B-Lemond
Master Don Juan
Bootcamp started May 1st, Week #5
You CAN"T BE SERIOUS!
How many days constitutes as a "week", then?
You CAN"T BE SERIOUS!
How many days constitutes as a "week", then?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Bootcamp started May1st, Week #5
- Thread starter OceanWindRider
- Start date
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
nonchalant
Senior Don Juan
yeah this is like 'month 5'
in my defense i've been approaching on my own, and if you read other boot camp threads, others have stretched this week out too.
in my defense i've been approaching on my own, and if you read other boot camp threads, others have stretched this week out too.
OceanWindRider
Don Juan
B-Lemond, considering 90% of the people dropped out...
usually 55 days...
but this week we're taking it easy... so it's a bit short
usually 55 days...
but this week we're taking it easy... so it's a bit short
Thomas94305
Senior Don Juan
OceanWindRider,
I've joined StyleLife's challenge; www.stylelife.com. I see where my week 4/5 problems are. Am having difficulty with an interesting opener, DHV, all that. Can do mundane convo's in the daytime. But that does not establish me as dating material. This is my current problem to overcome.
What we going to do with this thread? Seems all of us are stuck in a similar problem as me. We wanna continue this boot camp, close it out and start something focused simply on getting good at opening, then generating enough interest for a # close, or do something else?
I've joined StyleLife's challenge; www.stylelife.com. I see where my week 4/5 problems are. Am having difficulty with an interesting opener, DHV, all that. Can do mundane convo's in the daytime. But that does not establish me as dating material. This is my current problem to overcome.
What we going to do with this thread? Seems all of us are stuck in a similar problem as me. We wanna continue this boot camp, close it out and start something focused simply on getting good at opening, then generating enough interest for a # close, or do something else?
Ive been following this bootcamp since the beginning and am doing my own deaccelerated program (no timelimits, no set amounts)
Its slower but its working and doing the random approach rejection part now ([un?]fortunately i closed the # today)
So in other words, thanks to the instructors/assignment givers. Ill probably join the next one
Its slower but its working and doing the random approach rejection part now ([un?]fortunately i closed the # today)
So in other words, thanks to the instructors/assignment givers. Ill probably join the next one
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
OceanWindRider
Don Juan
Hey, guys, sorry for not posting for a while.
I was at Cliff's list Convention in Montreal.
It was an absolute blast!
It's only $400 if you register in advance and I highly recommend everyone goes next year.
The amount of value is incredible!
I got to meet almost all the top PUGs and get a feel who's about what...
It's awesome!
Then I took a seminar with Cortez (www.badboylifestyle.com) and all the guys there loved it!
so... as for bootcamp... I don't think it's interesting for me anymore..
I've got tons of material to go through from the seminar - mainly go through my notes.
And the most important - I have to really work on my inner game. To define who I am as a man, what do I want in life, what my values and wishes are. This is crucial for the game. Pretty much all PUGs on the convention were talking about this idea.
So this year's convention was not about the openers or techniques, but rather about being authentic, knowing who you really are and projecting it.
I'd probably do a review somewhere on the cliff's list when I have time.
Anyway, StyleLife challenge seems to be really interesting...
Is anybody doing it? How's the progress and the feel about it?
I am thinking of joining, though it's a bit late..
But it seems to be much better than I expected!
I was at Cliff's list Convention in Montreal.
It was an absolute blast!
It's only $400 if you register in advance and I highly recommend everyone goes next year.
The amount of value is incredible!
I got to meet almost all the top PUGs and get a feel who's about what...
It's awesome!
Then I took a seminar with Cortez (www.badboylifestyle.com) and all the guys there loved it!
so... as for bootcamp... I don't think it's interesting for me anymore..
I've got tons of material to go through from the seminar - mainly go through my notes.
And the most important - I have to really work on my inner game. To define who I am as a man, what do I want in life, what my values and wishes are. This is crucial for the game. Pretty much all PUGs on the convention were talking about this idea.
So this year's convention was not about the openers or techniques, but rather about being authentic, knowing who you really are and projecting it.
I'd probably do a review somewhere on the cliff's list when I have time.
Anyway, StyleLife challenge seems to be really interesting...
Is anybody doing it? How's the progress and the feel about it?
I am thinking of joining, though it's a bit late..
But it seems to be much better than I expected!
Thomas94305
Senior Don Juan
I'm into it. Too late to join, but you can go check out the materials there, and do the exercises for yourself. It's GREAT at getting me to confront fears in approaching, and how to construct an approach.. interesting, non-threatening, under her defense radar, etc. I'm almost caught up. Go to the website, and dig through the daily exercises.OceanWindRider said:
TheFlyingMan
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I'm still doing the bootcamp but I'm also stuck at this phase. I have overcome most of my Approach Anxiety, but I can't seem to establish consistent attraction. I can chat, I can have great convos, but does it make the women go all hot and horny for me? Not yet!
I have had a few numbers and they all flake out. I haven't established enough attraction, although I have been getting heaps better at this. Need to work on my fashion as well.
And I've met one of my sticking points - fear of success - the closer I get to another relationship the more I think of my exes and the pain they put me through. Gay, I know, but it is something real that I have to overcome.
I have had a few numbers and they all flake out. I haven't established enough attraction, although I have been getting heaps better at this. Need to work on my fashion as well.
And I've met one of my sticking points - fear of success - the closer I get to another relationship the more I think of my exes and the pain they put me through. Gay, I know, but it is something real that I have to overcome.