"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Bought flowers and present for russian girl, did she invite me?

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I have feelings for this russian girl i met and she ended things with me about a month ago (although we were never together officially) I decided to do something romantic and suave today cos it's new years (the most important night in the russian calender. they exchange presents on this night) I bought her flowers, 1 for her best friend and 1 for her roommate.

She was so surprised and stunned by this gesture I could see it in her face. She asked me what I was doing tonight, I kind of mumbled something about going to some hotel bar but I only referred to it by name so she doesn't know what I was talking about, I then ask her what she's doing, she tells me where she's going, my immediate response is my friend has a table there. She looked a bit uncomfortable or surprised when I said that maybe she's thinking 'hmm we might know the same person..' anyway I say, 'i might come by and see u there later' she smiles 'and says 'yeah' then I talked a bit then said 'ok if i dont see u there tonight we'll reconvene at later date'

then I went into kiss her on the cheek, but she kind of turned her face into a frown of uncomfortableness, maybe she thought I was going to kiss her lips. then I said goodbye. Did she hint she wants me to be there tonight at midnight?

I can't go to this place my friend who has a table is at cos I only met him today and none of my other friends will want to go there. Is it dangerous that if I do not show tonight my big gesture will be forgotten tomorrow?

I don't know if people are going to get laid tonight afters some alcohol. When I went to her room she looked a bit down, maybe lonley looking. Im concerned 1 of my rivals may be looking to make a move tonight on her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'd say the safest bet is NOT to go, regardless if she invited you or not.

I don't think she sounds excited to see you tonight though.
She doesn't seem very interested. I think you might be misreading her disinterest as dissapointment or lonliness.

But in the case that she is interested it is still safest to stay away tonight.

Dropping your plans to meet her doesn't look so hot.

If she's interested today, she'll still be interested tomorrow or next week.
 

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Yeah I didn't go. She text me before midnight though 'my friend said thank you ;)' this was for me giving her best friend a flower. She hates me, so it's better I get on her good side if I want this girl back. Is the fact the text wasn't anything indicative of me meeting up with her tonight a bad sign?

I sent a text back ':)' however i sent it 10mins after i got it at 23.50pm, I didn't want to send it after midnight because then i'd need to wish Happy new year and also, if I sent a text around midnight it wouldn't deliver because so many texts are being sent at the same time that the networks crash. Maybe it's bad that I sent it so quick after I got it.

Anyway we'll see later if she calls me when she's on her way back home whether she wants to see me.

I just don't know with these girls, I feel as if under the circumstances she'll hook up with someone else as she gets tipsy after 1 drink and drunk after 2 and she's gone to a salsa club for tonight.
 
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I just realised that her sending me a text at 11.40pm was probably her way of trying to see if i was coming as she wanted me there. I made the mistake of not asking her how the place was or starting a convo. she obviously didn't want to seem too keen.

Anyway I sent her a text a few days before saying how she was the only 1 I wanted to spend NY eve at 12 and 2010 with but she never replied. Her friend hates me (the 1 i also gave a flower to) so is it possible her friend may have said to her: 'see he's full of sh1t.. he sends u that text 2 days ago saying you're the only 1 he wants to spend NY eve with and he doesn't even make the effort to come'

is this highly probable?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Confused said:
I just realised that her sending me a text at 11.40pm was probably her way of trying to see if i was coming as she wanted me there. I made the mistake of not asking her how the place was or starting a convo. she obviously didn't want to seem too keen.

Anyway I sent her a text a few days before saying how she was the only 1 I wanted to spend NY eve at 12 and 2010 with but she never replied. Her friend hates me (the 1 i also gave a flower to) so is it possible her friend may have said to her: 'see he's full of sh1t.. he sends u that text 2 days ago saying you're the only 1 he wants to spend NY eve with and he doesn't even make the effort to come'

is this highly probable?
Your agony reminds me once again of how clueless most of you younger guys are here.
Inside every man is a ' Female IL Detector' (FILD). It works at the emotional level. When it registers a 'hit' from an interested women, it triggers off a tiny signal which is felt as a tiny 'zing' . This signal is not a loud clang or deafening 'ding dong'...the standard model FILD"s don't work that way...just a little tingling 'zing' is all.

Straight out of the box, these FILDs are not supplied with batteries and I can tell by the sheer number of bewildered posts, most of you have not bought and installed the required batteries either.
 

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what I find pathetic is guys who come here asking for advice, yet don't even take the time to read ANYTHING about the Game before doing so.

Seriously, just reading the most basic explanation of what works/doesn't work with women would get rid of 90% of threads on SoSuave...
 
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