Bootcamp: Week One

[Chrom3y]

Well This is it. After trolling around this site for about a year i think, and reading things and barely appling them to real life situations, it's time I took control of my life and made some changes. All my life I've been a little shy guy that kept to himself and never really had any highlights in life. Life is short, and Im wasting the little time I have here on earth. So with that said here are the goods and bads about me as well as goals.

GOODS
I have a decent body, athletic and getting better as I work out.
I have eyes that girls flip out over lol.
Intellectual..?
Wow..thinking of pros is harder than I thougt..

Bads
Although I have good looks, my confidence SUCKS. Maybe I feel pressured to BE confident since I look good, if that even makes sense.

I have approach anxiety and I hesitate way too much before making a move on a girl.

People skills aren't the best, I need to learn how to be at ease around groups of people and have a good time.

I dont speak my mind much..

I am not satisfied with where I am in life regarding girls and just socially.

I DONT LIVE LIFE!

So easy to point out cons, negative thinking maybe? Positive reinforcement is a definate trait I need to add to my mind.

Okay, heres looking to the future:

Goals Baby!!!
Confidence UP! Like most people who begin bootcamps, I want to be able to do things and not think about the consequence or what others will think. Just all in the name of fun and adding value to my life.

No more AA! Nothing to explain here...that sh!t sux.

Social Circle, I have few friends that I can actualy chill with. People know my name and what not but Im not the guy people call to come over and hang out or w/e.

Closeness to the family, I think I've been drifting away from my family. I feel like an outcast. My family is very outgoing and of course its ME that is the shy guy of us all.

Get a job. This will help me better my people skills tremendously as I will be forced to talk to others and become somewhat familiar with them.


And lastly (too many goals to type), REDUCE PC TIME! Technology is so good, but it screws us up at the same time. It should be instinctive for us as men to go after what we want, but instead we sit back and think about what would happen if we DONT get it, instead of taking action. I'm tired of being that type of man...or AFC.

Oh and I want to get better at tennis, I've been slacking lately. Anyone here play? I need to get in some tournaments.

With all that said, Today's the first day of my upcoming change. And goddamn I can't wait! lol

 

[kingy]

great stuff mate, just adding little things to your life that you keep up continuously will change your long-term destination greatly.

I wont let myself finish the way I began

 

[Chrom3y]

As for Thyme, and Senior Juan who also said they were down to do the bootcamp, I'd like it if you guys posted your stuff in here and track progress week by week.

 

[Thyme]

yea man ill def be posting in here. it'll be pure motivation

Closeness to the family, I think I've been drifting away from my family. I feel like an outcast. My family is very outgoing and of course its ME that is the shy guy of us all.

Get a job. This will help me better my people skills tremendously as I will be forced to talk to others and become somewhat familiar with them.

Oh and I want to get better at tennis, I've been slacking lately. Anyone here play? I need to get in some tournaments.

these are three goals that i can relate to and i know they are very important. the family one you have no idea how much confidence you can get from being a part of a fun and 'vibing' family. some of the time i see friends who are in your situation and their fun family members rub off the charisma on to him.

about the job - try to get a job that requires you to be social: server/waiter, fast food place cashier, gas station, (best yet if you can get it) bartender.

i used to play a LOT of tennis. at my peak i was ranked number 1 in the northern division (challenger two, but those were the only tournies in my area). sports really helped me with confidence - when i was the best i walked around like i knew it and was proud of it. people noticed.


For me, my main goals for the first couple of weeks of the b/c is completely ridding myself of AA. that entails my thoughts too. i also want to be comfortable talking to older hot women (im 18, so like 20-23year olds). i think if i can get rid of my AA with older hot girls (who are my big fear right now), the ones my age wont phase me at all.
another goal is i want to come across as different to girls i approach. i want them to be curious about me - and that means i will have to push the limits a bit. i will have to be funny/crazy/spontaneous while not coming off as weird or unattractive.

should be an interesting 8 weeks.

 

[Chrom3y]

Ughh I feel like today sucked. The morning was fine, but that was before I started the bootcamp and had tennis practice .

As for today's progress, I only got in 4 hi's. It's weird because I always looked at other people's journals and thought how the hell did you only get 3-5 hi's in one day? For me, I think I made a bad decision on where to do it. Not a lot of people at all and I didnt say anything to the person if they didnt hold eye contact with me.

Now that I'm aware of this, the majority of people WILL NOT maintain eye contact with another person. I'm only 5'8 and maybe 160 lbs and much bigger, more masculine guys than me fail to hold eye contact. It's crazy lol. I avoided 2 HB's(can you say no...balls? lol).

So after those 4 hi's only 2 of them I feel were satisfactory. I need to work on my voice projection more, and smile. I forgot to do that. I also found it very easy to talk to people over the counter in a store. Do hi's like this count? This one chick I asked about job applications was completely mesmerized by my eyes and its like she was looking into my soul lol. But I think she was a dike...?

So tomorrow I plan to walk to cross country practice rather ride my bike, just so I can come across more people. I'll also take the longer route. I'm off to a slow start, but hey I gotta start somewhere.

-All in the name of change :rockon:

Btw...Thyme man I wish you were here in Jersey. I need major help with my forehand. my backhand is making better progress!! WTF lol, I didnt even think that was possible.

 

[Thyme]

ok here is my update. sunday-earlier today i was in NYC by myself just kinda bouncin around. one day i spent specifically working on the bootcamp and had pretty good success.

my eye contact is done (i got ****ty results though, freakin new yorkers hardly ever keep their eyes anywhere but where they are walking). and i got 23 hi's (of which about 3/4 went into a short conversation, and 4 went into a long convo).

when i was on the street, i would ask for htings like directions/good places to eat/fun stuff to do. a lot of the time i got really good feedback if i actually got them talking to me. but i never felt like going past the quick 30 second convo about directions and stuff like that. i felt like it would be awkward to say:

me- "hey, do you know this area well?"
her- "yeah"
me- "ok sweet im looking for this place called McSorelys... you have any idea where i can find it? i know its around here somewhere..."
her- "oh yeah mcsorelys is right over there (points)"
me- "ok thanks... (this is when i feel like it is natural to just go, and it would be weird to try to force the convo on) "so lemme get your number and we'll meet up sometime."

but i do have a feeling that i could pull it off, but id have to give her a really fun a spontaneous feeling ya know?


anyways i got really good success with long convos when i went to this art gallery thing (i hate art, but imo great place for meeting women). i saw about 5 groups of gals my age, and i got into 5-10 minute long convos with 3 of them. they were into me i could tell. i would always start the convo kinda lighthearted and funny -

me - (staring fixedly on a stupid picture of a persons head) "how does this picture make you feel?" (and i would say this without actually looking at her)
her - (kinda uneasy at first, bcz she isnt sure if im just messin or not) "hmm... kinda sad?"
me - WRONG. its supposed to make you feel anachronistic (or any stupid long word)
her - haha whatever! (now she can tell im pullin her leg)
me - yea im jst messin with ya, i cant stand this stuff. please dont tell me you like it...

convo goes on...

the only problem i saw myself having was after the fun witty first part, it would always go to the boring interviewing type questions "so where you from" etc. i hate those and i am going to make it a goal to stay as far away from those questions as possible.

keep me posted on your guys' adventures!

 

[Thyme]

woohoo done with week 1.

im tired now tho... long day. ill will post about it later

 

[Thyme]

um chrom3y i really think it would benefit us all if we just joined rushingdudes b/c. he is very good at running them and there will be many more people=motivation. im going to do it and i would encourage you to as well.