman I've ever been around she took a lot of work to keep happy she always needed a lot of emotional support. We would get into some nasty fights she would be the one that instigated them things would be going fine she would pick a fight with me out of the blue for no reason. I do miss her at times but I'm glad she's out of my life she caused a lot of drama I was done with that.
They will do anything to get people to like them until the person really p*sses them off then they have no use for them, BPDs are truly childish.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
yeh thats prob it. Their need for apporval can temporarily override their insanity. I guess with their bf they dont care about approval. They have already devalued you. Personality disorders are fascinating. They are like mind parasites. Especially this one. Self awarness is the first thing that this parasite destroys. Fu*k i wish there was a cure lol
Yuppp very true.
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Remove the parasite from you and move on. You can't communicate with them.
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Yes everythings was good when being in public, but the Moment we got home, the **** started.... and guess what? She even noticed that but for sure told it was my fault.
Pets? She had cat and told me: I know you can not Understand somebody putting a cat first - before a human being. As you See: my fault for bot being empathetic enoug...
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Right. Acting out on everyone would result in a lack of validation in the long run. They just can not risk that. Plus. You get that hole emotions of the day they pushed aside all stored up for you.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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You as a boyfriend deal with her negative buildup of emotions.
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Guy. Seem as if you dated my ex - or I yours. So weird!
Yes, that's why they can Not control their emotions when it comes down to the people close to them. The closer you are to her, the more built up rage you get released onto you…
I third that.
My ex was the same, wonderful and nice one min and irrational and in a rage the next, over almost NOTHING.
It was unreal how someone could be so mad so much of their life.
Good point I could never understand why my ex treated me so terribly and everyone else except for family so well when I did more for her in every way.
Its like they treat their companion as punching bags to take everything out on.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.