"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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BootCamp question - How do I go through public rejection and still keep a reputation?

The Phoenix

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Yo,

MAIN QUESTION - > I know the whole game of picking up has to deal also with one's reputation - How do I go through public rejections and still keep a reputation?

- I am about to experiene 50 weekly rejections, I don't want to be viewed as the pest when I start proaching. (you know, don't want girls to think " ughhh here he comes to try to pick me up too" ) Also among my friends who may presence my continuos rejections.



I am starting my badly adverticed BootCamp today I also need tips with:
1) Approaching girls in a summery environment at Coffee shops, bookstores and out door festibals.
2) how to approach in the beach.
3) How to overcome fear of approaching.

Any tips you may have for someone who is just beginning, like best places to aproach and proven simple strategie.

Yes, I am reading the DJB and yes there is plenty of info there that I am using, I just want to keep motivated and hear how everyone else is making it.

The way I see it, if I don't improve, this efforts will at least give me some crazy stories to tell.

Thank you all
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Master of the Universe

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Don't worry about your reputation.

Short Answer: Don't worry about your reputation.

Long Answer: Don't worry about your reputation. Seriously... don't worry. The only people who will put you down are those who wish they had the guts to make the approach themselves, or girls who are pissed off that you approached another girl instead of them. People who are confident will not put you down, they'll respect you for having the guts to make the attempt - whether or not you succeed.

Secondly, part of overcoming rejection is becoming confident. And part of being confident is that you can take success and failure in stride, without it effecting your self-esteem.

So conclusion, don't worry about your reputation. Make the approach.

Master of the Universe
 

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The Phoenix said:
MAIN QUESTION - > I know the whole game of picking up has to deal also with one's reputation - How do I go through public rejections and still keep a reputation?
You are going to approach strangers on the streets, I fail to see how you are going to have your reputation be damaged since no one will know who you are. You also mentioned that your friends be present?? Why are they present??! Sarge alone.


The Phoenix said:
- I am about to experiene 50 weekly rejections, I don't want to be viewed as the pest when I start proaching. (you know, don't want girls to think " ughhh here he comes to try to pick me up too" )
You do not have the right mindest to do this. You need to read more of the DJ Bible before you do the bootcamp. Why do you feel as if you are to experience 50 weekly rejections??? How do you know you will be rejected before actually doing any approaches?? What makes you so different then other guys who approach and get numbers?? Why aren't they considered to be "pests"???

Change your mindest and have the 'PRIZE' mentality before you sarge because if you think you are going to fail then you will.

DJD
 

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True, my mindset is not the best, I am coming out of a severe case of One-itis of 4 years and battling a little depression. I'll make through though, after all I have nothing left to loose.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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