Kailex
Master Don Juan
I have to agree with the last few posts.
Example being a woman I went out with a week or two ago. The first time I went out with her, she never brought her phone out, AT ALL. This is a rarity. Usually if you sit at a bar, they will leave it up there and as the notifications come in, they will at least glance.
During that date, I did indeed leave to use the restroom and upon my return, lo and behold, she was still not on the phone nor had she brought it out.
I told her right off the bat, that I was surprised that she hadn't done that and how much it peeves me because it's rude to just pick up a phone and text. I let her know I was old-fashioned and it was impressive to see that in this day and age.
We've gone out multiple times since, I honestly don't know what her phone looks like but she knows not to do it anytime I am with her in a dating environment.
On the flip side, I did go out with someone just last night who in the middle of the "date", AS I WAS TALKING, she picked up her phone and started texting her best friend. As soon as she put down the phone, she began talking about the person she just texted. She completely missed a good 3-4 sentences of what I had said. Now we've had this conversation before and she is older than me. As the bartender came over, I motioned to the woman to excuse me and I asked the bartender for the check.
The woman opened her eyes wide and asked why I was doing this. I very calmly and collected stated that it seemed that she had more important matters to tend to at the time than an ongoing conversation with me, so I would leave her to her phone and be done for the night. Her first reaction was disbelief and slight. The check came and I paid for my drinks, got up and left.
My phone has been going next level bonkers with messages from her. It went from disbelief, anger, and now apologies. She knew better, she tested me, I got up and left. There is no need for me to sit there and take it but sadly there are many men out there that would never had just asked for the check. Do you know how many men I see now just glancing up blankly at the TV screen at a baseball game they don't even care about because his girlfriend is just Facebooking away?
And this is just a microcosm of the very many other things that men just let slip through the cracks. If you are going to implement boundaries, it's not just about setting them up, it's about following through with them. Realize that not ALL women are going to break your "rules" but you don't have to mold your boundaries based on whoever you are seeing just because you value the box in between your legs.
At the end, it's all about self-respect and what you are happy with within your life.
Example being a woman I went out with a week or two ago. The first time I went out with her, she never brought her phone out, AT ALL. This is a rarity. Usually if you sit at a bar, they will leave it up there and as the notifications come in, they will at least glance.
During that date, I did indeed leave to use the restroom and upon my return, lo and behold, she was still not on the phone nor had she brought it out.
I told her right off the bat, that I was surprised that she hadn't done that and how much it peeves me because it's rude to just pick up a phone and text. I let her know I was old-fashioned and it was impressive to see that in this day and age.
We've gone out multiple times since, I honestly don't know what her phone looks like but she knows not to do it anytime I am with her in a dating environment.
On the flip side, I did go out with someone just last night who in the middle of the "date", AS I WAS TALKING, she picked up her phone and started texting her best friend. As soon as she put down the phone, she began talking about the person she just texted. She completely missed a good 3-4 sentences of what I had said. Now we've had this conversation before and she is older than me. As the bartender came over, I motioned to the woman to excuse me and I asked the bartender for the check.
The woman opened her eyes wide and asked why I was doing this. I very calmly and collected stated that it seemed that she had more important matters to tend to at the time than an ongoing conversation with me, so I would leave her to her phone and be done for the night. Her first reaction was disbelief and slight. The check came and I paid for my drinks, got up and left.
My phone has been going next level bonkers with messages from her. It went from disbelief, anger, and now apologies. She knew better, she tested me, I got up and left. There is no need for me to sit there and take it but sadly there are many men out there that would never had just asked for the check. Do you know how many men I see now just glancing up blankly at the TV screen at a baseball game they don't even care about because his girlfriend is just Facebooking away?
And this is just a microcosm of the very many other things that men just let slip through the cracks. If you are going to implement boundaries, it's not just about setting them up, it's about following through with them. Realize that not ALL women are going to break your "rules" but you don't have to mold your boundaries based on whoever you are seeing just because you value the box in between your legs.
At the end, it's all about self-respect and what you are happy with within your life.