boost sucess rate via facebook

[itishe]

Ive been using facebook to try to set up dates with girls in different social circles that ive met at parties who've added me and past highschool girls.

Im having mixed results which tells me im not doing something optimally or just running at par.

for instance past girl from highschool is home on college break. My buddy tells me she asked if i was still with my ex in a conversation. I shoot her a message saying we should get some lunch and catch up. Day later:

she replies "sorry just read this now! How long are you home for?"

Me: "late january, blah blah how about you"

Her: "jan 23rd"

Me: lets do something this week how does tuesday work for you mrs. Johnson?

Then bam no replies. Stuff like this is 50/50 for me. Some meet up, the others just stop talking after showing some interest.

Maybe just nature of facebook?

 

[ARrocket]

Facebook is like real life...you gotta develop some attraction before you can make your move, otherwise, you'll fail.

What I usually do is start off with a nice C&F comment on one of their statuses or pictures or something. And then leave it alone for like a week or so. Or sometimes I poke them. They'll poke back, and then I'll leave it alone. Gotta get them thinking about you, even if only very briefly.

Ok, so now you're (hopefully) relevant. Then, I'll wait until they're online. Find some B.S. reason to talk to them...something I've always fallen back on is mention how I had a dream that they were in (describe the activity you were doing...I usually try to make it innocent but the way I describe it comes off as mildly sexual. And make sure to tell them how awesome it was, whatever you were doing).

Anyway, that's just what I do, but you get the idea. Build some attraction, THEN get the number. Just get the number, don't try to set something up over Facebook.

 

[Pierce]

I deleted my facebook for that sole reason alone. I used to get lazy sometimes. Never be lazy. It also adds mystery to you.

 

[itishe]

ill keep this in mind. Im experimenting with a few different things but seeing the shield go down on ones who i message/chat with a bit first. Be it bringing up a funny experience we had, etc.

Ill try that dream thing out next time and see how it goes.

Facebook is like real life...you gotta develop some attraction before you can make your move, otherwise, you'll fail.

What I usually do is start off with a nice C&F comment on one of their statuses or pictures or something. And then leave it alone for like a week or so. Or sometimes I poke them. They'll poke back, and then I'll leave it alone. Gotta get them thinking about you, even if only very briefly.

Ok, so now you're (hopefully) relevant. Then, I'll wait until they're online. Find some B.S. reason to talk to them...something I've always fallen back on is mention how I had a dream that they were in (describe the activity you were doing...I usually try to make it innocent but the way I describe it comes off as mildly sexual. And make sure to tell them how awesome it was, whatever you were doing).

Anyway, that's just what I do, but you get the idea. Build some attraction, THEN get the number. Just get the number, don't try to set something up over Facebook.[/


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[Jeffst1980]

Facebook is like real life...you gotta develop some attraction before you can make your move, otherwise, you'll fail.

What I usually do is start off with a nice C&F comment on one of their statuses or pictures or something. And then leave it alone for like a week or so. Or sometimes I poke them. They'll poke back, and then I'll leave it alone. Gotta get them thinking about you, even if only very briefly.

Ok, so now you're (hopefully) relevant. Then, I'll wait until they're online. Find some B.S. reason to talk to them...something I've always fallen back on is mention how I had a dream that they were in (describe the activity you were doing...I usually try to make it innocent but the way I describe it comes off as mildly sexual. And make sure to tell them how awesome it was, whatever you were doing).

Anyway, that's just what I do, but you get the idea. Build some attraction, THEN get the number. Just get the number, don't try to set something up over Facebook.

The big stumbling block is that face to face interaction is the only thing that builds gut-level attraction. It's worth a shot trying to get her interested online, but a lot of times there's a disconnect between attraction on facebook and attraction in real life. Don't ask for the date via a facebook message- that's the lowest priority means of communication. Get their number and either text or call.

More often than not, allowing her to have access to your facebook page will do more harm than good, so I'd avoid adding girls right away unless you have A LOT of social proof online.