"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Tuesday sounds good to me. That way we'll have most of the week and the entire weekend for the lesson. Anyone else in?
 
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Sounds good...I'm going to the Dave Matthews RedRocks concerts next weekend (3 nights). It will be oozing w/ HB's. Oughta be a good place to start this out.
 

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Nice man, let Dave make them hot then you finish the job! ;D Where do you live in Denver? My bro goes to school at DU. College starts Monday for me in Mass so I'll be suffocated with HB's soon enough. Peace
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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back from my trip and ready to roll. i live in south denver fmh. DU is just a little north of here. i go to a coffee shop near there sometimes. maybe campus would be a good place to sarge? ask your bro where to go there.

i'm ready to start this thing tonight--get off work at 5. i live right by a mall too. 50 eye contacts and "hi's"? is that exercise 1?
 

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Yo bud. Yeah, definitely check out the campus. I'll ask my bro where the cuties are. Instant message me at my AIM sn "onetufthomre." yeah, 50 eye contacts, smiles, and hi's. gl
 
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eh, day one was sort of a failure...went to the mall last night. wasn't much at all for hot girls there. at least i know where not to go on a weeknight. made eye contact with a few, said hi to an hb7 standing around with a guy (bf?) got a hi back. got a couple other responses. nothing real exciting. need to scout out some new locations. i don't know where the girls are hiding on this side of town. gonna try bookstores next.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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day 1 went really well for me. For the first few girls, it felt awkward, but I kept it up and got myself into a state where I didn't give a fu*k and I started smiling and saying hi to everyone (even if they didn't have the confidence to look me in the eye). I even struck up a few convos but didn't close because they were ugs. After an hour of this, the state wore off and I was sick of smiling and I wanted to be serious again. I guess I need to keep doing the exercises and expand the amount of time that I can stay in state. It takes a lot of energy out of me! Hit up the college campus dude, you can say hi to one after another after another. peace
 

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I'll start with today I guess.

I'd say Day 1 was pretty awesome, sat next to a HB9, did some fluff talk about NO since her cousin is out helping people down there. Towards the end of class, it sort of went like this, I know I screwed up, but who cares.

Me: "Hey mind giving me your number?"
HB: "Why?"
Me: "Why not?"
HB: "Sorry I don't give numbers blah blah People call all the time, especially when they're drunk blah blah"
Me: "Then turn off your phone"
HB: some lame excuse, I wasn't paying attention.

Next class, said hi to a HB8 that I sort of know from last week. Got the tests handed back. I got a 3/10 she got a 10.5/10. Hated her for being smarter than me, she laughed and did a quick kino touch on my shoulder as she got to her seat. I decided to keep her as a friend, I've got better ones to deal with.

Next class, sat next to another HB9 I'm familiar with (We introduced each other a few days ago, got her number already). Talked briefly about classes. Luckily we have the same class but at a different time. She wanted to "study" with me before the exam. I told her I was busy all week (which is actually true), so I'll give her a call. Now I'm not sure which is best, my place or hers. I still live with my parents unfortunately, but I'm afraid I'd get lost trying to find her place.

Hopefully I'll get a portfolio going of the girls I meet. I need to invest in a cell phone with camera. Mine's horribly outdated.

Had a quick convorsation and a few hi's, but I never count, it's almost second nature to me now.
 

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Day 2

Talked to this HB8 that seems REALLY into me, tons of kino during class, I couldn't get the balls to do it during class :eek: She seems always happy to see me and laughing. Got her number, I was almost shocked on how easy it was and I made sure the one that rejected me yesterday was watching at the time.

Did more on college work today than going out on the field since I feel I'm behind a bit plus it was pretty cold outside, wasn't feeling up for it. Also, I have a coffee break tonight with a HB9, my turn to use lots of kino.

Total: 3 numbers, 1 date, 1 rejection
 
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Nice work Vanilla. I miss my college days. Was lazy yesterday, didn't go out after work. I will try tonight. Then going to Dave Matthews concerts Fri, Sat, and Sun nights. Fri and Sun I'm going with a female friend...cute...but not hot. Not into her as anything more than a friend but she wishes it were otherwise. There will be tons of HB's at the Dave concert...so I'd like to capitolize. I went to a wedding with her last weekend and was hitting on this girl at the table with us... didn't seem to bother her that much...

do you guys ever try to sarge when out with girls that you're friends with? does that piss them off? i know a dj shouldn't give a schit, but i do still value my friendships... maybe i can sarge while standing in line for drinks at the concert.
 

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what up pimps. this eye contact and smiling exercise has made me realize that many women that come off as "too hot for everybody" are actually insecure little girls. They hide behind their giant sunglasses and designer clothing and seem intimidating to the men who don't try to figure them out. Anyway, I had wonderful s#x last night.

shaken: if you sarge chicks while your friend is there, it will show her that you have balls. she will probably become attracted to you. Def go for it right in front of her.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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well, one night left of the DMB concert. so many hot girls there. i talked to a few at the concert...i don't know if that counts though cause 90 percent are either drunk or high or both. was hittin on the two girls sittin next to me right in front of my friend. one even asked for my number. i think it made my friend jealous. she was tellin me how much those girls wanted me.

then i ended up drinking too much and made out with my friend in the parking lot before driving home. this **** is gonna get messy. i don't really wanna date this girl. i'm not gonna apologize or really make much of a deal out of it cause ya know what, i'm tryin takin on the "i don't give a ****" attitude that girls seem to love. i suppose i'll have to address it at some point since she's a friend.

whoever says you can't date once you are friends is an idiot. as long as you are the one that puts her in LJBF camp, then the option is always available to you. maybe its just when its the other way around that you are screwed...or not as the case may be.

ok, i need some pushing here. i need to get my ass out and sarge this week. anyone else got a report. mine sucks.
 
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