"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Boyfriend LMR...I lost control somewhere...

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So this HB who I had already F-Closed 2 years back comes to visit me, as I'm touring near her town.
We have a good time, she's all done up, we go for drinks, a little dancing, and we get in her Jeep and drive back to my place.

I believe I lose control of the situation in the Jeep, because dance floor is hot and heavy- and Jeep becomes her talking about bull**** -ex bfs who complained she was too physical (!?), then she's talking about how much she's changed in 2 years, and how we're both lucky nothing happened to either of us because I hit it raw that time, etc. etc. - The mood completely changes.

We get back to the crib, make it to the bed, and she's resisting. I pull back, eventually we're kissing, I go for something more -- and I ask what the problem is... and she says she's "kind of in a long distance relationship" with a kid a few states away, who she's going to visit in a few days.

Long story shorter - bf drunk dials her while she's at my house, she's sobbing, and she leaves at 4 am after just making out a whole lot and telling me that I must hate her, and she knows what I want to do, etc.

My head was spinning. I wanted to tape her mouth shut.

Here are a couple more key moments :
- She asked me if I have ever cheated on a girl. My answer was no, but that I'm sure certain situations could arise.

- Later- after I had found out she had a bf- she asked me what I would do in her situation, and my ****ty answer was "I can't tell you what to do."

Basically, the chick was a headcase who couldn't stop talking. And now I'm left super frustrated.

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Should a situation like this ever arise in the future for you feed her some bullsh!t about how people just need to live for the now and let their passions take them.
 

doubledown11

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Should a situation like this ever arise in the future for you feed her some bullsh!t about how people just need to live for the now and let their passions take them.
I fed her that, telling her she was stressing out and thinking too much, etc.

Her reply was she wanted to, but didn't if she thought she was going to regret it...and she was so unsure about things, and yada yada ... where's my ductape?
 

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Feed her this for next time

"Sometimes you gotta let your heart lead you... even if you know its someplace you know you're not suppossed to be." Van wilder
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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