Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Books to read in the absence of a father

Drowsy Medicine

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I find it very confusing to understand why some guys look weak, why some guys are the most valuable in the group etc. I feel like guys who had fathers would have some idea of these things.

I'm on track to developing my skills as a male among females, but the other side of the coin is being a male among males.

I'm reading the Rational Male by Rollo Tomasi and as I was reading it I thought about how awesome it would be if somebody detailed the practical psychology of how males socialise with each other.

Any book ideas?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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My dad used to make my hair stand on end when he screamed.

When he would leave me with his mother it was a joke! At age 5 I was beyond her control, but my dad scared me until I was about 19. He's still with me thank God.

My mentor (a man 20 years my senior who I met in 1996 and changed my life in an instant - no homo) recommended a "reading list" featuring Carlos Castaneda "Journey to Ixtlan", "The Shining" and "Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance". Also, Pook's writings here are great. Doc Love, Robert Greene and Coach Corey Wayne also.
 

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Nothing to Lose, Everything to Gain by Ryan Blair.

Good book about success and determination from a young guy with a deadbeat dad and a divorced mom who made it.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Having a father has nothing to do with UNDERSTANDING it. It's mostly about your overall social skills and understanding of social dynamics that will help you get it.
 

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I would history, philosophy, poetry. You don't need to
read on how males "socialize" with each other. Human behaviour is unpredictable. Even if you've read every book out there on how humans interact with each other, some guy with more experience is going to make your head spin.

Go out there and get your own experience, and read some factual books. :)
 

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Psalms 27, 35 etc.
 

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Mm yes and no. If u looked up a generic response to a sh1t test and an AMOG that would stand u in good stead. And I do mean generic trying to memorize dozens of snappy lines will be useless.

My standard line for s*** tests
is meh.. with a slight shoulder shrug and a Smirk. And then change the topic so you don't get in a ping ping exchange.

I ve never been that great dealing with AMOGs so I'll let the guys kick in with a couple of generic tactics.

even if it doesn't look smooth any fightback well at least prove you are not a pvssy

And of course even the simplest tricks won't mean squat without getting out there.
 

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To stray away from the DJ focused books. I'm gonna say that 2 that influenced me the most have to be be The Prince & The Art of War.

Both are quite short, and have conceived thousands of "business" & "power" books, that all stem from the original ideologies of these 2.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Starting Strength by Mark Rippetoe
https://www.youtube.com/user/AasgaardCo

No More Mr Nice Guy
Rober Glover

The Way of Men Jack Donovan
(what is masculinity?) Jack Donovan
(Julien RSD: masculinity)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5oWEefexcaE

Iron John by Robert Bly
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ThsevaCfTnA&list=PLOO-PWMoTt-8pc_LVYSXb0rSU9G1-MAeh
(Robert Bly a gathering of Men)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TP3HWLIL1Aw

King, Warrior, Magician, Lover by Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette
(audiobook)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v1JhMux6AZo
(archytypal images of King and Warrior)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hYxNprRHMx0
(archytypal images of the Magician and Lover)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z5dZD_4n7W8

The Way of the Superior Man David Deida
(full audiobook)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HnaYROIzsus
(animated book review)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8JPV43NCakY
(relationship advice animated)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HTY8mzlwQNg
(how to find your life purpose in 15minutes RSD Tyler)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qlDWhsPigjo
(RSD Tyler boundaries and purpose)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PPpIGQ9ZWFw

Man's Search For Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl
(animated book review)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lSRYCc7ApHc
(interview Victor Frankl)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LlC2OdnhIiQ
(Tyler RSD : Rise from a pit)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GGp25fn25Cs

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey
(animated audio book review)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ktlTxC4QG8g
(Stephen Covey on choosing success))
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U8LM4C1l70U
(Stephen Covey Uni lecture)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-XUmPKxDXfg

the art of public speaking dale carnegie
(audiobook)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ge-ctn_xqRw
(unabriged audiobook)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P71TabigOiU
(Julien RSD old school public speaking)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ETy7i0kotFw
(Julien RSD freedom from outcome)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ylYGcVjsJGk
(Tyler RSD: tyler's secret to instantly boost masculine energy)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZYIeD-Fr9do

Meditations by Marcus Aurelius
(animated review)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lM6OtqGzlNA

(full audiobook)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yXcmkSqAqTI

The Art of Worldly Wisdom by Baltasar Gracian
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gCAp2Mty8Q8


The Art of War by Sun Tzu
(full audiobook)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X7rhovBK_eA
(animated book review)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BOLXv3nqDkI

Niccolò Machiavelli
(the prince animated book review)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9SSV6mwPfTI

(The Prince full audio)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FsijAJcwmXc
(bbc documentary)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l_nD_z7nlq4
 
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