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ok..my GF is fun at times..but most times she pretty boring...like shes never been in a relationship and doesnt kno what to do...

for example..a typical friday or saturday night is this...going to her house(or her coming to my house) and fooling around for a lil..but most fo the times sittin on the couch watching tv....granted, it is FREEZING outside, we still take walks and such...but everytime i try to introduce something to do she says 'no'..ideas included bowling, movie, mall, dinner, etc..she never wants to do anything....

so this is what goes down...
HER: lets sit on the couch
ME: again?...lets do something fun tonight
HER: No..its too cold i just wanna stay inside (like always)
ME: errr ok

Then we proceed to watch TV for 1+ hours with some light kisses at times..

HER: Are u tired?
ME: not at all i wanna do something fun
HER:eek:h...(and she falls asleep)

she always falls asleep and i tell her "why am i here if all u wanna do is sleep"

Her: im sorry i fell asleep
Then im pissed off and she says "why are u mad" and i say gotta go bye and i call up my boys and do something fun

then she e-mails me and says she sorry shes soo boring and that we should do something fun

This happened at least 5 times..and frankly im getting bored now..but i dont wanna break up with her just yet...

ANy advice?
 

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Date someone less boring. She was boring when you met her and you still chose to date her. Why date someone boring if it's an issue? :confused:
 
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How's the sex?
 
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Call up your friends and find out where a party is at. Then, tell your girlfriend I'm gonna go to a party "X" night. If she doesn't want to go; go without her and tell her all the fun she missed out on. It doesn't have to be a party either. Just a social gathering with friends you know. Now, if that doesn't work you got two options. 1. Talk it out with her and let her know whats up. Or 2. Leave her for someone more fun/interesting.
 
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it sounds like she may just want to have sex with you

but yeah, IAFYB's advice is pretty good
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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illmatic1005 said:
ok..my GF is fun at times..but most times she pretty boring...like shes never been in a relationship and doesnt kno what to do...

for example..a typical friday or saturday night is this...going to her house(or her coming to my house) and fooling around for a lil..but most fo the times sittin on the couch watching tv....granted, it is FREEZING outside, we still take walks and such...but everytime i try to introduce something to do she says 'no'..ideas included bowling, movie, mall, dinner, etc..she never wants to do anything....

so this is what goes down...
HER: lets sit on the couch
ME: again?...lets do something fun tonight
HER: No..its too cold i just wanna stay inside (like always)
ME: errr ok

Then we proceed to watch TV for 1+ hours with some light kisses at times..

HER: Are u tired?
ME: not at all i wanna do something fun
HER:eek:h...(and she falls asleep)

she always falls asleep and i tell her "why am i here if all u wanna do is sleep"

Her: im sorry i fell asleep
Then im pissed off and she says "why are u mad" and i say gotta go bye and i call up my boys and do something fun

then she e-mails me and says she sorry shes soo boring and that we should do something fun

This happened at least 5 times..and frankly im getting bored now..but i dont wanna break up with her just yet...

ANy advice?
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Get a new girl friend who's more exciting. What's the point of having someone in your life that's not enjoyable to you? It's not your problem but hers. I never met a girl who rather sit around and watch TV than have fun. Maybe her idea of fun it different than yours and you two really aren't compatible. So the easiest way is to cut the BS and get a new one. Human habits are strong and tend to stay with the person forever, do you really want to sit in front of the TV for another 50 years?
 
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If she's thin, caucasian and has brown hair, I'll be glad to take her off your hands.
 
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JackBauer24 said:
If she's thin, caucasian and has brown hair, I'll be glad to take her off your hands.
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What if she's flat, boring personality and 3 stds?
 
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Nip/Tuck said:
What if she's flat, boring personality and 3 stds?
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Does she like it doggy style?
 
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