Hey guys,
So I booked and planned a trip that I'll be taking for myself. I have only traveled to Mexico and Cuba and I've decided I've spent too many years throwing money away and not seeing the world. So last summer I made a bucket list and on it was cape town. I'm going for 2 weeks this summer, and I'm doing tons of stuff I've always wanted to do. Shark diving, safari, everything. I've been with my gf for 3 years and at first she was sad and disappointed that I'd be going by myself but she came to understand that it's my life and my goals and she supports it. She can't afford to go and I don't have another 3500 to pay for her to either, not that I would, I see it as her responsibility to save for the things she would like to do or experience. Anyway, I posted my excitement on FB and caught a whirlwind of bs from her family since I'm not going with her. Last August I flew myself to Denver to catch a baseball game and just to spend some time on my own, I thoroughly enjoyed it. But her family was upset and actually angry, how can I go somewhere without her. Haha she goes about an hour out of town to visit them regularly for the weekend and I don't go, but I can't go for 3 days somewhere, the only difference is I was in another country. It's causing massive problems, because she feels caught in the middle with their opinions, and I basically told them to go F themselves as its not their place to control my life. I wouldn't cheat on her, I am going to live my life to the fullest which I don't feel I've done to this point. She doesn't agree with them, but she also says they're her family and they just care about her, and they are uncomfortable with it because it's not something they'd do. I'm firm in my beliefs now that I won't let a woman dictate my life and what I do with it, but this is definitely bothering me
So I booked and planned a trip that I'll be taking for myself. I have only traveled to Mexico and Cuba and I've decided I've spent too many years throwing money away and not seeing the world. So last summer I made a bucket list and on it was cape town. I'm going for 2 weeks this summer, and I'm doing tons of stuff I've always wanted to do. Shark diving, safari, everything. I've been with my gf for 3 years and at first she was sad and disappointed that I'd be going by myself but she came to understand that it's my life and my goals and she supports it. She can't afford to go and I don't have another 3500 to pay for her to either, not that I would, I see it as her responsibility to save for the things she would like to do or experience. Anyway, I posted my excitement on FB and caught a whirlwind of bs from her family since I'm not going with her. Last August I flew myself to Denver to catch a baseball game and just to spend some time on my own, I thoroughly enjoyed it. But her family was upset and actually angry, how can I go somewhere without her. Haha she goes about an hour out of town to visit them regularly for the weekend and I don't go, but I can't go for 3 days somewhere, the only difference is I was in another country. It's causing massive problems, because she feels caught in the middle with their opinions, and I basically told them to go F themselves as its not their place to control my life. I wouldn't cheat on her, I am going to live my life to the fullest which I don't feel I've done to this point. She doesn't agree with them, but she also says they're her family and they just care about her, and they are uncomfortable with it because it's not something they'd do. I'm firm in my beliefs now that I won't let a woman dictate my life and what I do with it, but this is definitely bothering me
