Boring feeling in convo's

[Credos]

Hey I'm in the bootcamp and i'm in week 3,

Yesterday i had some convo's but a lot of the times i feel like i'm boring the people i'm talking with... I just ask some questions but maybe you guys could gimme some hints or links for how to make my convo's with people better

 

[INXS]

Hey I'm in the bootcamp and i'm in week 3,

Yesterday i had some convo's but a lot of the times i feel like i'm boring the people i'm talking with... I just ask some questions but maybe you guys could gimme some hints or links for how to make my convo's with people better

You can't bore a woman to feeling attraction!

Wait wait wait..say that outloud till you get it. Now go write it on the chalkboard ten times in a row. Just make sure you get this. LOL Ok now seriously that you know that fact and understand it, you are miles ahead of the tons of AFCs out there.

Now....

Here are some convo tips that I use..my personal "stuff"

1) Ask this question right off the back, and say it just like this on your first date with a woman, as the first question. "I need to ask you something. It is very important though." (The trick is to build up the question like it is something that would alter your views on being attracted to her.) pause and continue with "On a scale of 1-10, 10 being totally comfortable, and 1 being very uncomfortable (pause) How comfortable would you feel..(long pause for dramatic effect) riding a rollar coaster..naked? (LOOK SERIOUS)

She will answer and go from there. Just be playful. Why this whole set works well is mainly because how many guys seriously ask this question at all? They talk about the same boring stuff. How much money I make. Where I work. My hobbies. Blah blah blah blah blah. Borrrrrrrrring. Be unique. Be different. The point is... Ask fun stuff.


2) Get into Palm Reading or Handwriting anaylis, stuff that women will find VERY fascinating. And if you have a job that might on the surface seem boring, get into it, think about it and find ways to make it very fascinating to women.

3) Speak with analogies. (This is an art, here is a website to help out: http://www.brainstorming.co.uk/tutorials/analogytutorial.html)

Once you start really having fun conversations with women you will want to make them laugh, you will be vibing with them, and have a spark, cus being interesting works. It is like the same effect: Pamela Anderson's body has for men. It will work! So be ready.

Here are some quick tips along these same lines:

Don't ever put yourself down if you are telling jokes. Make jokes either busting on her clothes, style, whatever, "That is a big purse. What do you have a dog in there?" or other people around you. "Look at that guy over there, he looks like the offspring of Rob Zombie and Austin Powers."

If a woman responds well to something you say or do, be it a funny gesture, or maybe sarcastic remarks, do it more. If you play with her hair and she laughs and say "Don't do that." Do it again. (Side note: If she BASTARD STOP! - then quit!) Know the difference between "playful" and "serious."

Treat her like an old friend. Instead of being all awkward and saying, "Hi so ummmmm what are you into?" NO NO NO! BAD! How would you greet your best friend if you were out with them? ( Side note: If you say stuff like "Hey *******" to your friends - tone it down a notch.) Point being say stuff like "Heyyyy" "How was your day?" Stuff you would say. There is a certain magic that rapport does. Use it. Treat a woman with rapport. Like you have known her forever. It will totally help with the comfort level.

and lastly.... THE BIGGEST TIP OF ALL

When this stuff starts working, and you notice it, DON'T THINK IT IS THE WOMAN AND TURN ALL MUSHY AND WUSSYISH. NO NO NO. All that is the spark. The vibe. It will happen again. Realize it will happen again. Don't get all hung up on one woman. It will happen again..with other women. The spark will happen with more then one woman. The best thing to do is to just realize it will happen again, enjoy it while it is happening instead of focusing on, making her "the one." Just have a good time. I know from experience. Always be meeting new women, that way if one doesn't work out, you don't have to spend time being mad about it, you can just focus on someone else.

Good luck and great question!

 

[Credos]

Ok great, thx for the response, ill get it on the field tonight, i bet with some practice this will become natural pretty fast . But euhm should I apply this also when i first approach and start a convo? (just making sure its not only on dates etc kinda rhetorical question)

Wish me luck with the bootcamp Ciao

 

[Doggystyle]

Excellent response INXS, its gotta hold on me.....a new sensation!

Just about the palm reading though, i know people say this stuff works but from where i'm from you would get laughed out the bar if you actually did it seriously.

