"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Boyfriend LMR...I lost control somewhere...

doubledown11

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So this HB who I had already F-Closed 2 years back comes to visit me, as I'm touring near her town.
We have a good time, she's all done up, we go for drinks, a little dancing, and we get in her Jeep and drive back to my place.

I believe I lose control of the situation in the Jeep, because dance floor is hot and heavy- and Jeep becomes her talking about bull**** -ex bfs who complained she was too physical (!?), then she's talking about how much she's changed in 2 years, and how we're both lucky nothing happened to either of us because I hit it raw that time, etc. etc. - The mood completely changes.

We get back to the crib, make it to the bed, and she's resisting. I pull back, eventually we're kissing, I go for something more -- and I ask what the problem is... and she says she's "kind of in a long distance relationship" with a kid a few states away, who she's going to visit in a few days.

Long story shorter - bf drunk dials her while she's at my house, she's sobbing, and she leaves at 4 am after just making out a whole lot and telling me that I must hate her, and she knows what I want to do, etc.

My head was spinning. I wanted to tape her mouth shut.

Here are a couple more key moments :
- She asked me if I have ever cheated on a girl. My answer was no, but that I'm sure certain situations could arise.

- Later- after I had found out she had a bf- she asked me what I would do in her situation, and my ****ty answer was "I can't tell you what to do."

Basically, the chick was a headcase who couldn't stop talking. And now I'm left super frustrated.

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Should a situation like this ever arise in the future for you feed her some bullsh!t about how people just need to live for the now and let their passions take them.
 

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Should a situation like this ever arise in the future for you feed her some bullsh!t about how people just need to live for the now and let their passions take them.
I fed her that, telling her she was stressing out and thinking too much, etc.

Her reply was she wanted to, but didn't if she thought she was going to regret it...and she was so unsure about things, and yada yada ... where's my ductape?
 

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Feed her this for next time

"Sometimes you gotta let your heart lead you... even if you know its someplace you know you're not suppossed to be." Van wilder
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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