I hope this isn't old news already, but I was just flipping through a copy of 'Marry Him' by Lori Gottlieb.
Basically, the point of the book is that modern women (well, middle-class educated women anyway) are 'spoiled for choice' when it comes to guys. They have so many men worshiping them that they start to believe that they can have exactly what they want all the time. The result is that they start rejecting men for completely trivial reasons ('he's a few inches too short' 'he likes to make puns' etc etc.) So they end up either alone or unhappy in their LTRs because they always feel they could do better.
Men, by contrast, aren't half as picky. If most guys find a nice, attractive girl who has the same basic values as they do, they'll probably settle down and be happy. Statistically, men are happier in their marriages and only half as likely to initiate divorce.
She also touches specifically on the DJ/AFC dynamic (though she calls them alpha males and nice guys). She advises women to date DJs until their early 30s and then settle down with an AFC for life.
While I think she has some points about women being overly picky and making themselves unhappy, I wish she were harder on men for letting this happen. She never tells men to change and become less accommodating to women's egos, she just tells them to be patient and eventually (after the DJs have fvcked your future wife for about 20 years) they'll realize their mistake and come back to you. Bleh.
Basically, the point of the book is that modern women (well, middle-class educated women anyway) are 'spoiled for choice' when it comes to guys. They have so many men worshiping them that they start to believe that they can have exactly what they want all the time. The result is that they start rejecting men for completely trivial reasons ('he's a few inches too short' 'he likes to make puns' etc etc.) So they end up either alone or unhappy in their LTRs because they always feel they could do better.
Men, by contrast, aren't half as picky. If most guys find a nice, attractive girl who has the same basic values as they do, they'll probably settle down and be happy. Statistically, men are happier in their marriages and only half as likely to initiate divorce.
She also touches specifically on the DJ/AFC dynamic (though she calls them alpha males and nice guys). She advises women to date DJs until their early 30s and then settle down with an AFC for life.
While I think she has some points about women being overly picky and making themselves unhappy, I wish she were harder on men for letting this happen. She never tells men to change and become less accommodating to women's egos, she just tells them to be patient and eventually (after the DJs have fvcked your future wife for about 20 years) they'll realize their mistake and come back to you. Bleh.
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