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Don Juan
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Week 2 Day 2
So I've pretty much dispensed with the daily updates now. I'm just going to update this thread when I feel something is necessary to point out during my journey.
So the good news is I finished Week 1, and completed all the exercises on the second try. But there's no hanging around, as I've gone straight into Week 2. I sit here on the afternoon of the second day. Yesterday, I read all of the material and most of the stuff about how to converse properly just seemed kind of obvious and common sense stuff to me. I've always seen myself as a good conversationalist and a funny guy, so I didn't get as much out of this week's articles as last week's. Then I read the exercise and I remember thinking, "Jeez, this is going to be hard!"
I don't know what happened last night, but I had another one of those great 'everything coming together at once' times. I went to a nightclu last night, and during the course of the bars and clubs managed to start 5 conversations - that's half the weekly total on the first night! It was awesome. I remember thinking this week's exercise looked so daunting, yesterday, but things just came naturally and I was making cold approaches all over the place.
The best thing about it was that four of the five conversations were with HBs! Some highlights: I slid up to a girl who caught my eye at the bar. I don't know what came over me, and I never would have done this before, but I literally knocked into her deliberately, playful like. It came across really well and started instant kino before we even started talking. We started talking about the bar and how busy it was, how she'd been waiting to get served for ages. Out of nowhere, I remembered Style's Five Questions Game that I'd seen him do in a video, and I thought it would be a great thing to play in this situation. The stakes were a drink; the loser of the game would have to buy the winner a drink. If you guys have never heard of this game, it's a really great little routine to build rapport and also enables you some opportunities for kino - as well as creating some more time together afterwards, as you basically never lose and she has to buy YOU a drink! Here's a YouTube video of Style doing the routine: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0aWoN8MvGKw
I actually lost the game this time (only the second time I've ever lost). I think it was down to the loudness of the music and the fact that I had to repeat the final question, thereby giving her more time to think and to spot the trick. Oh well. Fair's fair. But it led to some more conversation afterwards. Her group had to leave that area of the nightclub and I messed up by not number closing! I later saw her from a distance in the food place after I got out of the club, but I failed to make a move. It pissed me off not getting a number close (even though she was a little bit younger than me), but to be honest I was just super happy to be approaching girls out of nowhere - something I'd never done before. Maybe I'll be more inclined to start number closing when I get to that part in the Boot Camp.
It wasn't all positives. Shortly after the above chick left that area of the club, I was still at the bar and brimming with confidence. I could see the social proof just oozing off me, so I decided to start the five questions game with another girl waiting to be served. Bad move. I didn't include this as a complete conversation, as I was basically blown out of the water She had apparently been waiting for ages, looked to be with some guys and they weren't happy about wating for so long so I was in the wrong place at the wrong time. They seemed to think that I'd jumped the line, as I'd just been served, but I didn't realise that until I started the conversation:
ME (leaning towards her): Would you like to win a drink?
HER: What?
ME: Have you ever played the Five Questions Game?
(She gives me a dirty look and a guy near her interjects)
GUY: We've been waiting here 30 minutes!
ME: I've been waiting here at least 40 minutes! (Probably not true.)
(Took my drink and got out of dodge).
But there were other great moments. I got back on my horse. And although most of these conversations that night were started after the introduction of alcohol, I'm still counting them. Had a nice chat with a girl serving in Subway about the benefits of toasted sandwiches versus non-toasted sandwiches. Not to mention chatting up some girls at another bar and getting them to use their feminine skills to buy me a drink. I gave them money for MINE of course, but they stood in line and actually bought me the drink!
So my big sticking point was just taking the conversations further and getting some sort of number close. I know the point of this week's exercise was to just engage any stranger in conversation, but I was taking it further (and getting ready for next week) by approaching HBs. So I'm completing the exercise just fine, but I'm still disappointed that I didn't make more of the opportunties that I'm opening up for myself. But, still, it's great to actually be MAKING these opportunities finally!
