Hockey Playa
Master Don Juan
IVe been told to do BP and give it a week rest. I cant imagine getting any real gains doing it once a week, 3 sets... I feel like i can bench again after 2-3 days, whats appropriate?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
muscle recovery and muscle growth are different things. your muscle needs to recover from a workout before any growth the workout induced can be manifest (woo, sounds like something out of a bad fantasy novel). you damage your muscles working out, this damage has to be repaired before any new tissue can grow.Skilla_Staz said:I've always been told that your muscles need a full week to recover when hammered, like they should be. My muscles are generally weaker and sore 4,5 even 6 days after an intense workout session.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
What about the 5x5 program? Those guys are doing benches, rows and squats 3 days a week.Warboss Alex said:Most people can handle training a muscle group twice a week as long as the volume is low. I've yet to see a routine on here where the volume is low enough to allow for more frequent training of a particular muscle however. it's very easy to overtrain 2xa week if you go all out, and you'd also need different exercises (2 x 5 deadlifts twice a week? you gotta be joking).
as far as I'm aware only the last set (i.e. the 5th set) of the 5x5 is an all-out set - if all five sets are 'all out' then they're not all out. (by all out I mean max load) hence the volume is low enough for you to do this.mrRuckus said:What about the 5x5 program? Those guys are doing benches, rows and squats 3 days a week.
Warboss Alex said:Skilla - if you're still sore 5-6 days after your workout then something's wrong. a couple of days is fine, especially if you've not trained for a while, but not if this is a regular thing. either your recovery is poorer than average, your diet is off, too much volume in your training, bad post-workout nutrition. In contrast my best gains were usually when I didn't get sore much or at all (my recovery was great, usually thanks to lots of cardio and truly massive eating).