BPD woman. Help?

[fuko2007]

so several of you gys probabially remember some of my posts about fighting to keep this woman or not. but for those of you that havnt i was seeing a woman who is 16 years older than me. we started out as fb but after a while she grew tierd of me getting dressed right after and leaving and wanted to do more things togther. so when i started to do that she started to flake out and grew distant and cold. she would always say she never did anything with friends etc but went out all the time and when i went out she got pissed. well anyway recently she started to go to dinner and stuff with guy friends etc.
she said she had never done anything with them before. well a mutual friend came foawrd and said she had sex with these two guys before and that they used to fb. then he procedded to tell me thats all she wanted was a fb. well look at how she treated me? sounds like she wanted her cake and eat it to right? well i had gone thru her phone also and saw some texts from a few people guys that were very suggesting of sex. but when i confronted her she flipped and tried making me feel guilty. anyway the other day i texted her to not contact me anymore and that someone had come foward about what she was doing. she denied if of corse and tried saying i was coming un hinged.
well when she brought that up i reminded her of her mood swings and the night that she stared to shove me. but anyway im starting to feel bad again and want to see her.
despte what she had done. i still care for her alot. but i want to hate her to. im at a loss here and dont know what to do. im talking to several women right now but that dsnt make me feel any better.

 

[Atom Smasher]

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[iamnobody]

Today I went through a lot of articles starting with this link (suggested by Maybe on my thread)
http://gettinbetter.com/fiftyways.html
Tons of helpful stuff, just go through all links.
But do run like hell from this one.

 

[SgtSplacker]

That girl needs to stay as FB status and that's it...

 

[fuko2007]

thanks iamnobody tons of usefull info in that link. sounds just like her. but sgtslacker i dont think we are going fb anymore haha. after i called her out. guess she wanted an emotional fb to and likes to flake on them. i do think run like hell is the best bet. i know ill see her driving down the road or will bump into her at the bar we both go to. just dont want her trying to get back at me by being all over some guy. that would up set me pretty badly. she has done plenty of damage already to my life with work family and friends all suffering from it. but i still am trying to shake the feeling that i need and or want her in my life still.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Everyone has trouble adjusting to life after a bpd relationship. Other women seem boring, and you don't realize how addicted you are to her emotional roller coaster. It's like coming out of any other addiction; it takes time to get normal again.