BPD aftermath - hard to bond again

[Pasternak]

Four months since I ended a 2 year relationship with my 37 years old low-functioning BPD. Those who went through this aready know that the highs were the best you've ever expereinced and the lows are likely the worst you ever will. She was a pathological liar, couldn't hold a job, cheated while I was attending the funeral of my grandmother, betrayed me, most likely went to a porn audition behind my back and in the devaluation stage started her emasculating campaign. Paperform BPD, drop dead gorgeous, push & pull dynamics, suicide threats, black and white thinking, raging, not much to discuss about that. I know what you're thinking, low quality chick but her shortcomings only gradually revealed themselves when I was already hooked. Despite this, red flegs were everywhere so I could only blame myself.

I always had great success with women. Nowadays I don't find any pleasure in spinning plates, dating or even listen to their ****. Literally makes me vomit to picture myself cuddling with one.

I had my share of women and know it's still only 4 months out but started to wonder what could be the long term effects of this relationship on my psyche. I know there are some expereinced user here who are years ahead of me in the process.

 

[Willard]

My BPD relationship ended a little over 2 months ago. As soon as it ended I went back with an ex and started seeing other girls. I improved my game considerable by listening to audio books like: The art of seduction, the Psychology of achievement, and some David Deangelo stuff. I dropped the ex because it wasn't going anywhere, and started meeting more woman. I found one who is much more attractive and has a much better personality, I'm exclusive with her now and it's going great. I am 100% over the ex, she is still on my Facebook and I couldn't care less about her.

These articles helped me realize what I was feeling was perfectly normal and helped a lot. http://www.sharischreiber.com/articles.html

Good luck, I know what your going through.

 

[TheException]

I had my share of women and know it's still only 4 months out but started to wonder what could be the long term effects of this relationship on my psyche. I know there are some expereinced user here who are years ahead of me in the process.

The only effect on your psyche is the effects that you allow to happen....

You are not the only person who has had to deal with some sh1t in their life. Get over it the same way every one else does......one day at a time. Quit thinking about her, quit talking to her, quit comparing every other girl to her, etc.

You are far from helpless here.....take action.