"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Vulpine
Master Don Juan
Instead, I read how-to books or books about a specific subject. For example, I'm reading a series of books called "Foxfire". It's is packed with how-to things like building a log cabin from scratch, making moonshine, smoking meat, and other things that mountain people do to survive/live. I've also just finished reading a book about morel mushrooms and ginseng. And, I've read a few books about extended orgasm.
I read for self-improvement. Like lifting weights to be stronger, I read to become smarter (or at least know how to do more).
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
Yotsuya-san
Senior Don Juan
What's wrong with fiction and fantasy? The best often contains social commentary about our society.Vulpine said:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Read Fight Club and Choke by Chuck Pahalaniuk (sp?) because I enjoy his philosophy and self-depricating humor.
Read(ing) Atlas Shrugged and Fountainhead because I enjoy her meanings and philosophy, above and beyond objectivism. Many of her characters epitomize what we encounter and society, and she provides the reader with mental fodder to wage the battles we wage daily.
Read Stuart Wilde, because his ideas and thoughts on the ego, spirituality, taoism, elements of buddhism, are very succinct and powerful. Silent Power. Infinite Self. The Watercourse Way.
Read a book signed by Jack Welch.
Read Tony Robbins. All of his stuff is wonderful, and despite being 500 pages, none of its fluff. He's one of the tops, because few self improvement guru's can write so much and actually keep giving value throughout the books.
Read Matt Furey and his Combat Conditioning and Combat Abs books. Deal mostly with lifting involving body-only workouts. They rarely get boring, and since you find yourself in most of those positions daily, you end up conditining yourself better for daily life, athletic sports, and endurance.
Read Robery Kiyosaki, at least for the "concept". I've never made the mistake many readers of requiring him to be anything more than he is, a concept salesman. He isn't giving you the fish, he gives you the road and shows you how to fish.
Read Og Mandino. He's also a great inspirational writer. His book the Success University (or University of Success) and the Greatest Salesman in the World are wonders of inspiration, and to me, the person looking for inner strength, to ignore the outer world and succeed need such tools.
I enjoy the books commented on by Vulpine. Useful information is rare. I'd like to find some info on building a home (Time Life Series), just to create my own cab from scratch. Also, a book on making my own bar. I intend to get books on guns and ammunition, as I am applying to get my license for sport.
A-Unit
flippinfreak
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(sp=)Palahniuk, Chuck... I watched the movie for the first time a few weeks back. No clue why I haven't gone to the library and made a request for it!!!A-Unit said:
Stuart Wilde, seems cool, going to read a few of those.
Totse.com one of my favourite websites on the entire web has an article on self improvement by Og Mandino. Thanks for dropping the name A-Unit. http://www.totse.com/en/ego/self_improvement/17rules.htmlAs for information, I'm with Bible_belt, there isn't a single book in production these days that hasn't been scanned, copied, iterated, or conceptualized on the internet.
PS Matt Furey is so out of shape.
Vulpine
Master Don Juan
Let me clarify:Yotsuya-san said:
I don't read for entertainment. I read to kill time.
For me, reading about something is far less entertaining than doing it.
Take for example this site. I read this stuff at work, while killing time and getting paid. Now, I could very well hang out in some cartoon website or pop-culture site. However, those things have no value and are of little use to me. So, I chose a more productive or beneficial subject to read about.
Fiction and fantasy seem to me to be (mostly) enjoyed by people with boring lives with nothing better to do than read. Their lives are so mundane, they escape into the reality of a book for entertainment and a vacation from their boring lives. Then, converse with other people who's lives are equally as boring and mundane about the latest book they've read. They really don't have much else to talk about since their fat a55 was sitting on the couch reading by themselves all day.
diablo
Master Don Juan
Here's just a few results:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/search.php?searchid=60217
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