The only reason I would do palm reading would be to kino and say some thing funny e.g.

yep.....i knew it......(suspense)...........you really are a dirty *****! (depending on the vibe)

You know, you can get botox to sort out all these wrinkles and have a nice smooth palm!

oh my god.........(more suspense).......your hands are filthy, where have you been!?

 

[INXS]

Ok great, thx for the response, ill get it on the field tonight, i bet with some practice this will become natural pretty fast . But euhm should I apply this also when i first approach and start a convo? (just making sure its not only on dates etc kinda rhetorical question)

Wish me luck with the bootcamp Ciao

Great! Also as far as opening, If a woman has a purse (or you meet her at a mall and she is carrying a big bag full of clothes or items) use this:

"That is a big bag. What do you have a dog in there?" She will probably laugh and she might even say no. Whatever she says, just give her a sly smile and say, "You know I don't know if pets are allowed here" or "I saw you put your dog in there earlier. Don't lie about it. Come on now." From there just say, "So where you from...?" and maybe like one other throw away question that doesn't matter. Then do the 3 minute phone number trick.

"Well I am going to get back to what I was doing. It was nice talking to you."

TURN AROUND

WALK AWAY

TURN BACK AROUND

Say "Hey"

She will probably say "Yeah"

Say " you got e-mail?"

The second she says yes, take the yes as a "yes" to giving it to you. Say "Great. Write it down. (hand her notepad and pen) "Great, if you are lucky, I'll e-mail you." Now as she is writing it down, say "And write down your name and number also, I didn't get that either." This is a powerhouse because, she is already comfortable writing down the e-mail, so it will only be natural.

Other good ways for approaching women are:

If on the street or out somewhere, walk up to her and say, "Are you single?" Trick is: Don't ask it like you are some desperate guy, ask it like she just stole your car or like she just robbed your house. Like you are a detective. Try it in front of the mirror. Once she answers, if she says no, walk away. If she says yes, chances are she will ask why, or if not explain why anyways. Either way follow up with: "Well, that is great. I know someone who would love to take you out for tea and have stimulating conversation with you, get to know you. Give me your number and I'll have them call you." All through that be giving kind of a sly grin. This works because it adds the element of mystery. She might be thinking "Is it you?" But with the sly grin, it implies, it is you. Good stuff.

Another good opener is to walk up to her and say "You are.....(pause for two seconds while KEEPING eye contact. Maybe even wait for her to ask, "Yeah?") and say "Beautiful." Holding the eye contact that long shows you have balls, and that is a good thing.

Or just lend something to the situation. (IE - If in a bookstore, say "Could there be any more books here?"

JUST BE SURE TO TREAT HER WITH RAPPORT!!

From there, just go back to the 3 minute phone number trick.

Here is another little tip:
DON'T EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER stand around and make borrring conversation once you get the number. Once you have the number LEAVE.
I know you will probably feel like you are James Bond or Bruce Wayne or some other famous ladykiller, but newsflash YOU AREN'T IF YOU ARE STANDING AROUND MAKING BORRRING CONVERSATION. BE LIKE THEM AND LEAVE. Would Bruce Waye or James Bond stand around after getting a number? Nope. So don't you do it either. :nono:
Get it? Got it? Good!

Excellent response INXS, its gotta hold on me.....a new sensation!

Just about the palm reading though, i know people say this stuff works but from where i'm from you would get laughed out the bar if you actually did it seriously.

The only reason I would do palm reading would be to kino and say some thing funny e.g.

yep.....i knew it......(suspense)...........you really are a dirty *****! (depending on the vibe)

You know, you can get botox to sort out all these wrinkles and have a nice smooth palm!

oh my god.........(more suspense).......your hands are filthy, where have you been!?

First of all, glad you dig INXS. I am always happy to talk to people who appreciate great music!

Beyond that, great tips! I might try some of these myself. As far as palm reading, I agree with what you said. I normally save the palm reading for the first tea/coffee date, and not in a public place. It is more personal. It gives that extra spark sort of.

Cheers!

 

[Credos]

Great thanks for the tips INXS! Yesterday i really had good results thx to you , you should read the thread , maybe you can help all of us a bit out with the bootcamp

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=105822