Boot Camp Logbook

[Rasputin]

Fireonthemountain, CaptainJ, thx for the comments!

Yesterday I finished week one with about 55 hellos.
Today I entered week #2 and held a little talk with a cutie who was sitting on a bench outside of university. Plus I made about another 20 hellos.

9 to go...

 

[Rasputin]

Got another 15 hellos yesterday and 1 talk with a cute chick in train in the morning. I'm still feared for a direct approach. I have to work on this.

8 left..

 

[Rasputin]

Ok, first the good news:
- One context hag talk in train to playoff game (ice hockey) in the evening.
- One talk with a Dutch Dude after game
- 8 hellos done during the whole day (wasn't hardly pursuing them)

Tally is at 4, another six to go...

Right after this post I'll go to workout. Let's see if I can have a little talk with someone over there.


Bad news:

- 1 choke at traffic lights
- 1 choke at lunch (cute chick was sitting next to me in mensa, and I wasn't able to ask her which lectures she
was to attend right now)
- 1 choke at railway station after playoff. Cute chick was standing there and waiting for the train, but I didn't
know what to say

Lessons:

- I'm much less tensed and MUCH more relaxed than the first time of the bootcamp, which is a very positive
development, because I think that you can only have fun approaching women, if you stay cool.
- I realized that it is easier to approach hags (ugly women in general) than hotties. Interesting observatioin hm?
My intention is, that this depends to the indepency from the outcome of the conversation when you talk to
ugly girls
- Another huge improving point for me is cold approaching:
I have no problem in context approaching. But when it comes to cold approaches I have a huge problem. At the
moment I can't imagine that, when I see a hot chick, I propel my feet over and start a convo by saying: "Hey
you look interesting/nice/friendly/whatever. What's your name?"
I really have to work on this point...


Biggest improving point:

- I have to concentrate myself more on leaving my comfort zone, in order to make the necessary improvements!

 

[Rasputin]

Report about the last two days:


Before yesterday:

Went to gym directly after posting here on sosuave. Unfortunately there wasn't a lot of people in there. Started an ultra short restrained convo with a dude in there who entered the room 10 minutes later. I don't count that as a convo.
Later I was at work and talked with a new employee at break. I don't count that as a convo also because I didn't have to break out of my comfort zone.


Yesterday:

I was working the whole day. Evening was awesome. Went out to a students party of my faculty. There, I got about 7-8 interesting approaches and convos with one number close. Not the result of the night is awesome, but the way I acted like: I was in a great mood, gave a 5hit what others were thinking of me, I had great social proof and had a lot of fun with my mates. --> This is exactly the attitude I ought to have in mind generally!
I don't want to write down the convos here, but there were quite ok. I also realized that I should ask more for phone numbers. Each possibility in asking for a phone number, should be taken...

For this evening, I count 5 convos. So there's still 1 to go 'til week 2 is finished.

 

[Rasputin]

Allright, finished week #2 today. Got a nice little convo with a dude in the gym. Tomorrow I'll start with week #2.

Stay tuned

 

[Rasputin]

My insight

Alright, I started in week #2 last tuesday. I absolutely wanted to talk only with cute chicks, preferably by cold approaches.
But there we got the problem located: Due to my fear of rejection and my poor self confidence, doing cold approaches is (still) a hard thing for me. So I started doing a few talks with chicks with the intention of banging them and I felt that they weren't very interested in me. That cr4p beat my ego down once more. Why so? Because when I talk to a girl I put myself in vulnerability, because of my fear of rejection. And when the girl doesn't honors that, I'm quite pissed of. In addition I absolutely wants to Fck once again. I'm honest: I didn't fcked a chick since 1 year. So on thursday my motivation for doing the bootcamp was zero. But today I'm on the track back.

So today, the tally is at 2. One talk on a bench in front of university with a chick and another yesterday evening after ice hockey final. They both weren't very interested and I think I acted geeky and not confident.

So first, I wanted to post here a thread, where I wanted to ask you guys for advice on my inner game (I know sometimes it sucks), because of the "imaginated rejections" of the talkings with chicks. But later on, I thought that nobody, can teach myself how to behave in inner game and that I have to do the failures by myself and learning from it. So I'll ask later in the forum when I still won't get any success later on. But therefore I need a lot of time to improve myself first and facing my fear of rejection.

It looks like I have big issue with my inner game and have loads to learn...

8 to go

Rasp...

 

[Rasputin]

Back on track!

Alright after losing my motivation as described above I'm back now.
Week 2 is on and the tally is at 4.


6 to go...