"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Booked a trip from California to Florida to see girl I met online, she flakes.

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Is it possible you can leave early for a partial refund or something?

Man, your situation isn't that bad. You have two weeks to live it up, do what you want in a popular vacation spot, lots of girls, near spring break, nobody to answer to. If I was in your shoes I'd already be trolling the local POF/OKC girls, meeting Women out on the town, visiting some local tourist attractions, you name it. If anyone asks, you're on business; dress nice and conjure up some fairy-tale that will make the 'ginas tingle. Women love high-value men on business. I normally don't condone dishonesty either, but in your situation, oh well.

It's all what you make of it. You can go out and try, have some fun, or sit on here sulking.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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calitoflorida said:
Has anyone ever had this happen to them
Nope I think you top the charts in the section of desperate and stupid

BTW depending of what parts of Florida you are at, there are a LOT of colleges all over that place that party hard..(Florida State, University of Florida, Florida International, Florida Atlantic, Miami U)....plus besides schools there are a ton of women out there in general...its like an east coast Cali...

Go out and try to bang some chicks, dont spend your vacation sitting on this site talking to a bunch of dudes....
were not going to hold your hand and make you feel better
 

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calitoflorida said:
"Unbeknown to them, women do this because they are selfish. To avoid their own discomfort they will be polite and accept an invite with absolutely no plans of ever following through."

does the dj bible say anythin about women saying they "they love me" and then not following through. so she is saying she loved me to be polite? this was clearly malicious and cruel.
Words dont mean chit. Now if she flew to you instead and didnt even ask for help paying it then they might mean something.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Enough bashing, guys. OP, you've gotten good advice already. Listen and take action unless you want your butt to continue being chewed in here.
 

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Geez some of you are beyod gullible. The guy flew from Cali to Florida and got stood up, and during his stay in Florida he starts an account on sosuave to discuss this? Get real

I would criticize you for a very weak troll job, but since so many bought this trash I guess I applaud you
 

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bradd80 said:
lol come on incognito, it sounds plausible to me. AFC to the extreme, but still plausible. I mean a troll wouldn't bother to read all the stuff i wrote about flaky women and then quote a sentence from there that really hit home.
The most logical explanation is that the troll is you :D
 

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calitoflorida said:
Has anyone ever had this happen to them

No, you always make them come to you first. I met a girl online in Jan. from vegas. Had a week trip there fully covered by work, for sales meetings. Hung out with her every night, banged last night of trip.

Kept in touch, and she wanted me to visit again. Told her it was her turn. She booked a trip almost a month later. Her flight back to Vegas was sunday. I havent had that much sex in one week in a long ass time. I'm exhausted :cheer:
 

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CAT.FISH.
and even if it's a girl, she has absolutely zero interest in you. You're move is as desperate as it gets.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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bradd80 said:
bokanovsky, don't be ridiculous you know very well i'm one of the major posters here on SS what would I have to gain by trolling stupid threads like this?
This wouldn't be the first or last time a SS regular decided to have some fun under a different name. Besides, it's not like you've never engaged in, um, creative writing before (I've read your sexual escapades journal ;) )
 

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What do you mean? You don't believe my journal? Half of the stories I don't get laid, and a lot of the stories actually make me look bad. Why don't you believe them, is it that hard to believe that a guy is actually getting laid?

The funny thing is, absolutely 100% of that journal is true. And yet I still have guys PM'ing me asking if it is.

The stories in there aren't that far out, I don't know why some of you have a tough time believing them.
Your journal is an entertaining read, but at times you take it a little too far, which takes away from its realism. One obvious example is you having anal sex...on the first date...with every other chick that you meet! Another example is you claiming to be a lawyer working at a large downtown Toronto law firm...and then going into a rather explicit report of your date with a secretary at your firm (with whom you naturally have anal sex...) You even go as far as posting her picture. If the story was true and the secretary in question stumbled upon your post, it would have been the end of your career. Lawyers tend to be cautious people who generally aren't prone to such reckless antics. Overall, you get an A for creativity but a C- minus for realism.
 
