"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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BPD ex reached out, what is the proper response?

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usernamedox11

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Okay, so she reached out. Sent an email, explained how much regret she has over everything. Decided to check up on her social media, and I saw she deleted everything, from her facebook to instagram profile. I am guessing something did not go well with a new target. Also, her family is just as crazy as she is and hated me, and they constantly got in the way. They thought their stupid daughter was too good for me.

These are my three options

1) Text her mom and dad that their daughter reached out to me and I want nothing to do with her. Tell them to make sure she never contacts me again (this is also as a fvck you to them for thinking she was too good for me) and ignore her.

2) Simply ignore her.

3) Tell her that I am not interested and I have moved on.

What would be the most effective option in making her feel crap? She gave me a golden opportunity to win here, and I want to take full advantage of it. If any of you guys have any better ideas, let me know.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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how long had you been in No contact with her?
 

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Ignore. Why the fvck would you want to be with a crazy B!tch?

And ignoring shows indifference which will drive her nuts and also keep you from getting sucked back in to her web.

Unless you want start kissing her mouth that has probably had tons of loads blown in it since you were with her.......
 

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You broke up with her months ago and you still have her mommy on speed dial??

You're most serious option is tattling?

Seriously, are you like 9? If not, how about option 4) F*ck her?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You broke up with her months ago and you still have her mommy on speed dial??

You're most serious option is tattling?

Seriously, are you like 9? If not, how about option 4) F*ck her?
I see why you like BPDs so much.

Anyway, you don't really know the story. She got her mom involved at the end and her mom and father were very, very rude with me, insulted me. Told me they never wanted their daughter dating me in the first place. Same thing happened w/ her previous ex and her getting her parents involved.

I don't want to fvck her again. There's a guy she was with, similar to you. 40s, rich, fvcks hot looking strippers and models. He's married, too. She even fvcked with his head and he's not over her, even after 3 years. He STILL contacts her and tries, and she gets so much pleasure rejecting him. He is a complete DJ it seems, except with her. This is with all the puss he gets. I think this girl would have cleaned your clock, to be honest.
 

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Ignore her. The proper response is silence. Silence says you DGAF. Do Not involve her parents in any way.
 
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If you stick to NC that will tell her you are not interested and she should move on. If you tell her you are not interested, you will be feeding the beast and opening the door. If you really want nothing to do with this chick, do not feed the beast.
 

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I see why you like BPDs so much.

Anyway, you don't really know the story. She got her mom involved at the end and her mom and father were very, very rude with me, insulted me. Told me they never wanted their daughter dating me in the first place. Same thing happened w/ her previous ex and her getting her parents involved.

I don't want to fvck her again. There's a guy she was with, similar to you. 40s, rich, fvcks hot looking strippers and models. He's married, too. She even fvcked with his head and he's not over her, even after 3 years. This is with all the puss he gets. I think this girl would have cleaned your clock, to be honest.
Even more reason to ignore. You know what, fvck that........block her on everything so you don't have to even see her shyte again
 

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I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

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I see why you like BPDs so much.

Anyway, you don't really know the story. She got her mom involved at the end and her mom and father were very, very rude with me, insulted me. Told me they never wanted their daughter dating me in the first place. Same thing happened w/ her previous ex and her getting her parents involved.

I don't want to fvck her again. There's a guy she was with, similar to you. 40s, rich, fvcks hot looking strippers and models. He's married, too. She even fvcked with his head and he's not over her, even after 3 years. He STILL contacts her and tries, and she gets so much pleasure rejecting him. He is a complete DJ it seems, except with her. This is with all the puss he gets. I think this girl would have cleaned your clock, to be honest.
My BPD loves me. Your BPD had to have her parents talk to you after what you did at the family cookout. Could it be that all BPD women (and all seducers) are not alike?
 

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My BPD loves me. Your BPD had to have her parents talk to you after what you did at the family cookout. Could it be that all BPD women (and all seducers) are not alike?
Are you on the forum to brag and be a douche or to help? If your girl really bpd, you are selling yourself short.
 

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True BPDs cannot love you. After a couple of weeks after a break up, it might as well have been like they were never with you.
That's right, their part of the deal was all fake, but they always use the right words and statements to convince you it's real.…
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Yeah, I don't think they know what love is
No they don't. What they are though is a mindfvck to the max for you.
It's the main reason why they usually eject, (triangulation or dump) when you get too close, because there's nothing underneath to back up what they said to you earlier.
 
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Without a doubt IGNORE

Nothing hurts these crazy bishes more than, complete and utter silence..

Nothing you can say to her, or her parents will be as powerful as this.. SILENCE

Or better still.. just block the hoe.. no more bread crumbs, problem solved
 

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My BPD loves me. Your BPD had to have her parents talk to you after what you did at the family cookout. Could it be that all BPD women (and all seducers) are not alike?
Neil, your words are foolish. Who can take someone who tries to have relationships with sluts, strippers and hookers seriously?

I could find better relationship candidates in restaurant parking lots dumpster diving than the chicks you write about on here.
 

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Neil, your words are foolish. Who can take someone who tries to have relationships with sluts, strippers and hookers seriously?

I could find better relationship candidates in restaurant parking lots dumpster diving than the chicks you write about on here.
Prove it. Show us photos of the women who told you they love you.

Actually, it is you who is generalizing. My girlfriend is from one of the wealthiest families in the city (which is why my stepfather loved her - they know how to tell trash from class, you don't). She is merely trying to be a star on her own, to impress her father who she adores. I just learned that as she introduced me to her family.

Saying all strippers are hookers is patently false. Only 70% are.

She told me last night she doesn't want to strip anymore. Tell me how many millionaire strippers you know who love you and who decide to retire on your watch and we might take you seriously. Otherwise, go back to your Nintendo and xvideos.com.

The fact you want to hurl around insults is an expression of the rather extreme frustration that is your sex life.

 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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