"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Boring Girls, How to deal with them??

DonRaul

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So I am in this casual relationship. Now the problem is that its a long distance one. I know what you guys are thinking. Never Do Long Distance! But hey its nice to have a girl in another place. You drop by and instantly have someone to hangout with. And hence the reason I keep it casual.

I really like the girl physically. She's exactly what I want (HB9 I would say). The problem is, she's a bore to talk to. At first I thought she had low Interest in me and maybe that's why communication was so bad. However, she constantly calls me and when we are together she's very affectionate. Or perhaps I am just in denial? I then see her in action with others and yep she looks to have ADD(attention deficit disorder).

So I am bored to tears with this girl. If I ask open questions she either doesn't listen to them, doesn't answer them or worse comes with a I don't know answer. So I stop calling but then she calls and complains that I'm careless and behaves indifferent towards me. I tried different approaches even. For example, I tried asking a lot of questions and hope I hit a nerve. However she complains I ask too many questions and she feels I am controlling. huh? WTF :cuss: . Then I tried playing games with her, toying and flirting :up: . Again complains, she tells me I'm starting to act a like a kid (Im 25, she's 21). So I am on the verge of giving up! This girl is just impossible. Or maybe too young??

So Don Juans What are your techniques with dealing with this type of girl? Should I take the easy way out and just give up?
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Did I hear somewhere that this girl is interested in you or am I imagining it, if she's interested, and you're interested in her (physically) then you should know what to do.

"However, she constantly calls me and when we are together she's very affectionate."

If you want her physically, arrange a date where little to no communication is needed (eg a movie at your house) and then bump it up and build huge sexual tension.
 

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Mr Plow said:
Did I hear somewhere that this girl is interested in you or am I imagining it, if she's interested, and you're interested in her (physically) then you should know what to do.

"However, she constantly calls me and when we are together she's very affectionate."

If you want her physically, arrange a date where little to no communication is needed (eg a movie at your house) and then bump it up and build huge sexual tension.
Long Distance Relationship :( I will not see her until the end of december. Do I just keep torturing myself until then?

I can work wonders If I can be with her physically. I do have someone else and I think that sort of the problem. This other person is amazing and our conversations a great. I think I compare the two and become annoyed at the HB9 one.

HB9 = Boring
HB7.5 = exiciting to speak with.
 

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Mr Plow is right, if you wanna bang her, just bang her. I wouldn't go around trying to be her speech therapist as it sounds as though she's happy with where she's at.

Dont be hypnotized by the pu$$y, if yall don't fit, yall just don't fit.....nothing wrong with a casual shag though!:D
 

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I just wanted to like her, you know. I want to enjoy talking to her. I can shag anytime I want. To be honest I'm getting tired of sex. Once you sleep with sexy beautiful women, you feel sex is overrated (until you get really horny again ;) ). I am now looking for women who can make me happy outside of bed. I have plenty that can make me happy in bed.

She's gorgeous (and has money to boot) so I guess I wanted the best of both worlds.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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