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Your journal is an entertaining read, but at times you take it a little too far, which takes away from its realism. One obvious example is you having anal sex...on the first date...with every other chick that you meet! Another example is you claiming to be a lawyer working at a large downtown Toronto law firm...and then going into a rather explicit report of your date with a secretary at your firm (with whom you naturally have anal sex...) You even go as far as posting her picture. If the story was true and the secretary in question stumbled upon your post, it would have been the end of your career. Lawyers tend to be cautious people who generally aren't prone to such reckless antics. Overall, you get an A for creativity but a C- minus for realism.
If this is true, everything bradd80 has said about BK fries better than McDonalds is absolutely faux. Wake up people.
 

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incognito42 said:
Geez some of you are beyod gullible. The guy flew from Cali to Florida and got stood up, and during his stay in Florida he starts an account on sosuave to discuss this? Get real

I would criticize you for a very weak troll job, but since so many bought this trash I guess I applaud you

Good call incognito, I said the same thing when I read it.

Hey Bradd, are you lying to us? Why did you write a whole novel in your defense? Is there a small case load down at the Law Firm?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Slickster said:
Single guy in Florida with nothing to do. Sounds like fun to me.
Just to note that in Florida you can do almost anything you want in a strip club... full contact is a green light in sunny FLA...

Just putting that out there...

I was almost killed when I visited my first strip club outside florida
 

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SgtSplacker said:
Just to note that in Florida you can do almost anything you want in a strip club... full contact is a green light in sunny FLA...

Just putting that out there...

I was almost killed when I visited my first strip club outside florida

LOL! Yeah man that must only be FLA, because here up north if you touch the strippers you're in for a beating. I need to head down to Florida again ...
 

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Obvious troll but, if you're guy contemplating the thought of travelling cross-country for a "girl" you met online, then you're a fucking idiot who deserves to be taken advantage of.

And in the REMOTE case that this is indeed real, either make the best of the current situation or feel sorry for yourself and cry over your spilled milk.

Or next time, get her to pay for your ticket! :D
 
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SgtSplacker said:
Just to note that in Florida you can do almost anything you want in a strip club... full contact is a green light in sunny FLA...

Just putting that out there...

I was almost killed when I visited my first strip club outside florida

That was prolly a skanky strip club. Touching the strippers is a no go, unless you pay them for something on the side.

I'm in the strip club Capitol of the country in Tampa lol
 

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chill out man, you seem really mad and defensive. I hope you don't get this angry in court. I wasn't talking about any of your field reports. In fact, I have never read them. Why do you automatically assume that I was talking about your field reports? I was referring to this below

Bokanovsky said:
The most logical explanation is that the troll is you :D
He claimed that you were the troll and I was asking you that question. Why would you think I was talking about your field reports?


bradd80 said:
Believe whatever you want, i couldn't possibly care any less.
You do care because you wrote a chapter in your defense and you are being defensive again. You also edited this post at least twice. You had added more to it last night after your first response after I read it. I was out of posts so I couldn't reply. You then edited it again this morning and took stuff out. If you didn't care then why are you being so thorough in editing this post? Personally I don't care at all about any of this but you are going all out. Why?


bradd80 said:
Despite what you think about lawyers, our lives and existence don't revolve around a "case load." We do actually have free time for hobbies such as fvcking women and posting about it on SS.
I was just asking if you have a small case load. What is wrong with that? That's great that you have a lot of free time to post on SS


bradd80 said:
I find it ironic that some ppl don't believe my field reports, they're just stories of me getting laid (10 girls over a 1.5 year period) sorry to break it to you but it does happen.. but what can you do jealous guys with no sex life are always gonna b*tch.
I've never read them so I didn't know any of your stories. Thanks for telling me the number though LOL. Why are you being so defensive about it? You should be proud of your stories that you wrote.

bradd80 said:
I wrote ten sentences, and that's a novel? I also wrote what was on my mind, which is the entire purpose of the SS forum. If you got a problem with that, too fvcking bad you can suck my d1ck :moon:
You are certainly taking great care in getting your message across for someone that doesn't care. You edited your post so it was more than ten sentences. I agree that this is purpose of the forum. Why are you being so defensive and angry over an honest question? Weird
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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