Boldness Trumps Nervousness

[bigneil]

The other day I was at a Tilted Kilt (a Hooters style place with better food) and my waitress (who is my favorite there but only 20) was fuming over "some off duty strippers at the bar who think they are so hot". That was my cue. I went over to where they were seated and asked my waitress (who was also serving them) if she wouldn't mind tugging on one of the girl's obnoxiously shredded pant threads. As she did (weakly, while glaring at me) the girl with the shredded pants looked at me (as if to reject me but her eyes lit up) and she said "does this do it for you?" and I said yes. She invited me to sit with her. I did (while reminding my waitress that I still loved her the most).

Quickly after I was seated next to her she commented how I seemed fidgety and nervous (which I genuinely did not feel despite the fact she looked like Kaylee Linn Karter) but I worked through it (the highlight being when I nearly pulled her off her chair by her pant threads) and got her phone number.

Anyhow, I passed the audition and the we ended up going on dates the next two nights. We randomly spent the night together on our second date when I randomly asked her to get a hotel. In the wee hours I asked her what it was about me that did it for her (always ask this and share it here).

She said the key was my boldness in approaching her, it was the confidence I showed despite my obvious nervousness.

The moral is, if you make a bold approach, you will have a certain amount of leeway regarding your inevitable jitters, so don't think you need to be 100% smooth.

 

[fastlife]

I worked at a TK for a couple years...talk about redpill lol. Damn near turned asexual.

That said, you can probably pretty easily run thru the staff there. The females get so used to ruthlessly competing for male attention (which is monetized and abundant enough to totally wreck a hamster). If you hook up with one girl, the rest'll all be trying to get a piece so that another girl can't one up them--seen it happen 100 times. Have a couple older buddies who absolutely clean it up there.

 

[zekko]

She said the key was my boldness in approaching her, it was the confidence I showed despite my obvious nervousness.

First off, I recall you recently saying you were done with strippers, Bigneil. Didn't believe it when you said it, and I see I was correct

Your statement in bold seems to contradict itself. Nervousness is generally the opposite of confidence. But if a chick likes you, she will admire your guts in doing something even if it makes you nervous. If she doesn't like you, she'll just reject you for being nervous. Girls do like bold action though, it's a definitively masculine and not feminine trait. Personally, I think she liked that you noticed her jeans.

 

[bigneil]

Picking up a stripper at the strip club is one thing, but always suspect. Picking up a stripper who is off duty at a regular bar (let alone a Hooters) is another thing entirely. (She is currently asleep on my couch btw).

Tonight we met at the meeting place and got the same waitress. You should have seen her expression when she realized we had since become a couple.

 

[bigneil]

When you throw yourself into the ring, it's normal to feel jitters, especially when they turn out to be better than you thought.

I did however contradict my normal routine of only approaching when I get strong buying signals.