So I've pretty much dispensed with the daily updates now. I'm just going to update this thread when I feel something is necessary to point out during my journey.
So the good news is I finished Week 1, and completed all the exercises on the second try. But there's no hanging around, as I've gone straight into Week 2. I sit here on the afternoon of the second day. Yesterday, I read all of the material and most of the stuff about how to converse properly just seemed kind of obvious and common sense stuff to me. I've always seen myself as a good conversationalist and a funny guy, so I didn't get as much out of this week's articles as last week's. Then I read the exercise and I remember thinking, "Jeez, this is going to be hard!"
I don't know what happened last night, but I had another one of those great 'everything coming together at once' times. I went to a nightclu last night, and during the course of the bars and clubs managed to start 5 conversations - that's half the weekly total on the first night! It was awesome. I remember thinking this week's exercise looked so daunting, yesterday, but things just came naturally and I was making cold approaches all over the place.
The best thing about it was that four of the five conversations were with HBs! Some highlights: I slid up to a girl who caught my eye at the bar. I don't know what came over me, and I never would have done this before, but I literally knocked into her deliberately, playful like. It came across really well and started instant kino before we even started talking. We started talking about the bar and how busy it was, how she'd been waiting to get served for ages. Out of nowhere, I remembered Style's Five Questions Game that I'd seen him do in a video, and I thought it would be a great thing to play in this situation. The stakes were a drink; the loser of the game would have to buy the winner a drink. If you guys have never heard of this game, it's a really great little routine to build rapport and also enables you some opportunities for kino - as well as creating some more time together afterwards, as you basically never lose and she has to buy YOU a drink! Here's a YouTube video of Style doing the routine: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0aWoN8MvGKw
I actually lost the game this time (only the second time I've ever lost). I think it was down to the loudness of the music and the fact that I had to repeat the final question, thereby giving her more time to think and to spot the trick. Oh well. Fair's fair. But it led to some more conversation afterwards. Her group had to leave that area of the nightclub and I messed up by not number closing! I later saw her from a distance in the food place after I got out of the club, but I failed to make a move. It pissed me off not getting a number close (even though she was a little bit younger than me), but to be honest I was just super happy to be approaching girls out of nowhere - something I'd never done before. Maybe I'll be more inclined to start number closing when I get to that part in the Boot Camp.
It wasn't all positives. Shortly after the above chick left that area of the club, I was still at the bar and brimming with confidence. I could see the social proof just oozing off me, so I decided to start the five questions game with another girl waiting to be served. Bad move. I didn't include this as a complete conversation, as I was basically blown out of the water She had apparently been waiting for ages, looked to be with some guys and they weren't happy about wating for so long so I was in the wrong place at the wrong time. They seemed to think that I'd jumped the line, as I'd just been served, but I didn't realise that until I started the conversation:
ME (leaning towards her): Would you like to win a drink?
HER: What?
ME: Have you ever played the Five Questions Game?
(She gives me a dirty look and a guy near her interjects)
GUY: We've been waiting here 30 minutes!
ME: I've been waiting here at least 40 minutes! (Probably not true.)
(Took my drink and got out of dodge).
But there were other great moments. I got back on my horse. And although most of these conversations that night were started after the introduction of alcohol, I'm still counting them. Had a nice chat with a girl serving in Subway about the benefits of toasted sandwiches versus non-toasted sandwiches. Not to mention chatting up some girls at another bar and getting them to use their feminine skills to buy me a drink. I gave them money for MINE of course, but they stood in line and actually bought me the drink!
So my big sticking point was just taking the conversations further and getting some sort of number close. I know the point of this week's exercise was to just engage any stranger in conversation, but I was taking it further (and getting ready for next week) by approaching HBs. So I'm completing the exercise just fine, but I'm still disappointed that I didn't make more of the opportunties that I'm opening up for myself. But, still, it's great to actually be MAKING these opportunities finally!