Bokanovsky
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I'm glad to be able to express my thoughts with language you can relate to.This has to be the most autistic thing I've read here.
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I'm glad to be able to express my thoughts with language you can relate to.This has to be the most autistic thing I've read here.
if you think you need boundaries then you do need them.
thinking like an armchair quarterback and looking back on history, I would not put in a boundary with a woman that I am not married to. I would simply next her if the reason for boundary appears and or demote.
if married with kids and then you discover the need, then yes put them in and enforce by any means you can. even better if you are in a limited community and can place the boundaries on the other men.
if she is a very young virgin, then maybe you protect her with rules. any other, it is better if she makes the choice herself that aligns with what you like.
for sure do not worry about what others think about this, just do what feels right. if you feel the need for setting boundaries then do it. it is not insecure or jealous it is a reaction to something she is doing. she may or may not know she is doing something or she may have rationalized to herself so much that she thinks she is innocent. remember she is not your judge, what you think is more important than what she tells you.
I would NOT encourage girls' night out. if she needs a lot of girls' nights out, she is not ready for a committed ltr. that doesn't make her bad at all, just she isn't ready to priority one single man. just search SS, how many threads ask advice on how to approach a girls group and isolate one of them. btw: the girls know about all of this, that's why they want to go to those locations together.
self imposed boundaries are the stuff of a great girl.
submitting to your boundary is a sign of submission (and that's good..) but not a sign of desire.
ohh... what did you think about that?Yeah, and she called me from the venue and after she got home an hour later. She got hit on by guys repeatedly while sitting at a table with her girlfriends. In fact her girlfriends said they are jealous she get's all the attention. She is very petite and attractive so guys hit on her a lot. While she was shopping for expensive gifts for me, she told me she got three times at the mall shopping for me....
Just walk away. The talking part doesn't helpYou can set boundaries and she'll most likely cross them because she wants to test you or doesn't see you as her best option.
At that point, you have to tell her you aren't going to tolerate her behavior and you have to walk away.
Too many times I’ve agreed to be in a committed relationship without setting boundaries. Because I thought she might leave me and the sex would stop. I’ve learnt from that experience that you should always define what those boundaries are.Alright my SoSuave brothers here’s my opinion on setting boundaries based on my experience.
Setting boundaries in a relationship is too late.
If I see that she’s a gal with guy friends then I’m not interested in a relationship with her and I will not entertain the thought of her being my girlfriend.
What’s next OP,
You going to start a thread asking how to set boundaries on your gf/wife who doesn’t know how to manage money and over spends plus you took on her debt.
How about you just don’t get into a relationship with a woman of such financial ruin.
Just my opinion.
do you tell them and ask for agreement or just see what they do and decide based on that?Too many times I’ve agreed to be in a committed relationship without setting boundaries. Because I thought she might leave me and the sex would stop. I’ve learnt from that experience that you should always define what those boundaries are.
It’s better this way because I just don’t want to deal with girls who just can’t let go of that one male ‘friend’.
Very easy to just kick them to the kerb once you make that a requirement for a long term partner.
I usually talk about boundaries once she brings up the idea of us being committed. This usually happens after we’ve been dating a for a few months. Usually after I can no longer tell her ‘let’s see where this goes’.do you tell them and ask for agreement or just see what they do and decide based on that?