Borderline Wife- Was ref from yahoo answers

[sadonomspa]

yea, I know what you mean. She liked taking relationship advice from 20 year olds that joined the navy.

She basically told me all her friends said I used her for sex and to clean the house. But then when I ask her friends from childhood or whatever friends she has left here about the situation they are like "I cant believe she is divorcing you" her brother just said "its one of the *insert her name* things"

Even he did not understand and its her brother.

When we were stuck in our lease she was content on just being roomates. Then she joined and left me 2 months shy of it.

F-in disrespect!!! I am happy I have not picked up her calls or texts now.

The girl is so disrespectful in everyway. Even when we had our serious talks this month she was texting her friends the whole time!!! Even when we skyped to "talk" she was texting everybody and looking around and not even paying attention to me.

I want revenge now but I know this is a natural response and her life is miserable enough.

Atleast I allowed myself to be happy yesterday which means that it is totally possible I just have to discover the link to good feelings and not obessing about her...

 

[sadonomspa]

Ok I just had a mini revelation, it might actually make the process of getting over the BP some what easier or lucid.
In my past I was a patient of Dr John Sarno. He is a famous Dr for dealing with pyschosymatic medicine. Anyway when she moved in with my I developed lots of pain and Doctors couldnt tell me what was wrong. I had horrific anxiety over it exactly the same thing I am feeling now.

Anyway if you read about it he says pain, depression, anxiety are all bigger components of unconcious rage.

Now it seems a common trait with non's is that we are attached to these people and when they leave we are emotionally devasted for a long time.

I am thinking this does not have to be. If we look at it from the aspect Dr Sarno tells us too.

Basically when we feel panic, anxiety or even pains we should think I about messed up things in childhood that happend to us. Uncomfortable thoughts.

Now I did this with my pain and it worked. But before it started working I actually got worst and thats what made me think it was not working.

Anyway its food for thought, I am going to apply my problem as something that my mind is blowing way our of proportion because I have lots of anger and rage stemming from childhood.

Does any of this make sense?

 

[sadonomspa]

So now she tells me she took out a 15 k loan bought a car and then crashed and totaled it along with her new lap top 2 days later.

She blamed it on the guy i infront of her and the weather as well as saying the tires had no rain grip...

 

[Bible_Belt]

lol, my bpd girl did a 6-month jail sentence for an aggravated dui and car-totaling crash.

BPDs shouldn't drive.

 

[Negative_Nancy]

I bet you she's a lesbian